Dating someone you're not into?

[Anonymous]

Would you date a women that is really into you bur you are not into them at all. Especially if you don't have any other options.

[HappyWoman34]

No. You do yourself and the woman you don’t want a disservice and imprison yourself with a life sentence of being with someone you don’t want. That said, you could open your mind to dating casually to see if you start to feel something more as you get to know people better, who aren’t initially ‘your ideal physical type.’ We’re all going to get old and not look as good. If you feel as high as a b plus around them from getting to know them better and from kissing them, then proceed. If not, then stop.

[Asker]

I'm physically attracted to them it's thier overall personality I'm not Attracted to

[HappyWoman34]

What is it about their personality then?

[HappyWoman34]

Are they cruel, stupid or lazy, or boring, or a user with no sense of fun? Are they racist, bitchy or have a manipulative, sulky or angry nature? Addictions they can’t beat? All those are red flags.

[HappyWoman34]

If you expect a woman without faults that will never annoy, bore or disappoint you, then you’re expecting too much. Life isn’t like the movies. Neither is sex, romance or love.

[Asker]

No of course not. I'm just not attracted to her personality

[HappyWoman34]

Oh. Do you find her boring? Or do you clash?

[HappyWoman34]

If you find her attractive but you’re saying you just don’t like her as a person, then there’s no point.

[jennifer_bloom]

I will date a guy with a cute face, an average face, or a common face. I will also date a guy with an ugly face if he is intelligent or charming and loving and respectful.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

It's hard to find a woman with a good personality. As long as you're attracted to her physically, you can make it work.
The women on this app will be mad at me, but they continuously prove my point, so there's that

[Pohjolan]

[Pinay_ako]

No. I’d rather be single than be in a fake and one sided relationship. Let the poor woman go.

[zeitgeist057]

Nope. I did that a couple times in high school and it's not for me. A girl asked me out who was a friend and I thought okay why not let's try it. But she kept wanting to be more intimate than I did and it was awkward so I broke up with her.

Another girl asked me out and she was cute, though she hadn't really hit my radar but again I said why not. I was also not really that into her and even hanging out more we just didn't have chemistry so I broke up with her as well.

Since then I think I've done a few other short dating situations that were like that. One funny enough was a girl who had a crush on me since kindergarten, and honestly she was a really cool lady. But I just didn't have the hots for her the way she did for me so it wasn't very long before I called it quits.

I'd rather not do that to people. I want to give a lady a fair shot if she's really adamant and I think it's possible it could work out, but so far if it's not a mutual initial attraction, it's been very short lived.

I don't think I've dated anyone that I wasn't into from the getgo for at least 10 years now.

[California_Poppy]

Well, I don't date women so I know that this question is not for me, but to be honest, I do think it's a little messed up to do.

[Asker]

The question can go both ways.

[California_Poppy]

Thanks for being open to opinions on this. I will say that as a woman, I would be devastated if I wasted my time with a guy that didn't even like me.

[Asker]

Thank you for your opinion! I should have worded it differently. Yeah I would feel the same

[California_Poppy]

No worries, the question is worded fine. I am curious to see how many men would do this though 👀

[Boomchakalaca]

Lol i dont know how to feel about this. Do u think u would change ur mind about them and actually like them?

[ShesRad80]

no- why waste their time or yours, it won't lead to anywhere but hurt feelings and BS in the end

[SolitarySolace]

I’ve done that once. Felt like shit when I finally broke up with them but it also felt freeing as fuck

[ArabellaLady07]

I am not sure any longer about it. I reached the conclusion that at my 50 years old I should make more compromises just because I hate being alone.

[gothbxtch]

no, i wouldn’t date someone unless i was into him

[Anonymous]

Neah, fuck that especially if I am not into them at all, better lonely.

[virtualwasp]

Hell no I only like man

[WhitneySnow]

I wouldn’t date anybody I’m not into

[In_Trance]

seems pointless to me

[Anonymous]

No. That's not fair to her.

[monghjay2]

stay single

[Angelhor]

if he sexy?