I live in a extremely racist country and place, probably the worst in Europe
He is a nigerian exchange student, we met at the start of the year, and became best friends, We are really close.
He struggled heavily with dating unfortunately, and in my honnest opinion he is a genuinely good looking guy, he is tall great personality and is in shape, he just so happen to not be in the best place socially for the black folk, he would have done good everywhere else.
A few month back he met his first girlfriend on tinder, she is 5 years older than him (we are both 20) from the outside apearance she looks great, emo type woman, I was genuinely happy for him. but in the inside she is a really filthy person.
Wednesay we were playing video games, chatting and drinking beer in my dorm room, and he told me that his girlfriend had weirds fantasies and called him a racial slur against blacks during sex and wanted him to pretend to be sexually assaulting her. he laughed it off like it was nothing.
I did't found it funny personally, she was clearly not a good person.
I tried to explain him that she was racist and was just fetishizing and using him, she was more racist than most of girls, and having a /sex/boyfriend/girlfriend from another ethnicity doesn't keep you from being a racist. and that she is probably saying/thinking terrible things behind his back.
We got in an argument and fought, he left angry and we haven't talked more since then.
I really wish to help him, she is toxic but i don't know how to convince him.
I think he knows it deep down but he is in a coping state which blind his vision due to love, surely she'll eventually break his heart.
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That's unbelievably thin gruel for a charge of "racism", especially since she is dating your friend. Is there any other reason to think she personally is racist?
well he is the only black guy here, and by pure hasard she fell on him and by pure coincidence she have race related fetish isn''t that strange?
That doesn’t mean she’s racist. People have all sorts of weird and fucked up sexual fantasies like some like to roleplay r*pe, inc*st, teacher-school girl and whatever. It doesn’t mean they actually for real want to experience or do any of those things.
THAT can mean something on the deeper self, if I wasn't racist i wouldn't ask to call a black girl the n word, she consider him like a savage and it's crazy how no one see it