What are things you think that men and women get wrong or just don't understand about each other?

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Lliam · Accepted Answer

Anything I say is a generality. It obviously doesn't apply to all men or women. So let's get that out of the way.

- Men can't begin to imagine what it's like to have a female body and to live life as a girl.
Women are smaller, delicate and more fragile.

- Women's bodies change a lot in appearance during puberty. They also start having periods, which aren't very fun.

- One in 9 girls and 1 in 20 boys under the age of 18 experience sexual abuse or assault. Over 1/3 of those girls are under age 12.
https://www.rainn.org/statistics/children-and-teens

- Children look up to their fathers as being big, strong giants who are also protective and make them feel safe and secure. But girls don't aspire to become like their fathers. Instead, they grow up to want men who make them feel the way they felt about their fathers when they were young.

Men are more independent. They are also expected to be braver and more stoic, to rise to challenges and "take it like a man".

- Because of their nature, but also because they have to be alert to predation, girls become more attuned to subtle metacommunication - body language and vocal inflection. They are way more observant than boys in that regard. They also spend a lot of time processing and trying to make sense of all the possible interpretations of metacommunication.

They talk about that stuff all the time with their friends. They talk a lot about feelings. Since they are judged so heavily by their appearance, they also talk a lot about how to look and how to behave.

Girls are also taught to be more submissive, sensitive, cooperative and inclusive, as opposed to being decisive and directly saying what they mean.
For example, when a man is hungry, he might say "I feel like some pizza." But when a woman is hungry, she would be more likely to ask "Are you hungry?" or "What would you like to eat?"
Also, if her partner is quiet, she might ask what's wrong or "What are you thinking about?" When a man replies "Nothing", usually means exactly that. Women can't even imagine that someone could actually be thinking about nothing.
But when a man asks his partner if anything is wrong and she says "No" is often means that she angry at him.
This kind of thing leads men to the conclusion that women expect them to read their minds. But, because of women's observant and analytic nature, they assume that men think the same way as they do and should know what's wrong.

- When it comes to sexuality, boys and girls are very different. Boys can only assume that women's needs are similar to their own. But that's not the case. Women's and men's bodies and their idea of eroticism are very different.

bondjames37 · Accepted Answer

I certainly dont understand the desire to appear beautiful & spend time on hair/ makeup and the emotional side of being a woman.

I think women do not understand that men do not need a lot to be happy. A simple compliment or friendly hug/ smile really makes our day. A girl smiled at me in college, it made my entire week, no lie.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Both men and women fail to understand that the opposite sex does not perceive, think, feel, or respond in the same way.

A woman walks into a messy house and wonders why the man doesn’t see all the work that needs to be done. And she doesn’t understand why guys roll their eyes when women talk about how much money they “saved” at a sale.

Men don’t understand why a woman gets upset when he tries to help her solve a problem. And we REALLY don’t understand why she wants 17 pillows on the bed!

Hihibn · Answer

Like that book I just sent on the page men and women don't talk or one or the other is selfish or ones not listening to the other ones kinks letting and showing each other what makes each other cums like some women can only cum by pussy licking and to be honest most men get it wrong again so maybe find a sexy party and watch the girls lick pussy and hit the spots or get a lady in to service your wife with you and let the lady guide and show you always make sure you are both happy and got what you want always talk about any kink with each other never push each other with something you don't feel comfortable with and bringing people in to your sex life make sure you talk and give your boundaries to each other make sure your all happy because if your with your sole mate your lover your best friend the person you trust most in the world but sex is shit and he or she is thinking I want young cock or pussy or other kinks do your best to open up to each other about sex kinks and problems some couple's bring in a male or a female because one or the others sex life is over or restart your sex life learn new kinks talk about them let a hot lady you trust to service your wife let your new friend show you how to make the wife cum and so on cos if you've found your sole mate best friend your never going to brake up some times unlocking sex again and kinks can give you a new lease on life some husbands to also let men and women in to fuck his wife but no kissing her or cuddling her or contacting her with out the husband knowing or couples say you can't cum in my wife or my husband can't cum in her or his wife where's a blind fold and a lot of men now sit and watch men fuck her every where but it saves there bond there marriage makes her happy him and a new zest for life and love again cos who ever comes in there's no real love contion or feelings or what ever kinks you want and understand to if a woman or a man can't have sex no more but has a good life together and are sole mates understand that one or the other will need sex at some point face the fact you can't give them what they want and it could fuck your marriage and u could lose your sole mate so talk talk kinks talk if a man or women comes in im watching no kissing or cuddles cuming in kissing tits messaging each other some cover the head so they don't know who's service them trust all this could make you happy again and save your family but it's not my cup of tea and when my sex life is over then I am cos sex help me be happy converdent helps my mental health it tort me to respect women to and help me learn not to be selfish I've met loads of people I've had some amazing times met loads of people learn to have respect for everyone and learned that every ones different treat people with respect tort me that real sex that both parents both orgasms and both get there needs met and that real proper sex is a massive part of life health mental health and when done right you learn that men and women are as one be open about any kinks because hiding them makes you run off and cheat and if you bring up the kink that's it it's going to happen and always respect your wife or husbands wish like no cuming or kissing blind fold and so on look in to it all cos even I did it years ago I really loved this girl I had been with for years but she could not keep up with me and would say im braking having sex 5 times in the morning time after time then just before bed 5 times and she said the kinks in between and all the different ways we have sex and I would say some times why you screaming there's no cum and then she would say I've been cuming all day and night and she would try most stuff but not share me but in the end one night she said go fuck some I don't know and don't tell me anything please she said and also said she could go with out sex for the rest of her her life but big mistake I was really young but no now she should of been a part of what was going she should of knew the lot cos she start going on I bet there pussy is nice and tight nice tits and all that she when in her self and start shouting at me between you and that ting between your legs and are son I give life to my pussy is done my sex life is over im 23 she said how am I going to find a cock to feel the big hole she said even that thing you've got feels lose but really it didn't she just used to get really wet quick and she thought her pussy was loose it was a bit I did stick my member in one night then we was drunk and I fucked her gob bent her over every where real porn star style thinking your the man when. Really that not good sex anyways I got her rabbit out and she was in the zone like I had a nack for hitting her spot quick then she would squirt oh yer she was the first girl I got to do it and where she did it so much I thought she pissed on me and she would go in to a trance when she was orgasming in some little world she was not with us and she cum so much so quick it was hard to work out when she was cuming and this one night my dick ripped so I got the rabbit out fucked her so hard with it I don't think my dick banged her that hard anyways as the night when on my dick got bored and the cut was small cum every where then she get the cream out and this is my first bum fun and it was out the blue cos we spoke about bum fun and she said it out load in front of everyone he's never sticking that thing in my bum that dick and my kid have split me from bum to belly button and then the next ting she got cream and she's riding my dick and she really loved it but maybe not to shaw now I've been told she was just happy my dick was in some other hole anyways we stopped and she spooned me and she only had to touch me and that was it and at the time I thought I was the boss the king some porn king anyways she spooned me and that was it I was Rock hard her pussy juice and bum cream every where she was worn out and I didn't mean to but my dick slipped in to her and I had her big fuck off ramping rabbit in hand and thoughts im going to fill both them holes never done it before she didn't move or say no next my dick and the hole rabbit was in her pussy and there was more room to and then I thought maybe here pussy is big and ripped and thought she didn't know what happened cos I stuck the rabbit in her bum again she loves bum fun anyways cos we was getting in to are sex we both made each other cum good but then her pussy cos she kept on about it all the time and we didn't talk about sex much it all when wrong and I would go floppy and wank in the bathroom cos I started feeling sick thinking about her pussy but it was all in my head and we had not spoken about are sex life cos years later I fucked her how I should of years ago and for how many years we last had sex she was good my dick still found it's way to her cum spot and she still rolled her eyes back and hit her orgasm zone long story short if you stop talking about sex and your wants and how you should do or you don't cater for each other's kinks no bedroom communication and don't want it try a brake or brake up as friends don't cheat or be nasty to each other what I've learned now if I had my sex know how back then me and my son's mother would be with each other because if I had my tools and experiences I have now I would of spoken about it and made us both happy and cated for are needs most spilts and divorces are cos of cheating or people going else where to try kinks or he can't get a hard on her pussy is as dry as a Nunn's cunt so communication open and honest if you don't find each other sexy it's done but if you love each other and your sole mates and there's no hate between you both trust me the bedroom shit can be fixed and helped but both be open about everything and what you want if you think your got to stick your dick in some one soon tell her she maybe say shall we talk find someone blind fold them don't go bare back so if there love trust sole mates work get help talk don't chuck love respect trust away for bedroom shit that could restart your marriage right I've been getting in to a session myself and not practicing what I preach lol bye

Anonymous · Answer

What women get wrong. That guys do not have feelings. That breast size matters That guys choose the skinniest or most physically attractive women That a guy who's assertive means he has character or is a good man, or knows what he wants. This is easy to fake because guys know women are attracted to it like moths to a flame. Which is why so many men do it because women do not apply logic here at all which is why so many so many women fail at relationships. You can't ever have successful relationship if you pick a pathetic excuse for a man out of the gate because "he's so exciting"!😆😆😆 worst of all she doubles the mistake later by rejecting good men because she's made so many mistakes with bad men. And of this is assuming she's even a quality woman herself which brings me to my last point that might be the greatest point.  So many women today don't even REALIZE how toxic she is. They keep try to find a quality guy. But keeping searching through her toxic parameters. You can't find a good guy if you have no clue what constitutes a good man

Andres77 · Answer

For guys, sometimes a lack of a showing emotion is how we deal with stress. For the most part biologically, we can handle stressful situations with a clear head and deal with armed intruders or housefire or a car accident.
Not to say that women can’t deal with that stuff because they have, and they do biologically matter better suited for that so when we’re under stress, we tend to shut down and act like things are OK or things are not bothering us when really or hurting just as much as anyone else, but we expressed it differently

SnowedIn · Answer

I think men often get wrong thinking that women aren't sexual -- they are just express it very differently.

I think women often get wrong how men are emotional and process emotion.

Both get wrong how the other thinks/what they mean when they talk.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Basic level:

1. We communicate differently. Men generally want to solve problems. Women generally just want to be heard. Thus when she presents something, he might look for a solution and she gets offended because she is not being heard. Conversely, when he presents something he is probably looking for a solution, but she thinks he needs to be heard and thus does not offer any, and he might think she does not care.

2. We emote differently: Women generally tend to be more emotionally expressive. Men tend to think things through first. Again, this leads to miscommunication because she cannot understand why he is not upset while he cannot understand why she is pressuring him to be a certain way before he has had a chance to process.

There are obviously more things, but these seem to be the biggest, at least in my experience.

DiegoO · Answer

I think many women's don't understand how important is having a job, for us. A man without job will possibly find a girlfriend but not for long. Most women's can't get that, is not only the money we think on, when having a job. It goes beyond. It gives status, it gives respect; more importantly: it gives us the capacity to provide.

Another thing: sex. We want sex not because we constantly think of sex. It's because is the ultimate way we express our feelings, in a romantic relationship.

We are not mind readers. Please don't be shy to tell us certain things you consider important or necessary, otherwise, us men, will not be able to comprehend your feelings the way we should.

Yannishka · Answer

"Penis not over nine THOUSAND inches" so I'm useless worthless and pathetic as a mate"

petitedollbabee · Answer

That women need more sleep than men to keep a hormonal balance. Men’s hormones are always regulated in their balls. Whereas women, not so much. We have to do so much to keep things regulated with our menstrual cycle.

Nikki1989 · Answer

After being on here for years, it has become obvious men don't want to know about each other. You might as well talk to a brick wall most of the time.

DenizLikesTennis · Answer

Being prejudiced and having lack of communication. They judge things only what they see and thus interpret.

Women and men are wired differently. So I believe that women think with their heart and men with their mind. Thats why it's super complicated to understand the opposite gender

shades777 · Answer

How we approach problem solving
How we view our roles

The thing is we are designed differently so looking for the same things each other is a mechanical flaw, we are yin and yang which means we compliment like poles on a magnet.

TheBootyChest · Answer

That I am not the typical gut, and that I am not gay because I talk about my feelings, or ask eomen about going shopping.

Anonymous · Answer

I believe

The way the mind works while dealing with a problem.
The differences in the approaches taken in anything.
The perspective with which men and women see things. This can lead to a discussion or a debate.
The historic attitude of men and women that influences the way both think.

From me, that is it I guess.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Sometimes we really aren't thinking about anything.

MJackson1234 · Answer

1) Men lie to sleep with you and women lie to marry you.
2) Men cheat but women do it better and cruller.
3) This is for both be aware of your friends. Sometimes they are looking to ruin your relationship.

OnlyMeee · Answer

Certainly a lack of buying flowers from my wife's perspective lol. Depending on my wife's mood, sometimes I can't do no right lol 🤣

Guardian45 · Answer

That for some reason, NOT ALL women fall in Love with me!

RavVid · Answer

I think guys think girls are more complicated than what they are and girls think guys are simpler than what we are.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Women seem to not understand that men isolating themselves is a solution to their distress. Also they do it because they don't want to hurt the relationship. Men likes to look for Solutions instead of emotional support.

NoNa69 · Answer

I still don't understand why men insist on making women look incomprehensible😝

Kelly6 · Answer

That we are not 100% same. every male and female have different mind and ideas and lifestyle, so the word equal rights word is funny.

greenice27 · Answer

Most men are materialistic and women are generally emotional.

Christoff92 · Answer

Their personality traits of how to make decisions with each other and to acknowledge those beliefs.

MackBoy · Answer

I don't know because I have to do some research on it

Agape93 · Answer

Why we do or think the way that we do.

DanielSV01 · Answer

Thar we are different, and its fine. When you're in couple or married, one helps the other

Anonymous · Answer

Emotional differences, women are emotionally driven but men are more logically driven

Michaelg2122 · Answer

Why do women wear shorts under their skirts and dresses 😭

In_Trance · Answer

That it would be easier to tell the truth

Anonymous · Answer

That Women are only dating the top 20% of Men, A lot of them don't realise this.

Coden7 · Answer

Pants in the sweet spot

krin_m · Answer

Not sure. I guess it depends on each individual.

Onashir · Answer

Feeling

BLP11520 · Answer

Emotional stuff

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