Why didn’t she tell me she had a boyfriend when I asked her out?

[Anonymous]

So back in February I asked a classmate of mine out for a coffee date. She texted me back the next day saying “she graduated from school and is at home lol”. So I thought about it for a few days then texted her asking if “she lived out of state because I live in etc.” She saw the text the next day but didn’t reply so I took it as she’s not interested. However in March just a couple of days ago before my bday, i stumbled across her account on social media and her latest video is her going to the movies holding hands with her boyfriend. I was shocked because she didn’t tell me she was in a relationship when I asked her out. Because as far as I know girls would either directly or indirectly mention they’re dating someone but this girl didn’t. Why didn’t she tell me straight up she had a boyfriend already instead of using another excuse to reject me and then ultimately ignore me?

[NostalgiaSenpi]

I had a woman accept a date and then told me the day before that she had a boyfriend that she didn't talk to for a month and didn't want to cheat. To me, someone that omits something is worse than outright lying. I cancelled and haven't talked to her in five years. Best is to move on.

[Asker]

You’re right. I might’ve dodged a bullet. I can’t imagine if her boyfriend founds out (if ever) how he’d feel about her not mentioning him when being asked out by another guy.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I'm in the opposite position. I asked girl out who said she did have a boyfriend but she still said yes.
Women are strange my friend. We'll never know why they do certain things

[Asker]

Do you think attraction plays a role? Because prior to this we always had friendly conversations and I caught her staring at me multiple times in class or in the cafeteria.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Oh I think it definitely does lol

[Asker]

So can I send you a selfie of myself? Because I’ve been told I look like i’m 17-18 rather than 22 (today is my birthday as well)

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Happy birthday
Go for it

[Asker]

Thank you but I’m not a level 2 on this website so I can’t dm you. Do you have a reddit account because I’ll send a selfie there if you do?

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Yeah I do
u/jpickup95

[Manny_2003]

Girls like that can be mess up and not care what they do. Very much try to move on from it.

[Asker]

Thank you for the advice. What’s worse is the fact that she implied in the first text that if she was still in school or if I asked her out last semester she would’ve went out with me