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Is it a good idea to let him know you’re interested?

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We (24F, 24M) have been friends for a little bit, and there was always a mutual attraction. But neither acted on this since we met.

We ended up getting to know each other a bit more and spent some time together. But then he distanced himself. He didn’t reach out as much or talk to me like usual. Not sure what happened. Maybe he got overwhelmed or just, lost interest one night?

I just tried to give him his space. He still reaches out to me for short conversations to see how my day is. Even yesterday, he hit on me and then stopped himself. But he will leave me on read or delivered for a few hours. Thats okay. Ik he's very independent and can be busy. I try not to look into the texting part too much. But i noticed the shift in mood.

I hope to tell him that I am very attracted to him, for reasons beyond his looks. But I won’t go into detail as to why, unless he opens the door to that conversation in the future, if he wants. Because the last thing I want to do is make it seem like im kissing his ass. I don’t expect anything back. At one point, I did think he was genuinely interested in me too. But I noticed the shift and thats up to him to tell me what happened there. Im very aware he has always been someone who is strong in his views and how he likes to handles thoughts and emotions, so I won’t push him or demand for anything. If he feels like he has to withdraw, I understand. He doesn’t owe me anything just because I’m interested in him. The only thing I can hope for is him being genuine, in whichever way he can be, as I will be. I won’t mention this again to him, but I wanted to get it out of the way.

Is this a mature approach? I’m never gonna know if I don’t give it a shot. If he doesn’t, then I’ll move on eventually. I don’t want to keep wondering what ifs. We’re both adults here. Just be honest with me considering he confess he liked me too.

Is it a good idea to let him know you’re interested?
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