I feel like I messed up, and now I don't know what to do?

[Anonymous]

So I'm the type that waits when it comes to do anything sexual, like for a long time. When I was with my ex I waited 4 months just to kiss him. My relationships or dating never last long because of it, so 2 weeks ago I meet this guy, and he's really into me like, actually wants to continue getting to know me and seeing where it goes. He's also being a gentleman, asking if he can hold my hand, open doors, etc... so I was being stupid and let my friends talk me into doing something sexual right away, even though the guy that I'm into didn't try to be intimate I started it and of course he's not going to say no, so I'm honestly not mad at him just at myself. Now I'm hoping he's not expecting anything else like actually having sex right away, or worse think differently of me.

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I honestly feel like just being honest and telling him that what I did was a mistake and tell him what type of person I'm really am when it comes to me wanting to wait

[RespectfulGuy]

Communication is good. But don't make it sound like you regretted or it was "a mistake" etc.

Personally, If I were to hear such, I might start to wonder "what had I gotten myself into"? And worse, I might feel how insecure a person you are (probably a wrong message).

Hence, just talk, laugh it off and then stick back to your principles.

[Asker]

We have talked about my insecurities before and he's really understanding and is helping me. Overall he's a great guy being patient with me and just helping me love the way I am. I just felt like I messed up by listening to my friends. But I will tell him but I won't make it seem like I regret it though. Thank you so much I will definitely laugh it off, we're both silly so I'll make it into a joke afterwards or something

[RespectfulGuy]

Ah yes, silly. That's the best way to laugh of anything you can't change in life.

[RespectfulGuy]

And it sounds like you've found a great guy. Happy for you.

[Anonymous]

I can’t tell you what’s right or wrong because you only know who you are at best.
Dont overthink it and tell the guy. If you want to bring up that you do want to take things slow and wait until he try to start things but remember your in control for your comfort and explain your not ready to for it again yet. He should understand.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

You don't have to do anything unless you want. I don't think this guy will mind if you tell him you want to slow down and that you were caught up in the moment last time.

[Asker]

Thank you and I will definitely tell him, a part of me feel like he will understand. Especially when he told me it's been so long since he been with a women relationship wise and being intimate