What keeps a man attracted to unavailable and fake women and hate and invalidate someone who genuinely cares for him?

[happyfoetus]

[Anonymous]

Everyone is different, and there can be many different reasons why someone might be attracted to an unavailable or fake person, while invalidating someone who genuinely cares for them. However, some possible reasons could include:

1. Fear of intimacy: Some people may be afraid of getting close to others or of being vulnerable, and may be more attracted to people who are emotionally unavailable as a way of protecting themselves.

2. Low self-esteem: People with low self-esteem may be attracted to others who seem unattainable or "out of their league," while invalidating someone who genuinely cares for them may be a way of pushing away someone who they feel is too good for them.

3. Unresolved trauma or past experiences: Past experiences, such as childhood trauma or previous relationships, can impact a person's current behaviors and preferences. Someone who has experienced rejection or abandonment in the past may be more attracted to unavailable partners as a way of avoiding the pain of being rejected again.

4. Societal conditioning: Society often romanticizes the idea of the "unattainable" or "chase," which can lead some people to seek out unavailable partners as a way of fulfilling this societal ideal.

It's important to remember that none of these reasons justify invalidating someone who genuinely cares for you. If you are struggling with attraction to unavailable or fake partners, it may be helpful to seek therapy or counseling to explore the underlying reasons for these patterns and work on building healthier relationships.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Some guys will forever chase what they can't have. I couldn't tell you why, but I'm not like that at all.
I'm a bit more egotistical in my views on relationships. If my girl isn't showing the same amount of affection I show her, it's over

[Anonymous]

These unavailable women generally are playing by different set of rules than the non fake women. Most fake women are tremendous flirts and aren't above debasing themselves for his attention. Because she lacks self respect it's easy for her to do. And the non experienced guy reads this as legitimate interest because women don't typically act like this so these guys take it as legitimate interest when it's really just manipulation. Most guys eventually wise up.

[Reorx]

Trauma can make a person do some crazy things..

[TheSpaceGnome]

For me? Nothing, I don't do that.