If a woman says you're a great catch but doesn't want to date you, why would any other girl want to date you?

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Chances are, other women dont want to date you either

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

That’s friendzone language bs 101. Women will often compliment a guy they friendzoned on anything and everything except him being attractive.

In her own way she means well. However she is talking to you the same way as she as a woman would want to be rejected. She doesn’t understand the friéndzone is more of a respect issue for men. That is men would rather have it over quickly like “hey you are a good guy. But tbh I’m just not interested”. No elaboration necessary (unless a guy asks why which he shouldn’t).

Anyway I know it’s cliche but don’t take it personally. She doesn’t feel the spark but it’s likely for a reason that’s out of your control.

Nonyabiness · Accepted Answer

She is just trying to be nice.

DaveJord · Answer

Nah... that's not true.

I went out on date with woman, and they were amazing dates... ended with some really good kisses and things. Next day they get all shady... one told me that she can tell I am the real deal, like she could really fall for a guy like me. But she been hurt before, and it was so difficult to get over... that she not really for another guy like me.

I didn't know how to process that honestly. Like is that compliment or insult?

I have had other women, just feel intimidated by it. Not like physical or even mental, intimidation. I mean they just start to feel inadequate somehow... like it's totally me, I am doing to them on some level. Like I want to do things, go places and achieve things... and I have had woman tell me that they just don't want to depend on a man, that they want those things for themselves, and don't want to depend on a man to achieve them.

I do really know how to process that either... given her situation... like she is not even close to achieving those things on her own. But I guess that's why she doesn't want to make herself valuable to depending on a man, because if she can't do it for herself... then she is dependent upon me. So that means, that she would rather not have those things, then to achieve them through me.

I mean there is something sweet and nice about that, but its also very not right on some level. Like you said you wanted a committed relationship, and you want those things... now we are in this process... and now you have this fear of commitment? Yeah, I guess I can understand that... but seriously?

ManOnFire · Answer

There are other women out there who would definitely date you. I would not take that woman's words to heart. No. 1 she says you're a great catch, yet wouldn't want to date you. She's just saying what she thinks she should to not hurt your feelings, and a dishonest woman is worse than one who simply isn't interested. A lot of times women will say something because they think it's what you want to hear, or because they think they should say something nice, but don't really mean it.

Regardless, she is just one woman in an ocean of many. If I were you I would be turned off instantly by her even saying you're a great catch but doesn't want to date you. Like, what? lol.

Pinay_ako · Answer

You’re going to let one woman ruin your life? Over her opinion of you? And any other woman after her won’t have a chance with you? That’s sad. Don’t give up easy

kylee2437 · Answer

That’s a negative mindset to have honestly. You don’t know this woman’s reason for rejecting you (unless if you ask for the honest answer) but her insight of why she rejected you doesn’t mean other women won’t see the beauty in that reason

Dysney1023 · Answer

I’m sorry you feel that way. In all honesty it varies on the person. Most women want a clean romantic partner who is humble and kind yet a balance of spice and inner confidence. Making her laugh helps. That doesn’t mean you won’t ever find someone. Realistically you will find your person. It has nothing to do with a type either. People are dynamic. You just need to appeal to your person of interest. Take an interest in what she likes. But most of all know your worth. You are a human being with goals and ambitions. Keep doing that and you will find your person along the way. I promise. It takes time. I’m still on that journey myself. But you will find herrrr. Don’t give up.

noemiii · Answer

It means you probably have a great personality but are either

1.) Unattractive to her or in general

2.) Not financially stable enough

I’ve said this before to guys. They had great personalities I just wasn’t physically attracted to them. It is what it is. In fact, they wouldn’t like me romantically if I wasn’t physically attractive to them.

And before you or any incel man on this site goes on a rant about “women are so superficial” think of a woman you have with a great personality. Think of how she has a great personality to date but how she isn’t physically attractive to you so you wouldn’t date her.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Could be "you're a great catch but not my type" or "you're a great catch but I'm taken" or "you're a great catch but you're too young/old" or any number of other things.

There's no "chances are other women don't want to date you." Literally hundreds of millions of women don't want to date you. It doesn't matter. There's billions in the world and you only need one. Don't waste the time and energy on "maybe this one won't..." F it. Doesn't matter. I've dated a lot of women that other people said were out of my league (there's no such thing) and I've had women I'd consider sub-average preemptively tell me they wouldn't date me.

She said you're a great catch. Someone else will say that, too. Multiple someones. At least one of them will date you. Put your energy into you and into finding her.

provokeesmokee · Answer

Because, mindblowing theory: different people like different things, but some traits are fairly universally liked.

Or, alternative theory for when you hate yourself: you're not a catch. She's saying that to spare your feelings because it's obvious you'll spiral on social media sites if she doesn't.

Adam1978 · Answer

She is clearly lying, if someone isn't good enough for yourself, why would they be good enough for your friends? So never take that feedback from single people. There is a reason match making is done by people in relationship. It shouldn't be done by singles. If they can't keep a relationship going their advice is trash.

WindAtMyBack · Answer

That's a polite consolation prize. You can't conclude that other women won't date you. All it means is THAT woman doesn't want to date you, nothing more.

Neither men or women are going to like every person they date. It's not going to happen. Dating is about trial and error.

If your date is worth anything at all, she will be polite about not wanting further dates. Just like hopefully you will be polite if you don't want further dates with a woman.

AaronKrieger · Answer

No, it just means you don't have chemistry with THAT person. If you're a great catch, then fucking use that to your advantage and look at what you can improve about yourself.

I feel like a lot of what dating is just being with people you connect with and it's all based on chance.

Fireguy17 · Answer

You are a great person, but just don't have enough in common with her.
That is nothing against you at all, so don't take it personally.
I'm sure you have met someone who seemed nice, but weren't interested in dating them.
There is a difference between dating and doinking.

Anonymous · Answer

When you’re basing your whole self worth off of one woman’s preferences, then yeah you’re probably right that no other woman will want to date you. If you don’t have common sense that tells you that everyone has different preferences, then why try to date?

JSmuve · Answer

Maybe the woman in question is retarded or has some serious emotional baggage. Like what woman wouldn't want to date a great catch? That's like someone offering you $15 million but you turning it down because you don't want to be rich. You'd have to be some kind of retarded to turn that down.

If it ain't that, then she's lying. We all can think of a girl who we'd call a "great catch" but wouldn't date her because she ain't all that great. Otherwise, we'd date her.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Just because you are a great catch doesn't mean every woman wants to date you. I know a lot of men that are a “great catch” but I would never date them.

nolabels · Answer

A guy can be recognized as being a great "catch" by a woman, but not have that "Zing" for him. I'd take it as a compliment and run with it.

hahahmm · Answer

There's a huge variety of women. They don't all think alike when it comes to who they would date/be with. Yes, there ARE a lot of similarities on some things when it comes to each gender.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Just because I’m not into him doesn't mean I dont think others will be. I can tell someone they’re a great catch but not want to date them

SolitarySolace · Answer

I know women don’t want to date me. It’s been almost 9 years. I have gone on a date but she only wanted my money and I work in the warehouse of a thrift store. I don’t make enough to just spend my money all Willy-nilly.

DextroShade · Answer

As a guy, no matter who you are most women won't date you. Even the top their wealthy fit pickup artists only have a success rate of 10%, so it's really just a numbers game. If she isn't interested just ghost her and move on.

OddBeMe · Answer

Because girls don’t have the same subconscious that tells them what kind of guy they like.

Honestly, I’d say 90% of it isn’t your fault. Like their wedding day, they’ve filled in 90% of what they want in a man and just looking for a match.

Anonymous · Answer

probably because not all girls are the same... come on man. people have a variety of preferences. doesn't mean the next girl will be the same.

Anonymous · Answer

"You have a lot of qualities that women pretend they want, but I don't find you attractive" Is what that means

tiajoka · Answer

My cousins a great catch but I didn’t wanna date him! There’s lots of reasons a woman might not wanna date you even if objectively she aknoladges that you’re desirable smh

slatyb · Answer

When a woman declines to date you, ignore everything else she says.

MilkRoseTea · Answer

You don't share the same morals, values, beliefs, interest, culture etc

KatherineJ · Answer

A woman can see attractive qualities in a man and not want to date him.

Anonymous · Answer

If a girl is saying that you are a great catch yet not dating. She's lying. She has some reasons to not date you. Either she's not attracted to you physically or mentally, or else she is involved with something or someone different.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

That's kind of a dumb question! Just because one girl isn't romantically interested in you doesn't mean another won't be!

exitseven · Answer

Unless she already has a boyfriend what you say is probably true

LiamJHayden · Answer

Doesn't that assume that all women think the same way? Experience tells me otherwise.

es20490446e · Answer

It means you have quite good qualities, but something is still off.

VadeinVain · Answer

Who said their word mattered? They just don't want to hurt your feelings.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

Rejection happens. Just because you get a no doesn't mean every girl will be a no.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Thats what I assume... so I literally don't even try

Luopio27 · Answer

That is a cheap move by her.

Anonymous · Answer

Good observation

Anonymous · Answer

Usually it's a lie

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