Guys, my boyfriend cheated on me twice with one girl, and ALMOST a third time with a different one. he says its bc of a lie I told, he felt he couldn't trust me then he lost hope and started giving into temptation. He was in contact with the first girl for months before they had sex, they were classmates and he ghosted her afterwards. i'm wondering... will he cheat again?
Cheating is never okay, but perhaps it might be forgiven if he wasn't seeking it but an attractive girl came onto him in a moment of weakness, and if he immediately admitted it to you and was ashamed and regretful.
But it sounds like your boyfriend planned his cheating in advance, did it multiple times, and wasn't honest with you about it. This tells you that his only morals and "whatever I want at the time." So, yes, he is a cheater, and he will cheat again, because he feels entitled to cheat.
I'm sure he's physically attractive and popular, because if he wasn't, you'd have dumped him immediately, but all you've done by staying with him is validated his idea that he can get away with cheating because he's attractive, and is thus entitled to cheat.
This is what happens when you choose a relationship partner based on his attractiveness and popularity rather than his morals, values, and life goals. Moral men may seem boring, but they are FAR more likely to be faithful and dependable.
You can date whoever you like, but your choices will have consequences, and your outcomes are YOUR responsibility and no one else's.
The thing is you are best to move on , cuz he more than likely will do it again , Most cheaters make excuses for their actions. by blaming someone else instead of pointing fingers at themselves , Just because you told him a lie, doesn’t give him a right to go screw someone else, If your lie hurt him that bad Then he should of ended it with you instead of screwing someone else and blaming you for it. Cheating is a selfish act in which the cheater only thinks , what is best for them , they don’t consider the person they are in a relationship with , they cheat because they feel no wrong in their actions
He will do it again, the first guy that ever cheated on me did so because I had more sexual partners than him. He at first said it was okay and it would be fine but then later on had issues with it and was trying to balance out to match me.
He seriously thought, once he got up to my number he would quit and things would be fine.
I have no doubt he would of continued doing so even if he matched me. By that time if I had not found out, he would of thought she'll never find out so I can keep on doing it.
If you weren’t aware I don’t blame you because you didn’t know but you are aware your boyfriend is a mother fucker !
Fool me once shame on YOU Fool me twice shame on ME~ George Bush
Why do you think US is always a world leader you can’t fool them twice lol.. be a Bush don’t be a democrat don’t be so liberal with your boyfriends.
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u If a PERSON cheats once, they are more likely to repeat ther reprehensible behavior.
If a man cheats on a woman, he most likely will do it again. With that woman. He might not cheat on the next woman that he dates that he likes/respects a lot more, but he has already proven he is capable of crossing that line.
Although sometimes there or more understandable reasons for cheating. You say he said you lied. Well, what did you lie about? Was it something that deeply hurt him?
I'd say the damage has already been done, and it's unlikely this relationship will heal from all of this. No one should cheat, and I'm not excusing what he did, it is wrong, but it sounds like you hurt him and he mentally moved past you.
Yes, generally past behavior is the best indication for what he does in the future.
An exception could apply if he cheated once with his ex while already in a new relationship with you. It is possible that the new attachment had not yet formed to replace the previous one. A man can then still get over his ex eventually.
Your guy cheated three times with two different women. I would be surprised if he did not cheat again. Maybe with a different partner he could manage if she really makes it clear that she will not accept it. Even that is highly doubtful.
I don't buy into "once a cheater, always a cheater", but I also don't think it's wise to be that person who expects the cheater to change his/her ways. If they're gonna stop being cheaters, that's probably gonna take a great deal of time and self-reflection and bumps on the road. Why be the bump on the road?
Its a opportunistic crime... if the "stars " align in such favorable circumstances.. yes. .. women just as guilty cause they can't not stand not getting even... n its usually the next guy.. aka rebound who unwitting takes that hit... i dont know why woman are essentially snow blind to cheaters... n get all dumb founded.. cheating.. that happistance.. woman are at fault.. its you ego that picked that guy... its your desire to have that knotch on your belt.. audatious not preconsidering... he's adding a knotch.. himself.
Im most cases fuck for sure red flags awaving vanity insanity kicks in... fuck it go with it.. right.. whose at fault... for what? fucking? lol
Woman are as superficial and shallow.. like us... solutions are simple.. clear.. but we wanna wanna what wanna.. we get... whah😭
People that cheat, are likely to cheat again because of their reasons for cheating. A lack of morals and self respect, is often the reasoning, and unless those change, its almost guaranteed that if the right circumstances arise, they will cheat again.
Remember this always, THERE ARE ONLY TWO NUMBERS IN THE WORLD, one and none. If you have done it once , the rest is just too easy. Only the first murder is hard to do, after that I am told you don't even bother about it. I would advise you to fuck this guy, there are many better guys out there.
He has bad morals. People generally don't change their morals. They may lie about it, or even convince themselves they changed, but almost everyone reverts back to their regular morals/actions eventually.
I'd say leave and never date a cheater.
LOL... He's full of shit. He's using your one-time time lie to justify his fucking other women. If he doesn't trust you and he's "lost hope" (of what, by the way?), then why didn't he break up with you? At this point, why haven't you broken up with him?
I cheated once when I was 22, then had another chance to do it again but couldn't follow through. I've never cheated since and I never will again.
I think it widely depends on how old he is too. Guys are in their early 20s are more likely to cheat, but when you get past 25 your brain is more developed and you're more mature.
So a guy in his early 20s might not ever cheat again later in life. Or he might... who knows
Who cares. Don't stick around and find out. You should never stick around with a cheater and if you find out someone has cheated ever then you should stay clear of them.
They won't respect you if you take them back anyway. They'll behave for a while but they'll know they can pull stuff on you... you took them back before so why shouldn't they try again. They'll think you are weak and a push over.
He can't trust you cause he can't be trusted.
Generally it's more likely for a cheater to cheat again than for someone to cheat for the first time. But just cause someone cheated one time doesn't mean they'll cheat again.
However staying with a man that cheated on you twice already would be insane. High time to leave that turd behind. If i was with such a person, is leave them no matter if they'll never cheat on me again.
So you want to be put at risk of STDs?
Thats not even a relationship anymore cause he strayed away 🤡
Leave and Forget this demonic being.
Thats what you need to do. Have some self respect.
Fool me once Fool me twice
If he cheats on you once and you go back to him, it's forgiveness.
If you cheats on you twice and you go back to him that's stupidity. He sees you a doormat and he's realises that no matter how much he fucks up, you will always take him back. In other words, he's taking you for a fool. Leave him, he has no respect for you.
No more than a girl. The fact is that they can "rationalize" cheating in their own minds, which means they have the ability to do so again. A person that hasn't cheated is less likely to do it because they've never rationalized why it was okay for them to do it.
Yes ,1000% chance we will cheat again and again. He uses and screws women over. How does a man like that even get a woman or a relationship? How? What's so special about him? Is it the "bad boy"part? Please so yourself a favor and get this foolish man our if your life
There is a pretty good probability he will, because even if you chewed his ass-out for it, all he got was a good talking to.
All the time he is thinking, that wasn't so bad, and I still have a constant sex partner out of the deal.
Once he starts blaming you for his actions... it's time to move on... even if he says he loves you, he really doesn't or he wouldn't want to ever hurt you.
Why is it if a MAN cheats once will he do it again? Really sexist if you ask me. Women cheat just as much as men.
Anyway- if a person cheats the probability is much greater that they will do it again.
m Does it matter? Only an idiot would give him the opportunity.
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