Follow-up text - No response?

[Anonymous]

Hello!

I had my first date with a girl yesterday.

Everything went smooth and actually pretty good, in my opinion.

• Chat went smooth, no awkward silence.
• Laughed a lot together.
• Saw her stare (in the periphery) at me when she showed me something on her phone.
• She had open body language: No arms across or wandering eyes on the surroundings.
• She let me pay the bill.
• Bumped shoulders a lot during walk.
• Physical contact (during laugh or showing/pointing at something etc): Stroke her back/arm/hand on knee, and no signs of withdrawal, so I assume she was comfortable with me.
• Didn't kiss, because I don't want to do that first date, but we did a farewell (long) hug.
  *We said we had a good time, before we part.

So withing one hour I also sent her a follow-up message, yet again that I had a great time with her and I'm open to have a second date.

Now she have been online on FB-Messenger 2-3 times since the date.
She haven't "read it" it though, but I'm sure you can read it in the notificationbar and then swipe it away.

My question.

• Why would you not respond to a successful date?
• How long should I wait before sending a text again, and what should I say without come out as needy?

Send another message after 1-2 day.

Send another message after 1 week.

Don't send another, let her reach out.

Updates

10 mo

She did anser yesterday, but with just a "Same ❤️".
I mean, no mentioning about second date..

[DaveJord]

Why didn't just send her a text, do you have her number? I am like 46 years old so I do not know when people just stopped exchanging numbers. But not texting her directly and using social media is rather impersonal to me, but then again, I am 46 years old.

Honestly, at this point you have nothing to lose by sending a second message, 1 or two days is fine, a week is fine... but not sending a second message is out of the question if you like this woman.

Standard rule is that most people at least read their phone messages within 5 minutes of receiving them. If they do not read them, they at least look to see who sent it. So not responding is a conscious thought. Then not responding and then saying I was busy and forgot... is BS honestly.

In most cases if someone does not respond within the first hour, they are not interested, if it goes more than 24 hours, they most likely never will. So, at that point you have nothing to lost by sending a second message.

But social media, that's all out the window... she might get hundreds of messages a day and it just got lost ether. To me going out a date with a woman I have not exchanged numbers with is a red flag.

[zeitgeist057]

Your message was too general and bland. Be specific and direct. It would be better to just send one message, not so soon (one hour?) and to have more complete information. Or to clearly leave the "ball in her court" with a message like:

"I had a great time, I'd love to do another date with you! If you're interested, just hit me up, I've got a few fun ideas."

Either way, don't stress about it too much, just chill out. You are really chomping the bit with your hour post date texting

[Anonymous]

Have you ever heard of actually talking?

It used to be a real thing, you know. 🤦‍♀️

[Asker]

Yes, we were talking a lot at the date, or what do you men?

[far2gud4u]

Give her 3 days... If she hasn't come back in that time then she isn't into you!

[Anonymous]

She is seeing how hard you are going to chase her, you have texted her saying 'had a great time with her and you're open to have a second date." Leave it at that DO Not Do ANYTHING ELSE.

Leave it to the end of the week, if you hear nothing move on, if she contacts again after that go 'Grey Rock' with her (google it). you do not deserve to be played about with.

[JesseP1nk]

After she gave you "Same ❤️". I think you should ask her for another date. First think through what you plan do to.

[BlackJeep]

Never ever ever ever ever double text