Is it Okay for a Girl to Ask a Guy Out?

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Smoothing · Accepted Answer

Absolutely. It is the norm that guys ask girls out, but that doesn't mean a girl can't ask a guy out. Otherwise, if you like a guy and he doesn't know, what do you do? Just hope he asks you? If that is the attitude, then a girl will never get the guy she wants. Plain simple.

It is funny because as much as people don't want to believe it, women have been asking men out for centuries. It is just that their was a subtle strategy to it. Not even as complicated as it may seem but there was a subtle strategy.

Four words: presentation, communication, dedication, and submission. Those are key words in a traditional woman's way of asking a guy out and making sure that he will want to marry her.

DoctorSex · Accepted Answer

Of course.

However be prepared for rejection.

I love women who are willing to ask guys out. These are women who are willing to negotiate from the position of the one who is chasing. Instead of the one being chased. Being the one who chases tends to reep huge interpersonal developments, regardless of how the situation ends. The one being chased just responds. There's no personal development involved in it.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

MissMam · Accepted Answer

HELL YHA! I have asked out a few guys and I ended up dating them for a while, plus if you've got the guts go for it! It may be more common for the guy to make the firs move but girls can do the same they just need to find the courage, and there is nothing stopping them except themselves and peoples stuck in the past. And in the past alought of things where messed up on how people perceived them to be with mannerisms' and the racemize and seism back then was the worst. SO if your stuck in the past, look at the world in front of you, you may not like it, but it is what we all live in.

bubblegunnn · Accepted Answer

in my opinion its ok AS LONG AS u also read his sign that he is into u as well.. if not, im afraid either he's not attracted to u or he's playing u and take advantages of u..

U should aware his energy first after talking w him..
there's also shy guys who secretly like a girl but never ask her out as they are scared to lose friendship, or afraid fo face rejection.. in this case if the girls initiative to ask him out and make a move, itll be better right.. BUT if he doesn't feel the same way as u do, u should be prepared to face the rejection..

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Yes, but women of my generation NEVER do that. Maybe there is a rare exception out there somehere, but I dont know any guy my age who has ever had a girl ask him for a date.

I would be flattered and, if I had any interest in the lady, I would accept the date. But I would still pay for the date. . . because I'm a traditional guy and that's what we do.

Guy13 · Answer

Yes it most definitely is... if you ask him over to your place for end of evening get together then one can surely ask out on date.

Bethany22 · Answer

Yes but you'll always wonder if the guy is a lazy jerk

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes why wouldn’t it be? Actually the girl’s that have asked me out that I liked as well were my best relationships that lasted the longest , Not really sure why that is but my guess is because Girl’s are more emotional then guys are, so if a girl is asking me out she is more than likely drawn to my personality visual as well but not as much as a guy asking a girl out, Guys are more attracted to her beauty so he is more visual than a girl is , and less on the personality side then a girl has for a guy. This is just my guess on things , I don’t consider myself that attractive so when I get a girl interested in me I pretty much think she is drawn to my personality , and that I must have some features on me that she likes lol I have been told through the years that I have a big heart and that I am a nice guy , so If a girl tells me I am hot I laugh and say do you need glasses lol

silvermoon84 · Answer

It is. I personally wouldn’t recommend doing it because I’ve tried it myself and didn’t have any success LOL however, I don’t advise against it either. Just because it doesn’t work for me doesn’t mean it won’t work for another girl. If anything I would commend her for it and pray it works for her.

TheorionMage · Answer

At the initial onset, SHE finds SOMETHING observable 'attractive' about YOU and is willing to invest her time (and possible finances) to learn MORE about you. THIS, IS true Feminist equality, ... to RISK rejection, polite or crudely.

To become CANDIDLY "the Aggressor" and FEEL both the exhilaration and phenomena of YOUR and HIS pragmatic short term 'hidden agendas' and to deal with "does THIS warrant 'going further'? " SHE has far more societally reputation-wise at risk; but reciprocally gender-ally 'true' that "Faint heart n'ere 'won' fair Companion".
NO risk, NO gain~

MichaelEspinoza · Answer

Yes , I whole heartdley support any woman wanting to ask out a guy of they're choice. Here's my opinion on this as a male - if a female wants to ask out a male she fancies & would like for him to be her significant other Then she should be encouraged & allowed to ask her male friend out. We live in a society where only Men are to be the pursuers but I believe women should also be allowed to be the pursuers & not afraid to go after the Man she wants to be with.

Ndyaaum · Answer

Yes even tho back in the days you suppose to wait for the guy to ask you out.. but so many guys got heart broken due to rejection or heartbreaks so today they spare their feelings (basically putting up a wall) so yes asking a guy out can tell him a yes or no if you carry yourself differently.. but he would like it especially when you putting yourself out there

beast25179 · Answer

As a shy male I welcome women that feel i am worthy enough of their time to ask me out since I find it difficult to talk to women or even ask them out too many bad experiences now I am more embarrassed talking to women and stutter and fall over my words all it take to intimidate me is a female that smiles at me

Weapon77 · Answer

Yes, most guys would love to be asked out. It's far easier than us asking out several girls and being rejected by many of them just to get one or two to agree to a date. Any guy who doesn't like it is either super traditional or an asshole... maybe both.

Does it mean the guy will agree to go out? no. But just asking wouldn't hurt.

all_hayl · Answer

There are no rules for who must ask out who. I have gathered that women find it attractive when men take initiate, make confident decisions etc, but that doesn’t mean a woman can’t ask out a man. I wouldn’t care if I woman asked me out. As others may have mentioned, as long as you understand that they might say no, and you’re secure enough to not take it personally, then go for it.

eagleriverjohn · Answer

I think it's fine and actually should be done more. There's no good reason for anyone to not be able to ask someone out just because it's not what is typical. I'd personally be happy if a girl asked me out because I usually overthink things and end up chickening out, so it would be reassuring to me if she expressed interest like that.

Chris_u006 · Answer

Those who voted no are either neanderthals, homoerectus or ape minded and not as bright as the latest ape version homosapiens.
Take offense is fully allowed but = handing me the reciept of me being factual at the same time. Darn it I just realised that homosapiens might be the brighter kind of apes after all, that is what you get when you aren't always nice and loving. Look at me but look down at me and not up, you will only get taken down if you look up to me.
/Typical monkey like anyone else, whoohh whoooh aah aaah aaah aah!
🦧

JHNS98 · Answer

Yes. My god, yes! Most guys are tired of this gender norm. Personally I prefer when girls atart talking to me one of these occasions developed into my biggest crush yet. We just clicked, and then I caused a huge heartbreak by touching her in an inappropriate place...

I realise that this is incredibly rare, as it hasn't happened to me since, which is more than five years ago now. I tried seeing someone casually last year, but it led nowhere and she just ghosted me.

Likes2drive · Answer

Yeah it’s going to be the same risk of rejection but probably less likely than it is for a guy asking, men don’t get asked out very often so they would be intrigued and flattered even if not interested. Only problem would be is if they are taken

MCheetah · Answer

Of course it is. Why do so many women make these excuses that no guys want to be asked out?

Mysticality · Answer

It is possible but I look like trash!!!

Curiousnesshmmm · Answer

Of course why wouldn’t it be, as a guy it gets really tiresome having to do everything knowing because of social norms females tend to not ask guys out etc. girls do like the whole process of being pursued but damn. What if the guy is just a little shy then you’d never know now wouldn’t you so if you’re feeling it ask. Rules are meant to be broken there is no rule book that states you can’t do a certain thing unless it’s illegal

AmyHew1tt · Answer

I think yeah, absolutely. The only thing I would be concerned about is that often a guy will go out with a woman just because of the ego swell, and not necessarily because he really likes her. But that's another matter.

ChillaxingLove · Answer

If your interested definitely it’s ok to let us know. But always keep in your mind don’t be aggressive in the relationship or in other words allow him to be the man. Don’t know how else to explain or put it.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I look at it like: we are fellow human beings. I happen to have a dick, she doesn't. So, if it's okay for me to ask her out, why wouldn't it be okay for her to ask me out? Why does gender have to play a role?

RichardCranium6201 · Answer

Yes, but it all depends on the guy. Some guys like myself would be surprised, but would not be bothered by this. In fact, it has happened to me. To me, now a days, it don't matter. If u want something, then go get that something.

QuadDamage · Answer

What guy would reject a woman asking him out, unless he's taken. In this world? Lol, that's a dream scenario. It rarely happens and is very good! Best of luck 👍

hellfirec · Answer

Please ask him. Especially if he is a shy person. I am dealing with the same guy like him. He is interested still doesn’t initiate the conversation. Or hasn’t expressed himself. 🥲 I do the job for both of us.

saucyduck23 · Answer

Yes it is. For a girl to ask a perfect guy out would be extremely rare today.

Instead, girls ask rich asshole guys to have sex with them because they're so entitled and all they worry about is your money and how big his di*k is. I love this fu*king world already.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

I would go so far as to say it’s absolutely necessary in a society in which men’s lives and livelihoods are being destroyed for initiating contact with women.

spartan55 · Answer

Of course it is. Pink users, please, I am begging you, LOOK AT THE POLL.  Please put the myth of not wanting to appear 'desperate' to rest. At this point it can only considered as an excuse.

Looksnicholas · Answer

As long as it's not too strongly said, you know, but polite invitation to go on a date surely is always welcomed right no differently than women wanting a man to ask them out, politely 🥳

mstbooblover · Answer

Of course that's OK. I'd love a lady asking me out, but sadly enough that does not happen... At least there would be no doubt about the girl's interest.

DWornock · Answer

Naturally guys would love to be asked if asked by a girl he is attracted to. The problem is that almost always when a girl asks a guy, she is not a girl he is attracted to. That forces him to make some excuse or accept when he doesn't really want to.

dustybiker · Answer

If it wasn’t I’d never have dated and would still be single.

bayoubob · Answer

Introverts are so unassuming. Yet we are what? The quiet type. Mama or your Grand Ma ma tells you about us. We love that. Stay away! At the same time, we are so unassuming to a fault.

Dargil · Answer

Yes. It can be subtle, like saying: "How about you buy me a cup of coffee at Starbuck's sometime?" The next move is on the guy but he has to make that move.

BobbieBoy666 · Answer

Back when I was in my twenties I had a girl asked me out then later she made the first sexual move to. 💞

GreenLanternI0I · Answer

Why it shouldn't be? If you really like and want something, you should go and get it yourself right? lol.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

In life if you never try you will never know & if you like someone let them know & don’t be afraid to ask them out.

msc545 · Answer

This is greatly appreciated by me and actually stands out in my memory as being some of the best dates I've ever had. If you do this for me I will always remember you with gratitude. I am a very shy person and this makes things so much easier

User3191989 · Answer

A girl asked me to "hang out". Did she ask me out

I'm only asking because I have reason to believe she has a boyfriend. So, if she asked me out, then why? Why did she ask me out, if she has a boyfriend

Youryeodongsaeng · Answer

Yes. Because there are some guys who cannot bring themselves to ask the girl out.

Bruuu · Answer

big YES but please, make sure he's into you, just like we try to make sure you're into us when we ask out

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Never made them mad when I did it. What is the harm in letting them now that you like them? You made their day.

IHateBeingaMan · Answer

the world would definetley be a much better place if women approached men or asked men out just as much as men did to women, if women were the initiators far more often, but i know thats delusional thinking

glennos89 · Answer

Totally fine. More woman should let a guy know that they she is into him instead of waiting for him to ask her out

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Why wouldn't it be, I've asked out dozens of guys.

Emilyis · Answer

I actually ask my husband out on our first date when we were in the 9th grade.

PizzaPieMamaBear · Answer

Eeeeewwww I just threw up in my mouth a little bit. We’re the pretty ones they ask us out

Softguy · Answer

Of course it's ok, please do or guys like me will be forced into involuntary celibacy 😂 we're too shy to make a move.

crossdressingrihno · Answer

It’s preferable for us guys. We’d prefer things be simple for us

ChattyGuy43 · Answer

I think that's fine. If I dont ask a girl out that I like than I'd hope she'd ask me out if she likes me

frognzl · Answer

Not only is it okay it should happen more often but it’s not the case unfortunately so the shy guys miss out.

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

Yes I honestly don't understand why most women tend to prefer playing hard to get instead of actually telling the guy they like him.

Nigjt · Answer

I'll put it this way if a Man has a problem with a Woman asking him out then he just might be ( Gay for real an this brain is FUCK off ) . God Bless

XLBBC4White · Answer

Of course it is and when it has I always take it as a huge compliment - even if I'm not interested. And guys, if a female does take that chance on you - be gracious.

DCowboy4747 · Answer

When I was younger, I was clueless and had been asked out by a few girls since I was missing the signals they were sending. So ya, it is ok in my opinion.

Mtbgirl · Answer

Why isn’t it. If you like the person go for it. What have you to loose? A no. Big deal.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

It’s okay to, but don’t be surprised if you catch some guy off guard lol

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, it's okay for a girl to ask a guy out.

moviedude714 · Answer

It absolutely sure is but why do I get the feeling this will never become more common or normalized

TwiNshichamp1 · Answer

Yes, girls are also humans, they have feelings like guys too.

Subarugirl · Answer

Yeah worked out for me. We’ve been married 5 years now

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