Like what if I say that I’ve got it, and then she says, are you sure? And then I say yes. I feel like that’s not much of a protest. So how much should she have to push until you agree to split it? And also as a rule of thumb I feel like if you let me pay for dinner without much of a protest if I want to that’s kind of a greenlight to try to kiss you afterwards?
In particular, if she makes about as much money as me, or even more money, or if she picks the place we are eating at.
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If I'm not sure by the end of the date, I'll grab the check, say something like "c'mon let me take care of the first check"
Whats actually a good little test to do sometimes is to just leave it there. If she acknowledges it immediately, it means either she's an anxious type or she's thinking there's no way in hell she's paying.
If she leaves it there and keeps glancing at it but she's leading or greatly participating in the conversation, it's a good sign she at least cares about your opinion of her. Maybe she wants to pay but can't afford it or she's worried you're a bum. But it's definitely a sign she's got a more subtle approach at things and she's moderately self aware.
All in all, so far as the first date goes I think both sides should care more about how the situation is handles more than anything else.
Half the time the women I meet make more money than I do and I do pretty decent
Two adults can work this out easily. If she relents and you pay the whole check, no, that is not a greenlight for anything.