Is it ok if the girl asks the guy out for a date?

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I'm thinking about it seriously. I will pay too since I am the one to ask out, right?

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Okay so I read your question and I had to start laughing

Because I think your question is great because I've never heard this side of it before

Usually all I hear is broke dudes trying to get laid trying to tell the girl how much they like them but they're bitching because the girl won't pay her half of the bill

That right there is the most stupidest ignorant thing I've ever heard in my life

I don't know about anybody else I could care less when I go out with a girl and I ask her out I'm going to pay for it I don't care if it's on a date I don't care if it's to go to the 7-Eleven and get a slurpee I don't care if it's to go to California for a road trip I'm going to pay for it

When I ask a girl out it's usually because I like her I like being around her I enjoy her company I enjoy her I enjoy her brain her logic her thinking her heart who she is as a person and I want to be with that person why in the world would I get an argument and make her pay for something when I want to be with her that's so stupid

If I'm with a friend and we say hey let's go over here and get coffee and donuts or let's go grab something to eat real quick before we go watch the football game or something I'm going to pay for it this is what I work for this is why I do side jobs this is why I saved my money so I can do things that I want to do

So now I read your question and I have to laugh because just because of the way that you said it you said since you ask the person out you want to pay your half and that cracks me up why not just pay for the whole thing

What I say is do whatever you're comfortable of doing if you ask me out I'm going to eat what I want to eat which is probably going to be pretty expensive but I'm going to end up paying the whole thing because if I say yes to you to go out with you it's because I like you I enjoy your company if you wanted to have an argument about it I would say okay hold on we're going to flip a coin heads whoever gets heads they have to pay tails you have to pay the tip and I would be done with it let's go have fun now

Glyn54 · Accepted Answer

Of course it's OK for a woman to ask a man out on a date. Why not?

It's very flattering to be asked out by a woman. I've had a few chase me over the years and I've always been willing to give them a go because they had the guts to ask.
It's hard being a guy and asking women out, only to be rejected. Most women reject you in a nice and respectful way (except, perhaps, on dating sites) - but it's still a rejection.

Who pays on a first date? I, as a man, usually do so or offer to do so but if a woiman offers to go 50/50 I will usually go along with that - especially if I think that there might not be a next date. I don't think a woman has ever paid for me on a first date but, if she asked me out, and she said that she wanted to pay, I would gratefully allow her to do so.

Obviously the best solution is always 50/50 regardless of who asked who out.

If you like a guy, and you've flirted with him and he hasn't taken the hint (yet) fee free to ask away. You might be rejected but he may just be too shy to ask. Men are also not good at reading the signs accurately. Sometimes we think that a woman who is just being friendly is coming on to us and sometimes we assume that a woman is just being friendly when she IS coming on to us. We are just useless at telling the difference (well I am anyway).

Adaeva · Accepted Answer

It probably will not do any good. If you ask very attractive men, the type of men you could have had when you were 10 years younger, they will probably make some excuse because they can date younger and prettier women. If they do accept, it is not your money men are after.

EmmaMary · Accepted Answer

@marish01  Absolutely right it is... Why on earth wouldn't it be? Wishing you all the luck in the world. 🤞

Avicenna · Answer

Of course. It's always OK for a woman to ask a man out.

AviatorTom · Answer

Of course, and yes, the asker usually pays

Alli39 · Answer

Yes to both, the only reason not to would be if you know him to be really "traditional" in the sense of dating. Otherwise go for it, I'm under the impression that most guys who aren't completely hung up on gender roles actually really appreciate being asked out, gives them a break from putting themselves out there all the time and sometimes lets them feel desirable.

matchrestore · Answer

Yup. My wife initiated a lot of our initial dates. We were both kinda awkward at our first date and I didn't think anything would come of it until she asked me out for another date, so there's a good chance we wouldn't be together if she hadn't asked me out. That second date went a lot better!

RavVid · Answer

Problematic in my view. Some girls have made it positively ungentlemanly for me not to ask them out and I think that is the better approach.

Girls complain that guys don't pick up on signals. That's because the signals are too subtle and body language is not absolute but relative to the person. How do I distinguish between a girl who is naturally chatty with everyone and a girl who is not so talkative normally but is chatty with me because she likes me? Difficult.

I would prefer to issue the invitation and I would not be so comfortable with you paying though splitting would be fine.

Body language is not absolute but relative to the person. If you are not chatty with other people but a

Lliam · Answer

It's perfectly fine as far as I'm concerned. It has happened to me before and I admired their spunk, courage and interest.

Assume you will pay since you are the one doing the inviting, but if he says "No, no, I've got this" be gracious and allow him to be a gentleman.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I have played that role before. I say, do it.

Anonymous · Answer

I thinks it's ok. Honestly, I don't thinks it's necessary most of the time though. I think most women are just far too subtle with thier hints most the time. But I can understand you just wanting to cut to the chase. NOBODY likes rejection, but I've never understood why some women think it makes them look desperate. I think it just makes them look like they know what they want and are unafraid to communicate it. I think some women just perpetuate the "desperate" myth because they don't want to put themselves out there. And they know if other women ask men out that puts her at a disadvantage. And she simply doesn't want to raise her game.

Senator754 · Answer

All the woman I have dated who asked me out and paid for the date were respected by me out, simply by the thought and appreciation I had for this gesture. Understand that it may not lead to another date for reciprocity. As they say, you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet your prince. Good luck.

Deformate · Answer

Just do it. You're only here for a finite time. Dont spend weeks debating, just get in, ask and get out (or get going). Men love it cos it takes out a lot of stress of approaching women. (We assume a 95% rejection rating at all times, its hard to overcome when it keeps happening)

kakaling · Answer

I am actually quite slow in term of dating knowledge compared to most, there was once a girl that I know of for years not very familiar with, suddenly asked me out, I thought of it of just some reconnection, long after that then I realized she is actually trying to date me, stupid me.

musicbrain5 · Answer

It's perfectly okay. Go for it and good luck!

Nick1976G · Answer

I think the confidence it takes to ask someone on a date is a huge turn on. If you want to go out with him, take the chance and ask. Chances are good that he'll say yes.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

To be safe you might want to check with your local code enforcement to make sure it doesn’t violate any laws or ordinances & if it doesn’t & a permit isn’t required it’s ok.

exitseven · Answer

Yes, I was really shy and too afraid to ask out a girl even if I knew she liked me. I might have appreciated a little push. However if you do this yuo should bring your wallet.

loveslongnails · Answer

In your culture, you tell us, -is it considered ok or not, and even if it isn't, will you do it? I say go for it.

Billlewis · Answer

Of course it's okay for a woman to ask a guy for a date, but I think the guy should always pay, no matter what.

CindyRuns · Answer

Of course it is... I'm happily married to a guy who I made the first move on !!!

empathylove · Answer

Absolutely.  I think sometimes it's better to be proactive rather than beating around the bush.

Yannishka · Answer

It's ok. If you like him and he doesn't do anything, nothing is going to happen.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, it sounds good to ask a guy out.

ImalwaysrightOK · Answer

Absolutely. You can pay but most guys would like to pay, even if you ask. It's the gentlemanly thing.

Alex-Snow · Answer

Of course it is ok. I have been asked a few times and it was fun!

Berethor · Answer

Everyone should pay for oneself, and yea you 33, you don't have much time to waste.

violetlily · Answer

I did that for someone I thought was truly interested in me after going out with him a couple of times. And was ghosted shortly after lmao. I still say yes but I guess just don't get your feelings involved or expect him to be appreciative.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Of course. I've had babes ask me out. Though definitely prefer the other way

Lokiion · Answer

Yeah why wouldn’t it be it’s not the 1900s anymore if you do this be prepared to pay the bill since you asked him out or you could go 50/50

EaterPeter · Answer

Yes but don't pay. Let him pay if he want to pay offer tip or 1/3rd instead. You can pay if you wish but that would be starting off the wrong foot. Talk about you paying forehand and see how he reacts

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Yeah thats fine. Don't pay his half though. Just pay yours.

Fireguy17 · Answer

It sure is. For myself it would be a refreshing change.

Reem12345reem · Answer

No , later on he'll depend on u initiating everything ,

Jerre · Answer

Yes, it’s ok to ask a man out. But about paying for the food, I would wait before paying. More than likely, he will offer to pay.

BigDog1989 · Answer

Yeah. Is it sad and desp. sure, but, she still can

Pohjolan · Answer

Yes its ok. In other news; water is wet and the sun is hot.

Guido · Answer

Go for it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking a guy out.

Shy_Steve · Answer

Go for it, There is no reason not to if your both Single.

Anonymous · Answer

It's a woman's job to approach us men. We are the prize we have the penis. So you have to impress us too.

Anonymous · Answer

It should be more socially acceptable but why do I get the feeling this gender Norm or gender Dynamic will forever be one-sided

SpaceGalaxy · Answer

No, be the lady that you are, let the man ask you out and also pay for dinner.

Yellovv · Answer

Yes why not, because maybe he is thinking you have boyfriend..

MementoMori777 · Answer

You are still stuck on this Marish? 😂

katiesmuff · Answer

I think that would be fine

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Go for it. It's okay. :)

sheenagwapa · Answer

i also wanna try this 😭😭😭😭

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Sure, why not?

sheikalana · Answer

It's very okay.

NYCQuestions1976 · Answer

Sure, why not? It's the 21st century.

soe11 · Answer

Absolutely okay in 21st century.

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes fine and you do that

Dkc123 · Answer

It was always ok. Not just now.

Staximus · Answer

If the guy is clueless then yes haha

zagor · Answer

Yes, of course.

April_love · Answer

Yeah ofc switch the roles

Snakeyes7 · Answer

If anything it is preferred.

Kelly6 · Answer

Totally ok

rebeliouse · Answer

ye fine to ask guy out and no just go dutch

Avangella · Answer

Of course it is

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Is definitely ok

CubaPirate · Answer

Why shouldn't it be

eagle1951 · Answer

sure, where and when lol

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