She loves but but she also loves him too…?

[Anonymous]

⚠️ I need opinions!!! ⚠️

I’m in love with a woman and she’s in love with me but … she’s also in love with a guy she’s known for 9 years AND has kids with. But they aren’t together. And he was also very abusive with her at one point and she confessed that she isn’t with him because of that reason , because he’s hurt her so many times.

I had recently stepped into her life (4 months ago) and we share everything and anything together. She’s another half of me and I’m another half of her. I’ve never been close to anyone like this before.

I understand her situation with the man she’s living with (no they aren’t together… yes long story don’t ask lol..) but it’s just confusing because she told me “I love him SOMETIMES in a romantic way and SOMETIMES as a best friend. But I love you romantically and as a best friend“

What does this mean to you? What should I do because I’m head over heels. And she is too.

[HollyK21]

If I were you I’d spare myself any further heartache and end what you have going on with her, creating some separation so that you can start getting over her.
I’m not one to give people ultimatums so I wouldn’t advise giving her one (I. E you or him), mostly because it should never get to that point. If she loves you how she says she does, this wouldn’t even be a discussion. I know her situation is tricky but to me, loving someone isn’t putting them through what she does with you, it’s letting the person go if she can’t commit to them. It’s not fair for her to straddle the fence between you and him, or to play on the “friendship” aspect of your relationship when her back’s against the wall. She can’t pick and choose what she wants you to be every other day and call that love, and you shouldn’t suffer due to her indecisiveness.


Romantic or not, as the father of her kids that man is going to be part of her life in some way, shape, or form forever. You don’t wanna have to worry about their interactions or what happens without your knowledge, especially during this tIme while she’s admittedly still in love with him. Right now you aren’t winning, this is a losing situation that you should free yourself of no matter how it hurts.

[Avicenna]

Doesn't sound like a situation you want to get into

[Anonymous]

This is going to be a real challenge for all of you. I suggest all three of you sit down and talk it out.

[FreyaRed]

so much love exists only in fairy tales.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

You're not a priority. End it.

[alexking2]

Go for it! You will regret if you didn’t!

[WanderingLoveWizard]

3some

[ThomasDavid1989]

Are you gay?