Can one truly be happy single if one chooses to be single indefinitely?

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If one chooses to be single indefinitely?

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Hi... you called me?

Absolutely! So as most of the regulars on here know, I'm pretty much indefinitely single: haven't dated anyone in almost 15 years (I think, honestly lost track of how long I've been single now), and I've accepted and am okay with being single.

I no longer make any efforts to date, or stress over being single. And as sad as it sounds- I'm happier single than when I was attempting to find a partner. I'm not saying being single is for everyone: some people are happier in relationships than they are single. But for some of us, we are not only happier, but actually thrive being alone than when we're dating or in a relationship.

As long as you're emotionally and mentally mature enough to take care of yourself and can support yourself as an adult, there's nothing wrong with being single. It's actually been proven that most single people are happier than couples/married people (feel free to google it if you don't believe me), if that says anything about relationships and marriages nowadays.

BeeNee · Accepted Answer

I have an aunt who has been proposed to 3x. She has said no all three times. She has had no desire to get married. She will be in a relationship as she sees fit, but married, no. She loves her independence and it isn't because my grandparents divorced or she's had rough relationships....my grandparents were happily married for nearly 60 years before their passing and her relationships have been pretty smooth. When she is not in a relationship, she's not depressed, she's not wishing she had a man. She has her own house, own car, devotes her "parental energies" to her nieces and nephews, but she's good. She makes me firmly believe that, yes, some people can be happy and single for their entire lives. Doesn't work for everyone, but the ones that truly desire it, need nothing else.

Datboi65 · Accepted Answer

Nope. Humans crave community and connections. When I hear people saying that they want to be "single indefinitely" most of the time it's just cope, because if they did get someone who was interested in them and shared their beliefs and outlook on the world then they would be with that person.

Take it from an introvert who values his own space and doesn't like spending all the time around other people. Even I have my time where I call up my friends to hang out and do fun activities together. Do I think sometimes about how things would be if I was in a relationship? From time to time I do. However, the reason why I chose to be single as of now is because I'm working towards building my future and laying a solid foundation before I get into a permanent relationship. That will always be the goal. If I did get in a relationship now I know it's not gonna work, and that wouldn't be fair for myself or for the other person.

To say that anyone would be happy being single forever is a reach.

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

If that's what you choose then yes, you can be happy. Sometimes you can even be happier single than when you're in a relationship. It's all about what you're getting from either situation. Maybe you feel more energized or content to have your own time and space being single, or you feel happiest when you're with somebody. It's about what you think is best.

Genie23 · Answer

Honestly, being alone in old age and living in a mountain region is such a comforting thought. I'm not afraid of being alone all my life nor do I feel depressed. I like being with myself as much as I liked being with someone when I was in love. I can be at peace and feel blessed once I established everything I planned to do in life and leave the city and go somewhere close to nature and have pets

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Yes. To start your happiness shouldn't be dependent on anyone because it's literally impossible for someone to be responsible for your happiness for days, months and years.

Two, every individual has to do what's best for them, and if they feel choosing being single is what going to make them happy then they have to choose that.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Indefinitely? Yes…lots of my single females friends gave up around 40…they just accepted that lonely life.
many who want family and kids start to get desperate… once they meet someone around 38… they have a kid right away…

just those around me.

those who don’t want kids…no long term partners… their attitude are different about men.

Emmahkhan · Answer

I have been single for the past few years and I really want someone to support me, but I don't want to lose the peace that I have in my life at this time. There will be unnecessary tension and stress to be with someone. Single life is more peaceful.

sheenagwapa · Answer

absolutely there's Jesuw there's more to life than love life

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I and my ex fiance broke up 8 months ago, I can say I am finally happy being single again, after 8 months of emotional struggle. I now feel free and happy again.

ColHathi · Answer

I imagine you can be happy to an extent, provided you have enough loved ones around you.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

For sure, why not? If they have an itch, there are many ways to scratch it that does not involve being in a relationship.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

Yeah. I'm currently that right now. Been single my whole life. Gonna be that the whole way.

Jerre · Answer

Yes they can. I am single, quite happy, but also lots of friends who visit often.

ilovelamp · Answer

"truly" happy huh...  Sure, if you get a dog or cat.  Or you get a doll of some sort and disillusion yourself into believing it's real.

Screenwriter · Answer

If someone wishes to remain single indefinitely, then I would assume they are happy being single and remaining so. Why else would they choose to stay single?

AlexisDiani · Answer

I am seriously considering it and am encouraged by the comments here.

Katebfun · Answer

No I don't believe so. We are social creatures amd need love, support and TLC. Friends and Family may help but romantic Love is deeper and different from ALL relationships. This is my opinion.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

I'm absolutely positively single indefinitely... I don't know if I'd say I'm completely happy though

Being_a_good_Indian · Answer

Circumstances aside, it's possible to be both single and happy.

Sparkie460 · Answer

Some people enjoy being single and they prefer it that way. I often wonder what my life would be like if I never got married and had kids

exitseven · Answer

If I never got married I would have found another way to live a happy and fulfilling life. Right before I met my wife I was going to give up dating maybe forever/

serious_miss419 · Answer

I like to be single because I enjoy to be alone. It has zero to do with so that I can be with anyone I want. I simply and genuinely enjoy to be alone.

Anonymous · Answer

It's always fun to be single you can fuck any girls you want.. that's freedom.

TryMeBee · Answer

Yep. There's many different ways you can find companionship and fulfillment in life.

Jdjfjcjj · Answer

Ignoring the exceptions, I believe men are far more capable of then women. In the end though, I don't think anyone would want to die alone.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I don't see why not. One must just find something really enjoyable to do. Anime pillows.

Nikki1989 · Answer

As long as you have friends and a social life, it can still be tolerable.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Yes. Or, you can just be like me and get no interest at all from girls, no matter how much you want it!

Belgie · Answer

Yes, but it's probably a lot easier for men than women, percentage wise.

TomMarks · Answer

If they choose to be, I’m sure they can. It’s ones like me looking for a relationship but not finding it are having issues.

RockyHammock · Answer

I think you could, but it'd be difficult with holidays and movies romanticizing relationships so much

Forceinhand · Answer

Can, yes. Common, no. Because we are by and large social as humans and have an instinctive need for partnership. Most of us anyway.

ChiTown33 · Answer

Yes. I'm single and quite happy.

Rudon00 · Answer

Yes Of course. Being single is having a healthy concept of yourself so you yes. it is by choice and healthy by those you choose to do so.

noohair · Answer

I have Peaceful Solitude but that was after being married for 26 years.

Jltakk · Answer

Single indefinitely? Absolutely. Truly happy? Definitely not. There is a hole that I can act like it doesn't exist but it will always be there.

Kathie93 · Answer

I would hate to be single being completely honest

Guardian45 · Answer

Yes, if that is an affirmed choice, but there are potential pitfalls to watch out for.

domenico07 · Answer

Ofc. Some of the happiest people i know have been single for their entire life

andy530 · Answer

I think some people can others can’t

CrimsonAngel09 · Answer

In my case, no.

fonduegirl · Answer

Yep. It's all amatonormativity.

Gent207-2 · Answer

Yes refer to what Jesus said about eunuchs

TheFlak38 · Answer

Men can be. For women it's naturally impossible. Women live off of a man's energy.

CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS · Answer

I don’t think forever

katiesmuff · Answer

Yes I do think it is possible.

serious · Answer

Yes of course it is possible.

RavVid · Answer

I think you can. It is just a different mindset.

Iron_Man · Answer

No man shall not be alone

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Sure. If done correctly

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Yes if it's a genuine choice.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Men can be happy single, absolutely. Women can't.

zagor · Answer

Yes, a lot of people are.

dinojames22 · Answer

Yes.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Definitely!

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

Yes.

itsalyssaagain · Answer

Yeah sure. Why not?

WonderSadness · Answer

Not me no

jimmy2 · Answer

All depends

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