She rejected me but I can't get over her? Girls advice please?

[Cdurflinger]

So there's a lot to this. We are coworkers and she had a boyfriend She knew how I felt from almost day one. I didn't hide it and we got along great. She still wanted to be my friend and we still talked and even hung out. One night we hung out and we were together for like twelve hours. Things were going great and Towards the end no she was being very flirty with me and I didn't make a move because I promised her I wouldn't before we hung out. That was the one condition for us hanging out, plus we were high. Anyway like 2 days later she wanted to cut all communication outside of work. I asked her about it in person because I'm a very upfront guy and she told he it's because she has a boyfriend and realized she likes me a lot more than what she should. Anyways we got past it kinda. My feeling never changed and honestly I won't lie, after she told me that I pushed and I shouldn't have and it made things hard for the both of us. Anyway her boyfriend cheated on her so they broke up. She is super pretty and honestly in my eyes the greatest thing to walk along the planet and I couldn't wait to long and I asked her out on a date and she said yes. she broke it off before our first date. She told me that she is still hurting over her ex and isn't near ready for a relationship which she knows I want and that she thought she liked me but has a hard time seeing me as more than just a friend now. I don't know what to do at this point because I haven't been so sure of anything in my entire 31 years of life. We have so much in common. I did push things and I feel like that's what made things change for her. I didn't give her the time to begin with and normally I would just give her time but she said she needs me to understand me and her will never happen and I just feel like that's truly the nail in the coffin and I messed things up beyond repair. She still looks at me with the eyes of someone who has feelings and still smiles and jokes with me and it's so hard. Is there any hope

[DizzyDesii]

No something else happened. Yes she's not over the breakup fully, but something more happened for her to friendzone you. Unless she felt bad about potential rebounding

[Cdurflinger]

Well I honestly feel like it was more my fault. I was kinda pushing while she was in a relationship and we did talk about it kinda and I mentioned I shouldn't have asked her out that fast and she said ya you didn't even give me time to heal. So I have a feeling that's a lot of it but I was wayyy over the top. She mentioned she feels bad because I try so hard and and do so many things for her that I deserve a chance but she just doesn't see me that way. She said that originally I did make her smile and I did make her feel happy and feel things but then it became to much. I don't know I'm just backing off completely for now because our friendship did get warped because of it but at the same time I want what was between us back and I don't know if even letting go will bring it back but we have a lot in common, our interests, tastes in a lot, she can take my sarcasm and dish it right back. Heck our bdays are 5 days apart. And so many other things. I don't know normally I wouldn't care nor make the mistakes I have to even get into this situation but from the get go it was so different with her. Just seeing her smile makes my day. That's what's so hard about this

[DizzyDesii]

Yea just accept that it’ll remain friends only and find a new interest

[Selene1600000]

She probably did have feelings for you at one point, but the timing, the pressure, and the breakup with her ex likely overwhelmed everything emotionally. When someone directly says “me and you will never happen,” the healthiest thing is to take that seriously and stop trying to convince her otherwise, even if her behavior still feels warm or confusing. If there is ever any future chance, it will only come from giving her space, calming your own attachment, and letting the connection breathe naturally instead of holding onto hope every day.

[Iron_Man]

Don’t get high. What did you expect? She has a boyfriend that’s why I don’t like men and women being friends when you’re already taken way too many complications. I’ve heard stories for years about this stuff gone wrong

[Avicenna]

Talk to other women and you'll forget her

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Dude you're retarded. We are coworkers and she had a boyfriend.

[Truthatanycost]

Desperation destroys desire.