Affair partner took wedding ring off?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been seeing a married man who I work with for almost a year. He took his wedding ring off last time we were together, and he’s never done that before. What does it mean?

Don’t come at me with morality issues please. I’m an adult, and I’m aware.

[nolabels]

It sounds like he's trying to tell himself lies in order to rationalize his being with you, fantasizing about a non-reality of him being available.

I could picture myself doing that for those reasons if I were so inclined.

Or he just may not be a full-time wedding ring wearer.

Other possibilities exist, I guess.

That being said, a wedding ring is a symbol of commitment. Its sudden disappearance would say something to me, maybe that he's getting ready to make a change.

Somewhat off topic, but related, maybe:

When I got married, I told my wife not to expect me to wear my wedding ring. I initially couldn't stand the feel of it, strictly from a physical standpoint. I ended up getting used to it, wearing it full time for about 20 years until we replaced both our rings about ten years ago. The replacement that I got, that I thought I wanted, was terribly uncomfortable to me, and is easily scratched, bothering me even more. I quit wearing it altogether after just a few months. If I had my old ring back, I'd still be wearing it.

Good luck to you.

[PragmaticProfit]

That’s horrible. You’re an adult, and an immoral one at that. I pray that the affair is discovered sooner rather than later. The emotional ramifications that someone faces upon discovering the news will bankrupt their ability to feel happiness for many years. It will warp their perception of reality and who they are. It will break up their family. Their kids will suffer the consequences. I think cheating in a marriage is one of the most horrendous acts of betrayal and selfishness a person could commit. It’s tragic.

[Hearts4u]

Oh gosh I feel bad for his wife and I hope she finds out. And it’s honestly sick that you’re going alone with it. If you’re an “adult” you would find a way to tell his wife that he’s out here fcking on a side piece that’s settling for a married man, when she could easily find a SINGLE man who can give her the same thing that dog is.

[AviatorTom]

He's feeling guilty and by taking the ring off, you're no longer having an affair with a married man... or so he thinks.

[OlderAndWiser]

It means he feels guilty. Karma is a bitch!

[ohsheeT]

It's a game first of all he wants to show you he's taking it off because he wants you
second of all down deep he's taking it off because he shouldn't have it on when he's having sex with you
but what it is truly all about is he's going to lose it and then he's going to have to explain to his wife what happened to it
It will be a lie. And makes no sense.. she all. ready kinda thinks something is going. on already... and then that's when everything starts going downhill from there
little by little the truth comes out because lie after lie..
except for one of you loses your job because you start arguing he goes back to his wife but then his wife has had enough she leaves him everybody loses

[bradley142]

so sounds to me like you both are in the wrong here but im not here to judge anyone its your life but sounds to me like if he truly loved you he would leave his wife but he stays with his wife cause he only thinks he loves her but you can't truly love someone and sleep with another woman so my guess is he isn't honest with his wife or his self and he is only using you to get what he wants you should let him know if he wants you then he should be upfront and honest with his wife first and get a dirvorce good luck to you all

[andreasderjuengere]

Sometimes your fingers get swollen. You don't want a ring to get stuck.

or:

He uses it now as a cock ring?

or:

He pawned it.

[exitseven]

He is kidding himself. He will never leave his wife and end up living in his car.

[spartan55]

Does it really matter? It changes nothing.
You are gross by the way.

[mommymommymommy]

And they say men cheat. I'm not saying he's not cheating, but, I'm saying, YOU SHOULD KNOW BETTER, RIGHT?

aren't YOU A WOMAN!

[Ben487]

I don't know maybe he's feeling alittle guilty.

[Iron_Man]

That’s horrible how can you live with yourself?

[VikingWarLord]

Are you hotter than his wifey?

If so, he's having second thoughts about her now.

[Jamie05rhs]

Congratulations: you just broke up a home. I hope you're happy with yourself.

[Harlee1772]

It means he’s feeling guilty for betraying his wife and your affair is almost at an end.

[midnightmoon05]

Ask his wife and kids.

[Jazzy54]

Single men don’t appeal to you, huh?

[Anonymous]

He is living a pretend fantasy world.

[In_Trance]

Why don't you ask him?

[Anonymous]

He's just using you.

[serious_miss419]

He’s broken