Would you be ok seeing a woman casually if she had a child? I have been seeing a guy for the past 5 weeks. It’s a friends with benefits situation. I decided to tell him via text last week that I had a child. I sent the message but deleted if 10 mins later. Then wrote sorry I sent the message to the wrong person. He later replied, it’s ok to be honest you have kids. There is nothing wrong with you having a child. I said ok, that’s good then. This was last Thursday and he hasn’t replied since. I even sent him a message a few hours ago but no reply.
I would have zero problem with dating a woman who had a child. Friends with benefits would be perfectly fine.
I don't think I could get serious about her, though, if she was raising it, only because I never wanted the responsibility of kids. I never wanted to be a father, let alone a step father. I never even wanted to date women who had a pet dog because they are a full time responsibility and are around the house all the time.
The best girlfriend I ever had, though, was 30 when I was 36. She was amazing in every way. We lived together for over a year and I loved her with all my heart.
She had had a really rough childhood that messed her up. Sexually abused by her step father for years, beginning at a young age. She became an alcoholic. She got married and had a son when she was 17. She got divorced a few years later and gave up custody to the father who lived out of state. But her son, visited her on holidays and during summer vacation.
By the time I met her, she had totally turned herself around.
I had zero problem with the fact that she had a child as long as he didn't live with her all the time. Plus, he was a really nice young man.
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Casually... sure. I wouldn't ever want to date her seriously though, unless he was just the perfect woman, and had very good reasons for being a single mother.
I think maybe he didn't like you that much, was cool with just hooking up. Then you started putting out the vibes that you were starting to "care" more. Even you asking this question makes it pretty obvious you are catching feelings.
So you threw out some personal info, that really should have been discussed before by both of you and immediately took it back, and tried to cover it up. Basically, you were ashamed of your child, or how it would make you look to him. And instead of owning it, you tried to hide it like a child would.
If I wasn't that into you, I would use this all as a reason to stop seeing you. You made it weird. You want it to be casual, but he knows that if he keeps seeing you it's gonna be a messy "break up". So he is most likely pulling the slow fade.
So he ghosting you for a week? He said yes it’s ok and that’s it no word from him for a week?
I don’t know if you like this asshole but I say forget him. He said yes it’s ok you have a kid just because he didn’t want to put you in a bad spot. After he said so he is ghosting you “ meaning no word form his for days … that’s not a good sign at ALL
Forget him.. who cares about him. Don’t cut yourself so low or short having a random relationship just because you have a kid no way..!
Look for long term even marriage you deserve it.
I would think that most people who are just using someone for sex probably does not care if they have kids.
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When I was in my 20s and 30s, there is no way I would have. I assume that's the age group you date.
I would be ok with it, especially if it casual of friends with benefits. If it always take him 5 days to respond, do you know a lot about him? Does he travel, is he a truck, a police officer, or maybe married? Sounds weird that it is always a 5 days delayed respond. But either way, if you are OK with the arrange, that is fine, it is what you choose, It is your life don't let others judge your for it. Good luck.
I mean I wouldn't mind hanging out with the girl but I technically wouldn't date her because I kinda not interested in having children I rather have a pet instead now if she just saying she does have a son or daughter but I don't have to play the step father route than I maybe could consider dating a single mother as long she doesn't expect me to pay for child support or anything.
Personally, I would not date a woman with kids from another man. Plenty of men would be fine having an friends with benefits with kids, however it would be rare that a man would actually want to marry a girl in that situation.
He lied trying not to sound harsh. You will likely not hear from him again.
It would not bother me that she has a child. I would understand if she wanted to give the little one all her attention and just wanted to keep things casual. Kids are a priority in any relationship.
No, as long as I find them attractive and likeable then it's fine. Just be honest about having kids. He deserves to know.
TBH I have no issues with friends with benefits or dating women which I have in the past with having kids
Sure, especially if its friends with benefits situation.
A lot of guys would because they'd usually be decent in bed. None of them would commit though. Just pump and dump.
She wouldn't be my first choice. Sorry a single mom will lose to a a woman without a child everytime.
As long this child is being properly cared, I'm good.
Yes. But I would want to see her for adult breastfeeding.
Nope. Not dating anyone with kids.
100% i would be okay with it
Only if she locked the kid up first.
casually, yes
Absolutely why the hell not
I would if she were OK with it
it scared him off sorry
That's okay enjoy.
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