True or false, girls are horrible to unattractive guys and super nice to attractive guys?

[Anonymous]

True

False

[Alli39]

Girls, collectively, are not horrible to anyone. Mean people are mean to people, and sometimes looks can be a factor in who they think they can gain enough emotional/social power over to get away with it. But this is un-gendered and a minority.

But I assume you're asking about dating, so my answer is "sort of". Dating is often more difficult for people of both/any gender who do not fall into the bounds of being conventionally attractive. That said, dating isn't necessarily easy for anyone regardless of looks due to a myriad of factors such as background, emotional intelligence, life state, cultural/familial expectations, etc. So would dating be easier for someone conventionally attractive (regardless of gender)? Possibly. Does that mean it would be easy? No, not really.

[jennifer_bloom]

It varies. I know educated and intelligent women that don’t care at all about looks and I know poor women that are obsessed with how beautiful their boyfriend is. If one girl does not value you, another will.

[inhua]

definitely true and there's been studies to prove this

it's called the Halo Effect/Devil Effect where positive traits are attached to other known positive traits and negative traits are attached other negative traits even when the behavior is exact same

handsome + confident = hot / ugly + confident = arrogant and cocky

handsome + shy = cute / ugly + shy = weirdo and potential school shooter

handsome + funny = hilarious / ugly + funny = rude and offensive

handsome + kind = gentleman / ugly + kind = manipulative and grooming

handsome + flirting = charming / ugly + flirting = creepy and predatory

handsome + smart = genius / ugly + smart = smartass

handsome + skilled = talented / ugly + skilled = dangerous

handsome + gaming = cool / ugly + gaming = childish and immature

[Leme2]

Women are nicer to guys they find attractive. They don't necessarily treat them "horribly" though. Men are worse in this aspect though; men tend to treat younger more attractive women way nicer than uglier women.

[AmandaYVR]

Way to be reductionist.

Bitter much?

Answer: No.

[Asker]

Do you think dating is harder and more demoralising for unattractive guys?

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes, dating is harder for unattractive girls and guys

[AmandaYVR]

Of course. Things are harder for certain people, and groups, for a myriad of reasons.

It's called the 'pretty principle.'

Everyone is nicer to more attractive people. Everyone.

But decent people (whether they be girls, women, boys, men, or children) are not "horrible" to anyone, unprovoked. "Nicer"? Yes.

But you need to get these ideas out of your head. You're self-sabotaging, and painting all girls with the same brush.

Shitty girls are shitty. They're brats. You ignore them. They're not worth your time.

Good people won't behave this way.

But stop pitying yourself. Get on with your life, and don't let some bad apples out there ruin your entire view of the other gender. I know it sucks, but everyone has disadvantages, and problems. Everyone.

[AmandaYVR]

@BarryLiverstone Yes.

Had the poll been:

Do more attractive people get treated better by society?

I would have answered yes.

The wording, and framing, matter.

I know, and have known, more attractive people. You know what? Their life wasn't/isn't any better.

[Chthou95]

Its harder for men since men don't get any attention at all. An ugly woman can still get attention and attract men especially with the help of the internet.

[BarryLiverstone]

Cht an ugly woman doesn’t get attention either

[Chthou95]

@BarryLiverstone Lol bro there's so many examples of them getting attention. Your woman who's a 3 or 4 can go online and posts pics on Twitter or a dating app and she'll be getting dm's left and right

[BarryLiverstone]

If you purely value attention online then good luck. Online is fake and look at this site where half the “girls” are guys anyway.

Bottom line is no one is a victim. If you want attention, then work for it. If you expect attention just by showing up then you are gunna fail.

[Chthou95]

@BarryLiverstone I never said be a victim. A man has to work for his success and build his value. Women are born with value and can get by just being a woman because there's always someone there for her. Men and women aren't the same. You're aware of the differences but aren't going to act like a victim

[AmandaYVR]

@Chthou95 Women's beauty IS their value. Because men see beauty as a commodity, and something that symbolizes fertility (whether he is for children of his own or not). So it's more important for women to look good. Men provide protection, shelter, and all that other stuff.
I don't think it's true unattractive women still get approached often. Maybe by desperate guys who just use them for hookup sex, but not by marriage material guys, which is what most women do want.
But I totally agree with you - men do not get approached, and less attractive men have a much harder time of dating, if they also don't have the income, outgoing personality, charm, etc.
But the point is, everyone has disadvantages, deficits. We can't give up, no matter what. We have to compensate, and make our other good attributes shine.
When people get older, sex doesn't matter as much. A young guy feels disqualified, a castaway, cast out. But not being gorgeous is not a death sentence. There are plenty of average and below average looking guys who have made careers for themselves, and their other traits make them interesting and appealing people. And some get women, get into happy relationships. If you just want sexual relief, hire someone, pay for it. Most people can become more attractive, as you get to know them, if they are decent people, and figure out how to emphasize their best traits.

[Chthou95]

Most people dont want to get to know someone if they don't physically findt them attractive first. Are there outliers? Sure just like anything but in general people don't care how good your are of a person or how interesting you can be if you're not attractive. a lot of men who are below in the looks department who's a 4 or 3 would date women on their level. And not just for sexual purposes but for relationships as well. But women who 3s or 4s think they can do better because of the attention they get so they figure why settle for a man in their range when they can aim higher. They don't want men beneath and that's fine

[AmandaYVR]

@Chthou95 I don't believe in number-rating people.

[Chthou95]

That's fine. But we don't dictate our dating value. Other people do

[UniquelyBasic]

I'm sure women have treated unattractive men worse than someone they found attractive. I wouldn't say it happens all the time or even most of the time.

[Nikki1989]

Spend some time in the real world and you will see that is obviously false.

[Freyke]

It's false. Because it is directed to girls as a whole. The horrible girls are horrible to unattractive, and super nice to attractive guys. And that's fine, you don't want those girls anyway.

[ProbablyClueless]

Women are people, man. Some people are awesome, some people suck, but most people are just oblivious to the world around them.

[kerrieK001]

It's true... girls in my school are exactly like this.

[Reem12345reem]

U have to understand that women aren't visual creatures as men

[inhua]

women aren't blind nor are they mind readers. they are visual just like men but respond differently to these visuals than men do.

[Reem12345reem]

Well yeah my friend was on a dating app and she would pass on ugly guys and she would like the handsome guys so I guess it's true in some way , but to be fair that's all they have to offer on dating apps it's based on looks so I wouldn't blame her , but yeah you're right we respond differently to these visuals

[Snakeyes7]

I think both sexes are less likely to give unattractive people the benefit of the doubt. It's a human thing.

[Chthou95]

This is true. Sure men can do this too. But women get away with it more because people back her up and justify it when women do it

[Pohjolan]

False. Haven't met a gal who would be horrible to me since being a teenager.

[OddBeMe]

And guys hate attractive girls and give all their lovely attention to ugly girls!

[kakaling]

Some girls are comfortable with the guys that had absolutely no chance with her.

[Anonymous]

Nah they politely tell you to f*** off if you're unattractive.😆

[Jazzy54]

I’m nice to everyone.

[Blacksnake285]

He doesn’t mean that kind of nice

[Anonymous]

Some women are nice to every guy regardless of looks

[HollyK21]

False

[_piotr]

No. Girls are horrible to all guys.

[gothbxtch]

false

[BarryLiverstone]

False