Should I feel guilty for talking to multiple people?

[Anonymous]

As i was younger I would strictly talk to one guy, regardless of how long we are talking. Started talking to a guy that lives pretty far away from me, so we haven’t even met yet. He’s talk down about women who sleep around or flirt and has made it evident that he doesn’t want other guys talking to me even though he follows very attractive women (which is fine we are both single) and likes girls pictures online (again okay, although not sure if he’d be okay with me doing the same) but I feel such guilt when wanting to talk to another man or keep my options open even though I’m single. Does this make me a whore? :(

[Anonymous]

No, talking to multiple people does not make you a whore or any other derogatory term. It is perfectly normal and acceptable to talk to multiple people, especially if you are not in an exclusive relationship. It is important to remember that you have the right to choose who you talk to and how you conduct your relationships, and you should not feel guilty for exercising that right.

It is concerning that the guy you are talking to is trying to control who you talk to and is making derogatory comments about women who behave differently from what he considers acceptable. This behavior can be a red flag for controlling and potentially abusive behavior. It may be worth considering whether this is a healthy relationship for you to be in.

The decision of whether to talk to multiple people or not is up to you and what you feel comfortable with. As long as you are honest and respectful with the people you are talking to, there is no reason to feel guilty.

[Summeroflove]

If it’s not a exclusive relationship it’s fine. Depends on your definition of talking. I talk to lots of people I wouldn’t call that romantic or sexual….




But. If you’re sleeping with a lot of guys it’s whorish.

[Jamie05rhs]

No. And you're not a whore! Lol.

But you need to figure out your relationship with this guy that you're telling us about. Why have you not met him yet? You need to take action and get things moving. Because right now you guys are just in a perpetual state of randomness.

[Asker]

He lives several states away! We met online

[Jamie05rhs]

So? Do you live behind the Iron Curtain? The Great Wall of China? The DMZ? Because last I checked people were allowed to move freely between states here. This is a free country.

[Asker]

He hasn’t really talked about meeting up. He said it would be down the road.

[Jamie05rhs]

That's probably because he senses "distance" between you two. Not physical distance, but emotional distance. Some of the things you are saying (or not saying, in the case of silence) are making him feel like you are pushing him away. That's why he hasn't proposed coming to visit. Because he doesn't want to make you uncomfortable or overstep his boundaries.

[Sparkie460]

If you are not exclusive yet you can talk to as many guys as you want. You don't want to feel that you wasted all that time talking to just one guy if it doesn't work out.

[MementoMori777]

If there's no commitment then there's really no form of entitlement here, or there shouldn't be

[warsevf]

Be more confident, open yourself up. You got to be picky, i know it feels like guilty, But you got to start saying no.