Why do guys have time for dates with random women but not time for their kids?

[Anonymous]

[Pyrofox]

A lot of kids are walking turds if they come from a past relationship that the ex wife initiated the divorce from. Its just one of the many long lines of bs that comes with a hostile divorce. If the ex wife could be toxic the kids if she got them often are just as hostile and since more often than not the kids have no clue. Who made it a warzone the kids blame the father as the mother acts like a victim to insure she gets the kids, and maximizes her pay out. So there is almost ZERO incentive then at the end of the day for the father to stick it out.

[Asker]

This makes absolutely no sense

[Pyrofox]

Its in a womens intrest to deny a husband any and all ability to see the kids cause of the stupid laws and rules related to getting child support gives mothers a 15% to 35% boost in how much they can get in payments if the father can't see the kids. Monetarily incentivizing mothers to ditch the father. This just further pits the kids against the father. And in some cases mothers go so far as to lie to their kids that they don't have a father or that their "step" father is their real father.

Only when they hit 18 do they get the apsolutely life changing discovery that its all a GIANT lie.

[Pyrofox]

I've had several friends who have discovered post making a Facebook account that the man they have spent 18 years calling dad wasn't' their dad and that their real father is the one that was messenger messaging them on facebook. And that for 18 years they weren't allowed to see them over stupid court orders. Many of the fathers that reconnect with their kids at this age are so desperate to just be able to talk with their kids that they are willing to go behind the mothers back and do DNA tests via lab to prove it.

[Asker]

Buddy, I didn’t say anything about your crap. I just simply said why do guys rather see random women instead of their kids.
If your answer is not relevant than obviously your situation is different

[Pyrofox]

I am giving you an example of what your asking about take it or leave if you can't handle it then you are probably related to something similar if your this arrogantly responding. Guys take time for what is rewarding SIMPLE as that. If a kid isn't rewarding to be around or could land them in jail of course they ain't gonna stick around. The fact you couldn't see the point makes me concerned about you if anything.

[OfMiceandMen]

Because their priorities are screwed-up. They are thinking with the wrong head.

Men can act like children sometimes and forget their responsibilities, unfortunately the children suffer.

However, it takes someone other than the mother to make them realize this, as it would just appear to him, that she still wants to control his life.

[Anonymous]

Priorities. Dating and romance takes priority over his kids and it’s sad.

[Quackthulu2]

Because they can’t have sex with their kids.

[Asker]

You’re seriously fucked up

[Quackthulu2]

Well yeah. But what does that have to do with anything?

[Asker]

The question I asked - you could answer it

[Quackthulu2]

I did. The reason that guys go on dates is to get laid. The reason that fathers ignore their children and focus on dating is to get laid… what part of that are you having a hard time understanding?

[Sparkie460]

Because he's got his priorities backwards. Family should always be top priority. I guess he figures the kids will always be there but the random woman won't. He'll be sorry one day.

[Asker]

Thank you for your open minded general answer. Much appreciated for your input, thank you very kindly 🙏

[Sparkie460]

I would always put my kids first over any other women. Thankfully I'm still married.

[Asker]

Yeah, hard work isn’t easy but definitely has its rewards

[Sparkie460]

Yes it does

[Anonymous]

What is the difference between a "random" woman and oher women?

[Asker]

Not a clue

[Anonymous]

Well, they're out with women. So it's kind of like they're already looking after a child. 😆😆😆

[notwoke]

because they don't have an obligation to be interested in another mans children

[LovrUFFAllls]

Why do women have time to complain, but not to work?