Do You Think Modern Dating Has Some Ridiculous Red Flags?

[fonduegirl]

i come across quite a few :

- messy eater

- eats with mouth open

- takes more than five minutes to respond to text

- doesn't call or video call

Etc.

like all right, these things sound bad. awful in fact. but a red flag is precisely toxic and these things just... aren't. so do you agree that some people state their red flags without knowing what they stand for

[zebronics]

I don't believe in dating, in general sociologically or psychologically by dating yone will not able to know a person, people pretend to be good, or show of their good characteristics, and it's easy to pretend to be good for 2/3 months or years, once you are done enjoying, and now you are fed up, go for another one... You see in the society how our boys and girls change their partner as they change their clothes, for how many people dating works! Maybe 3 to 5 % people end up getting married and have a long-term relationship. Being a student of Sociology, if you want to know a person genuinely, then go and ask his/her childhood friends about her characteristics, or ask in the neighbourhood, or teachers, or father in the church or Imam of the Masjid, because these people know him/her for long time when he/she need not to pretend to impress anyone to get something out of them, and it's not even possible to pretend for Decades... so for the purpose we date, we actually don't get that by dating, old traditional ways are much better and sociologically accepted, with better long term relationship results.🌱

[fonduegirl]

Mm-kay

[RealMarek]

I agree completely. I wouldn’t call eating with one’s mouth open a red flag. It’s not something I would ever put on a dating profile as one of my red flags. That said, if a woman was uncouth I couldn’t guarantee she would get a second date.

[fonduegirl]

It's a turn off, or even deal breaker... But red flag? Hell no.

[RealMarek]

Agreed. Missing red flags is a lot worse.

[fonduegirl]

Definitely.

[PrettyCrumblBb]

A red flag is any guy that send dick pics. Any guy with a bad temper. Any guy that doesn't say "sorry" when wrong or say "thank you" when you compliment him. Any guy that has paid for OF or any other prostitute services. Any guy that vents to strippers. Any guy that has a rocky relationship with his parents or siblings. Any guy that can't takes jokes. Any guy with a low IQ. Any guy that calls women hos for sleeping around yet he does that same thing. Any guy that does drugs or drinks alcohol. Guys that think words like hun, sweetheart, baby, good girl are a turn on. They're not!

Ohh and if all his ex's are bad or he sees all women as the same. Like bruh u choose those women and u souronded yourself with those type of women.

[fonduegirl]

Yeah, I dated someone who had a whole lot stories of his bad exes lmao

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Yeah he was the common denominator lmao

[Kaneki05]

One can't control if they parents are shit so that red flag seems dumb to me even if one has more conservative views. But each to their own red flags shrugs.

[fonduegirl]

@Kaneki05 it's usually a red flag, but there can be exceptions. I personally don't mind

[Anonymous]

Doesn’t call or video call or text.

This usually happens when you haven’t met in person. They don’t know you. So they don’t prioritize you. First meet up. Hear eachother’s voice. Smells eachother’s scent. Otherwise it’s a dead end. They’re never gonna text.

[Kaneki05]

Red flag would be thinking those are red flags. Though 5min one could be so, You can't really stay up all night texting someone if they are taking 5mins between texts lol.

[fonduegirl]

That was an example

[fonduegirl]

And the person who said so is a minor, my brother's friend

[Kaneki05]

People who haven't learnt are red flags but also one has to date them for them to learn.

[fonduegirl]

Learnt as in formal education or?

[Kaneki05]

Defiantly non-formal. One learns from experience mostly or they be rare and learn beforehand but even then still experience would be better.

[fonduegirl]

So dating experience wise?

[Kaneki05]

More you date the more experience the more you learn. Unless you are one of those who chooses to never learn and repeat the same mistakes which is 100% a red flag right there.

[fonduegirl]

I see

[mandyfire98]

Somebody who gets mad that it takes more than 5 minutes to text is the true red flag. That person is controlling and impatient. Its 5 freaking minutes. That's nothing.

[gothbxtch]

yes, a lot of men especially that i’ve noticed have ridiculous red flags and standards.

https://youtu.be/YScBnNRkaWs

[ericclayton]

Some people are too picky about the little things while ignoring the big things.

[fonduegirl]

That's true

[SnowedIn]

OMG -- you used italics. That's a red flag!!!

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[ChiTown33]

Absolutely. I'm always amused by the red flags some people come up with on here.😂 And people wonder why the dating world is so screwed up.

[Lionman95]

I think yes I pretty much but the problem is I don´t see how things should go back to normal but instead it´s getting worse and worse.

[LiamJHayden]

Yes and no. I find many or most of them absurd, but other people have the right to think differently about these things and to have whatever boundaries they want.

[shades777]

lets hear some green flags for a change huh, realistic ones

[Dessiiguy30]

Taking more than 5 mins to respond not a red flag really 😏

[Agape93]

Those are stupid honestly. Annoying at worst.