I've been on two dates with a guy in the space of two weeks. We had a good time, and I think he did too. We went bowling/golfing and had dinner both times.
On the first date, I went to his city, and he came to mine for the second date yesterday. However, there has been no physical contact or flirting on either of the dates.
I don't want to just hook up instantly, but I'm wondering if this is normal after two dates.
During our date last night, we talked about shopping, and I complimented him by saying he always looks good, but I didn't receive any compliments back.
He also remembered stuff I'd said on the first date, so if he wasn't that interested, he wouldn't have remembered.
When he parked at my house, I drove us back to mine, and as we were getting out of my car, he opened his arms. I thought it was for a hug, which I did, but now I keep thinking did he wanted to kiss me goodnight as I've just runnied it by hugging.
After I got inside, I texted him and said thanks for a great time and hoped he got home okay. He texted back later and said thanks, it was a good evening.
I'm not the most confident person, and I don't think he is either, so that doesn't help. Should I leave the ball in his court and wait for him to text, or should I text him after work and ask how his leftovers were from our dinner last night?
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I think it sounds like he's maybe inexperienced, a good thing, and it seems he likes you, but doesn't know how to flirt and doesn't want to cross any boundaries too quickly. If you're comfortable with moving to the next step, I'd contact and suggest something, then maybe make some further physical moves if you want to like kissing.
Maybe he is just a reserved guy, but two dates already sounds good.
Don't overthink it too much. If you wanna text him and ask about the leftovers, do so
Some people believe the third date is the sex date. Others believe you shouldn't have sex until marriage. It's all about what you believe. If you aren't sure, the best way is to just ask him why he hasn't tried anything yet.