My boyfriend tells me he loves me, and I love him too. For a somewhat young relationship (we're 22 and have been together only several months) we're pretty serious. However, we became long distance, and even though he was always like this, I'm starting to notice that he has been a bit insensitive to my feelings. He has a tendency to make jokes about everyone, but when he jokes about me I get upset especially when he jokingly calls me ugly (he says it's "obviously a joke" because I'm "so pretty", but I don't see myself that way so it's not funny to me). Sometimes when I get upset about these comments, he tells me I'm taking it too serious and "being wimpy". The only thing is, I always picture other people's relationships as just two people planning romantic surprises and showering each other with compliments, and it bothers me that he's not like that. He's said romantic things to me before, but it's not constant, and although he's taken me on vacation once and we've gone out to nice dinners before, he has never planned some sort of extravagant surprise. Is this normal? Does it mean he doesn't love me? Sometimes he's willing to talk about his emotions or our relationship but I think I bring it up so often that he's reluctant to talk about it.
His jokes make me feel like he doesn't love me!
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