How do I pursue this guy?

[Anonymous]

I hung out with this guy from high school twice, I didn't really know him back then but we just graduated college and he asked me to hangout. The first night he took me to a bar and we ended up hooking up... I didn't think it was that serious. We had a really good time so I asked him to hang out again a few nights later, we ended up going to a friend's party and then went home together. We had a really good time and I kinda caught some feelings. That was three days ago and he hasn't texted me or anything. I asked him to hangout yesterday around 8pm and he said "i'm chilling rn, another time tho".

I realized that he probably doesn't take me that seriously because our hang-outs have only been hook ups... how do i change this hook up into something more serious? Or is it not worth trying and he doesn't like me? How can i get him to actually like me?

[DarkWinterNights]

It’s probably going to be an uphill battle because he’s given no indication that he’s romantically interested. The places he took you are kind of red flags if I’m being honest with you. He sounds like an f-boy. Especially because of how fast you ended up in the hookup zone. The hookup zone is basically the female equivalent to the “friend zone”. If you really, really like him you can try to steer your hanging out into more traditional dates and one on one situations. If you get a lot of resistance or pushback, you’ll need to know when to back off.

[Anonymous]

You can’t turn it into something serious if that wasn’t his intention in the first place. If you want, you could have a conversation about what he’s looking for but the writing may already be on the wall.

[In_Trance]

talk to him