Can one truly be happy single if one chooses to be single indefinitely?

[cth2188]

If one chooses to be single indefinitely?

[Cynicaldreamer]

Hi... you called me?

Absolutely! So as most of the regulars on here know, I'm pretty much indefinitely single: haven't dated anyone in almost 15 years (I think, honestly lost track of how long I've been single now), and I've accepted and am okay with being single.

I no longer make any efforts to date, or stress over being single. And as sad as it sounds- I'm happier single than when I was attempting to find a partner. I'm not saying being single is for everyone: some people are happier in relationships than they are single. But for some of us, we are not only happier, but actually thrive being alone than when we're dating or in a relationship.

As long as you're emotionally and mentally mature enough to take care of yourself and can support yourself as an adult, there's nothing wrong with being single. It's actually been proven that most single people are happier than couples/married people (feel free to google it if you don't believe me), if that says anything about relationships and marriages nowadays.

[cth2188]

This I'm happier when I'm by myself and there's too much stress dealing with a partner. I'm not ready to give up my freedom and have gotten use to being alone - focusing on my own goals and career. I don't do online dating apps and have been single since 2014 . I really hadn't had a legitimate relationship since my ex! I'm always open to friendship, but don't want anymore relationships.

[cth2188]

I believe it even some folks married are miserable and husbands want out their union.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Mhmm, I know several people that fall into that category cth: one of my coworkers openly admits he's in a very unhappy marriage of 20 years now... but refuses to get divorced as he's already been through one divorce that "took all his money." So he says he will only divorce her if she instigates the divorce: NOT him. Meaning he's just hanging in there and miserable because he rather not deal with another divorce... sad really.

No thanks. I'm good single- especially hearing crap like that, lol.

[cth2188]

Right 100 I know people in open marriages who even get married in the first place if you're going to cheat 😒 it makes no sense. The idea of dating stresses me out - its pointless

[Truthatanycost]

Only 15 years, I'm pretty sure I've got you beat with that one but like you, I've lost track so could be wrong. It seems other guys have more of a problem with me deciding to stay single, than I ever will though!

[cth2188]

11 years here and I'm ok with that

[BeeNee]

I have an aunt who has been proposed to 3x. She has said no all three times. She has had no desire to get married. She will be in a relationship as she sees fit, but married, no. She loves her independence and it isn't because my grandparents divorced or she's had rough relationships....my grandparents were happily married for nearly 60 years before their passing and her relationships have been pretty smooth. When she is not in a relationship, she's not depressed, she's not wishing she had a man. She has her own house, own car, devotes her "parental energies" to her nieces and nephews, but she's good. She makes me firmly believe that, yes, some people can be happy and single for their entire lives. Doesn't work for everyone, but the ones that truly desire it, need nothing else.

[Datboi65]

Nope. Humans crave community and connections. When I hear people saying that they want to be "single indefinitely" most of the time it's just cope, because if they did get someone who was interested in them and shared their beliefs and outlook on the world then they would be with that person.

Take it from an introvert who values his own space and doesn't like spending all the time around other people. Even I have my time where I call up my friends to hang out and do fun activities together. Do I think sometimes about how things would be if I was in a relationship? From time to time I do. However, the reason why I chose to be single as of now is because I'm working towards building my future and laying a solid foundation before I get into a permanent relationship. That will always be the goal. If I did get in a relationship now I know it's not gonna work, and that wouldn't be fair for myself or for the other person.

To say that anyone would be happy being single forever is a reach.

[Truthatanycost]

And every human is different. There are always exceptions to the rule.

[cth2188]

I was talking about romantic interest of course I have friends

[Truthatanycost]

I know a person that has been single for ages. They have no friends. They are the happiest most content person we know and pretty much everyone likes them. Others are often wanting to be their friend or invite them out but they aren't interested. But as I said, the exception to the rule!

[cth2188]

Right @Truthatanycost my friendship circle is small and in content even without friends I'm fine

[ManOnFire]

If that's what you choose then yes, you can be happy. Sometimes you can even be happier single than when you're in a relationship. It's all about what you're getting from either situation. Maybe you feel more energized or content to have your own time and space being single, or you feel happiest when you're with somebody. It's about what you think is best.

[Genie23]

Honestly, being alone in old age and living in a mountain region is such a comforting thought. I'm not afraid of being alone all my life nor do I feel depressed. I like being with myself as much as I liked being with someone when I was in love. I can be at peace and feel blessed once I established everything I planned to do in life and leave the city and go somewhere close to nature and have pets

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Yes. To start your happiness shouldn't be dependent on anyone because it's literally impossible for someone to be responsible for your happiness for days, months and years.

Two, every individual has to do what's best for them, and if they feel choosing being single is what going to make them happy then they have to choose that.

[cth2188]

Agreed ! I'm pretty content in my life solo!

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Well, enjoy it. 👌

[cth2188]

Thanks

[midnightmoon05]

Indefinitely? Yes…lots of my single females friends gave up around 40…they just accepted that lonely life.
many who want family and kids start to get desperate… once they meet someone around 38… they have a kid right away…

just those around me.

those who don’t want kids…no long term partners… their attitude are different about men.

[Emmahkhan]

I have been single for the past few years and I really want someone to support me, but I don't want to lose the peace that I have in my life at this time. There will be unnecessary tension and stress to be with someone. Single life is more peaceful.

[cth2188]

Right where I'm at I've been single 11 years and not about to give up my peace of mind for someone and not sure about dating / love

[Emmahkhan]

Exactly.

[cth2188]

I've come across unhinged toxic broken men who are jaded about women and or hateful towards women. I'm nkt giving up my peace and friend zone every man I meet

[Emmahkhan]

Great thing u do

[sheenagwapa]

absolutely there's Jesuw there's more to life than love life

[cth2188]

Yes ! ❤️

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I and my ex fiance broke up 8 months ago, I can say I am finally happy being single again, after 8 months of emotional struggle. I now feel free and happy again.

[ColHathi]

I imagine you can be happy to an extent, provided you have enough loved ones around you.

[cth2188]

Yep or self love

[ColHathi]

Well self love is a given, yeah.

But to be the happiest, I do think we need that counterpart.

[cth2188]

Nope

[cth2188]

Society taught us that many people are happy when their by themselves then to pit up with drama , stress, toxicity inna relationship

[cth2188]

In a relationship

[ColHathi]

... Okay. Can I ask how you know for a fact that that isn't the case?

[ColHathi]

Oh, didn't see the other two responses.

[cth2188]

I'm one of these people who rather be alone then date

[cth2188]

It's less stressful and I don't have to deal with the bs of dating

[ColHathi]

Okay. I would argue that society has taught us that people that remain single for an extended period of time usually suffer from loneliness, and that people are generally the happiest when they have a great partner.

[ColHathi]

That's fair

[cth2188]

I see no beneficial of dating or marriage unless you want kids and marriage / I have experience in both areas and find I'm happier by myself and have friends. It's stressful to find a relationship and keep it

[ColHathi]

That's fair enough.

[OfMiceandMen]

For sure, why not? If they have an itch, there are many ways to scratch it that does not involve being in a relationship.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Yeah. I'm currently that right now. Been single my whole life. Gonna be that the whole way.

[cth2188]

Same here

[Jerre]

Yes they can. I am single, quite happy, but also lots of friends who visit often.

[cth2188]

Yes friends are so good to have !

[Jerre]

Thank you for the Like

[cth2188]

YW ! 😀

[Screenwriter]

If someone wishes to remain single indefinitely, then I would assume they are happy being single and remaining so. Why else would they choose to stay single?

[cth2188]

There choice and there business

[AlexisDiani]

I am seriously considering it and am encouraged by the comments here.

[Katebfun]

No I don't believe so. We are social creatures amd need love, support and TLC. Friends and Family may help but romantic Love is deeper and different from ALL relationships. This is my opinion.

[cth2188]

If I had a selection of suitable mates for that. Right now , I'm content being single based on religious / medical beliefs

[ilovelamp]

"truly" happy huh...
Sure, if you get a dog or cat.
Or you get a doll of some sort and disillusion yourself into believing it's real.

[cth2188]

Why do I need to do that? Way better then settling

[ilovelamp]

The absence of that which hurts you doesn't bring a state of true happiness as a result.

[cth2188]

It does 11 years solo I'm at peace with everything I've been through np thanks

[ilovelamp]

You just said it yourself. at peace with everything you've been through. That is not true happiness, that is relief.

[cth2188]

I'm content and have peace of mind being single I've healed from what I've been through

[cth2188]

I don't know where you get relief from I'm not going back through anymore drama or toxicity

[ilovelamp]

If your hand is in a fire, burning, and you pull it out of the fire and put it into cold water, that doesn't make you truly happy, you get relief. that's where the relief comes from.

Why are you even asking this: "Can one truly be happy single if one chooses to be single indefinitely?"
"If one chooses to be single indefinitely?"

If you think you already know?

[Jmmmfi4]

I'm absolutely positively single indefinitely... I don't know if I'd say I'm completely happy though

[cth2188]

My mental can't deal with drama or stress

[cth2188]

Or toxicity not in a relationship

[cth2188]

I'm at the place of peace

[Jmmmfi4]

Good for you I guess

[cth2188]

It's fine

[Jmmmfi4]

I don't care really

[cth2188]

Neither do I

[cth2188]

Have a nice dsy

[cth2188]

Day ^

[Being_a_good_Indian]

Circumstances aside, it's possible to be both single and happy.

[Sparkie460]

Some people enjoy being single and they prefer it that way. I often wonder what my life would be like if I never got married and had kids

[exitseven]

If I never got married I would have found another way to live a happy and fulfilling life. Right before I met my wife I was going to give up dating maybe forever/

[serious_miss419]

I like to be single because I enjoy to be alone. It has zero to do with so that I can be with anyone I want. I simply and genuinely enjoy to be alone.

[Anonymous]

It's always fun to be single you can fuck any girls you want.. that's freedom.

[cth2188]

If that's what you choose for me I like my peace of mind

[Opinion Owner]

Have fun

[cth2188]

You too

[cth2188]

I don't have to sleep around to have fun

[Opinion Owner]

Did your nipple get hard today?

[cth2188]

No they didn't

[Opinion Owner]

Waiting for my touch?

[cth2188]

What touch

[Opinion Owner]

My hand inside your bra while we talk..

It's always fun to pressing your nipple while we chat...

[cth2188]

Idc about sex

[Opinion Owner]

You don't have anything to offer either... no?

[cth2188]

I'm not looking for a relationship and don't care about one

[Opinion Owner]

Them let's do hookup?

[cth2188]

So no I have nothing to offer to a man other then friendship if he's seeking sex he should find a whore or something

[Opinion Owner]

Then you're boring...
Thanks for wasting my time.

[cth2188]

There are plenty of whoremongers to entertain you I'm not one

[cth2188]

Yes a lot of men think I'm boring when sex isn't involved or sex talk

[Opinion Owner]

Yes you're boring bye 😘

[cth2188]

There's more to life then sex i don't engage with men talking like this yes please excuse yourself from this conversation

[Opinion Owner]

My pleasure ma'am