Any problems I have in dating I automatically try to see what I'm doing wrong and try to improve but it's like my efforts never bear anything worthwhile. I feel like women write me off before even getting a chance to know me. My phone is a just a block of ignored texts, it's very difficult to get a date. Usually I'll meet an attractive woman and we'll have some banter, maybe a laugh or two and afterwards I'll get their number to meet up for a date. I'll usually text them within 24 hours and say something along the lines of "Hey [name], great meeting you. Would love to grab a drink with you next week. What's your schedule like?" and then it's radio silence. After no response for more than a day because I figure she wasn't interested I delete their number and move on. It happens so much that I replay every part of the interaction in my head to see if I did or said something wrong. Sometimes I can get nervous talking to women I'm interested in but I don't think my nerves dictate my behavior so much that it's a turn-off. To start I'm not rude or crass, my interactions with attractive women are playful and fun at best and friendly at it's worst. I'm not an Adonis but I think I'm physically attractive, I'm often told I'm very athletic or muscular and that I have good style. Despite this women aren't interested in me. I feel different from the typical man (especially internally) I hear a lot of women describe or complain about but it's like they couldn't care less and they just rather complain. I think a lot of these women would be very interested if we went on a date but getting a date is like pulling teeth while it for everyone else it seems fun and effortless. I'm at my wit's end. I've planned a trip to Europe for a couple months to see if things are any better in terms of dating cause I want to be in a relationship who values me as much as I value them. I'm tired of being told I'm the problem when I literally work on myself everyday.
Imagine if you walked into a biker gang bar where there is a smoking hot looking woman. Do you think you would have a chance with her? Probably not. But she could still let you buy her free drinks, steak or say pleasant things to her for an hour. It doesn't mean there's something 'wrong' with you. It means you're wasting time on the wrong women. Also, right now you probably feel like a beggar. Like you need a woman almost as much as life itself. You don't. The best time to find a woman is when you're not actually looking. Assuming you're looking for someone worth more than 1 night.
Maybe learn to train your mind not to give so much attention to women based on their looks too. I'm NOT saying you can't have standards. Just that when you focus too much on that you're more likely to overlook stuff you shouldn't. These women are considering way more than how you look so don't feel bad when you do the same. Realize that your time is valuable. I mean, if I told you you could spend 20 hours looking for a woman & not finding one or spend 20 hours making an extra $5k or $10k or just enjoying time doing your favorite hobby, wouldn't it be crazy to do the 20 hours thing? So get your priorities together. When you have them right, women will be drawn to you. Maybe not the same women you previously went for but still, you will have good ones to pick too.
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Abundance of options. Women are to dating as participation trophies are to today's youth. When you know you're going to get a participation trophy you don't have to put forth any effort. To quote one pink G@Ger on here "men are like busses, there'll be another one along in 20 minutes". We'll if a person has mentality she never has to put forth any effort. Because "so what if it doesn't work out", she says. " I'll get another shot in 20 more minutes". This is also why women don't have to invest anything today. Because boredom, it getting stale is fair game to end it and start over. I'm for equality but this is one major drawback of feminism. It tells women there justified even when they're clearly acting self destructive.
Lowkey you might just be hitting on the wrong girls. They might have been interested and change their minds, simply not cared much, etc. I'm really not sure tbh since usually if I give a guy my number I'll at least respond and tell him I'm not interested if I've changed my mind. Maybe try meeting people in different settings? You might just been in an environment where the people present aren't looking to date so much as hook-up or are just looking for temporary attention. It's hard to tell. It's honestly a bit weird in my opinion for you to be able to get numbers but not responses, especially if it's a regular thing. On a dating app sure, but irl, less so. (Then again, I don't exactly date a lot. I mostly base my opinions on what I've seen from the people around me and this experience doesn't really line up with that.)
I will be honest. Its because you really haven't established any sort of real rapport with her. Its the same way with me when i go out to try to make new friends. We exchange numbers and usually never message each other ever again. There needs to be an incentive to contact each other. Otherwise we won't do it.
It may also be that attractive women have plenty of guys chasing them so you're just another guy in their inbox. you're probably not that attractive either which is why theyre not picking you over othet guys.
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You get their numbers which is already a good thing. With your text message I think your suggestion of a meeting is too quick and straightforward.
Do not put too mch into the message. So you first write that it was nice meeting her and then something from your conversation that she also remembers for example how she works in trading in liquefied natural gas and seemed really passionate about it. Or that you rediscoveted that old song you liatened to and can't get it out of your mind now.
The hurdle for the first reply is the highest. Do not make her decide on meeting you there. Let it go back and forth a few times before cutting to the chase.
Do not worry if her answers are hours apart as long as it's not more than a full day. You can haul her in with about four steps (but not one step).The problem of women having an abundance of options should improve by the time they are in their thirties. Are you going after women your age or significantly younger? If chatting up women in person isn’t working, I recommend using a traditional dating (not hook-up) app. Read up on how to set up a good profile, use a site that allows you to get your pictures rated anonymously before posting them, etc. Also, don’t just swipe right on the most attractive women, but look through their profiles of women who are of a similar level of attractiveness as yourself and look for ways they might be compatible or incompatible with you first. If you are a stable, non-addictive (no porn, videogame, alcohol habit), reasonably fit man in your thirties, you should be able to find a match.
Most men struggle these days with 1 in 3 not having sex in the past year. Modern women are increasingly entitled and narcissistic thanks to feminism, social media, and pathetic simps. Every one of them feels they deserve a man who is 6' with a six pack and a 6 figure income, even obese baby mommas and hoes who have been ran through. You going to Europe is a good idea but I would recommend against Western Europe because the feminist cancer has metastasized there already. Andrew Tate says good things about Romania despite his current legal issues, and Eastern Europe still has traditional women. Good luck bro!
Many times, women have hurts and pains from previous relationships that they carry into their connections with you. Other times, it might be something you're doing.
I didn't realize this until I found inner peace, but people carry a lot of hurt throughout their lives that rears its ugly head at rather inconvenient times. As hard as it is to not take some of their behavior personally, it's not personal.
Younger women are used to being pursued. They become accustomed to it. They don't respect it. Like a man where food or money is never in doubt, doesn't necessarily take concerns about where the next meal or rent check is coming from, seriously.
When women get older and the interest dries up, it comes as a massive massive shock for them.
I don't think I got two sentences in... hit the weights. All of that stuff doesn't matter if you're buff. Just get buff and you get all the vadge... it's pretty simple.
Because the motherfuckers have so much to choose from. If you ain't 100% to start with they will just move on. You have to be really physically attractive to them or have a lot of money, then they will tolerate your short comings. Any time you deal with a God damn woman expect hurt feelings and let downs.
Stop worrying abiut getting dates and just enjoy life. Go on that trip without trying to date.
Life is easier when you dont have to consider other people
attractive women have many option and they always look for the best , u have to compete against other men
You are obviously doing something wrong.
I do not find that they are for the most part. It could simply be a case of those to whom you are most attracted possess that quirk. Maybe try casting a wider net?
You're not the problem, these women have a lot of options and end up ignoring hundreds of guys.
When you talk to your female friends and ask them for feedback, what have they said to you?
i think it's social media convincing women they have more options than they really do
Men do it so why can't women? It's not our responsibility to fix you
WHAT IS NUMBER 6 ON THE LIST
THAT WILL TELL YOU EVERYTHING
They have to many options. You have to basically buy women. Money isn't everything but without it you aren't getting sh*t (or lower your standards)
Pretty safe to say something you're doing or something about you is turning girls off.
What do u consider playful?
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