Should I contact this girl from work who has left?

[Anonymous]

I have had a crush on her since last year and she left the company in September 2022.

Even after this time i still like her but we aren't really in contact. I’m considering hitting her up.

i think she knew i liked her because she noticed i got nervous around her and she kept asking me why. She has also been touchy with me outside our office. And she has also spent some time with me during lunch when she was still working here. She has also asked me if i have a girlfriend.

however, im not sure if she was just being friendly or interested.

would contacting her be a good decision? If yes, what should i message her?

[JackCarter]

Yep.. sure thing.
Try starting with "unsuspicious" messages , like where's she now and what's she up to nowadays..

[Asker]

I was considering tell her why i get nervous. She has asked me why i get nervous and if i have a crush on anyone.

But the thing is i am contacting her after 10 months.

[JackCarter]

Uh...10 months? I really wish you contacted her earlier.. but no worries
Now since its 10 months , I would say the same... start chatting normally to check whether she is still into you!
I mean, whatever you say.. please do contact her and give it a try !
Good luck..

[Asker]

Thank you

[Eden9]

You can try, I mean why not

[Asker]

In a girl’s pov, would u not feel weird if a coworker msgd u after 10 months?

[MadhuriDixit]

Not if you start with friendly enquires , it would seem like just a friend checking in on you!

[Asker]

@MadhuriDixit i see.

by the way that username lol. you're also from india i guess. See, the thing is its kinda weird in india, the dating scene i mean. I’m not sure how she will react to my message, if she is even gonna check it.

[Asker]

Ok this backfired hard.

I sent her this on insta:

“Hey how are you doing? Sorry for the random DM. We were coworkers at (company name) in 2022.

I know this is a really bad timing and weird message, but I wanted to say something.

You have asked me a few times why I get nervous, and you have also asked if someone ever had a crush on a coworker during a game of Never Have I Ever at the 1st Anniversary of (company name) back in July. I did have one on you, and I still do till now. You have also asked me if I have never talked to girls, and no, I haven’t. You are right about that, which is why this text may seem awkward to read.

I have been overthinking this for a long time and today I wanted to spill it out.

I’m not sure if there is anything mutual but I just wanted to let you know. I never had the guts to say this face to face and also because we were at work.

I have no idea about your current dating situation and this message may have been sent to you during a time where you are already dating someone, or maybe you aren’t interested in me, or maybe you won’t even read this message. But that’s fine. I just wanted to speak my mind out.”

She said “hey (my name), im good, thanks. What about you? Thanks for the confession I respect that. We can be good friends i see no problem in that. Are you still working in (company name)?”

She then sent me a follow request. I accepted it and sent a request back.

I said “hey, im also good ty. No i left (company name) back in march 2023. Wbu?”

After that i realized that she blocked me. I feel bad for having confessed to her.

[OddBeMe]

Don’t see why not