Is it Okay for a Girl to Ask a Guy Out?

[Cheriecoco]

Yes

No

[Smoothing]

Absolutely. It is the norm that guys ask girls out, but that doesn't mean a girl can't ask a guy out. Otherwise, if you like a guy and he doesn't know, what do you do? Just hope he asks you? If that is the attitude, then a girl will never get the guy she wants. Plain simple.

It is funny because as much as people don't want to believe it, women have been asking men out for centuries. It is just that their was a subtle strategy to it. Not even as complicated as it may seem but there was a subtle strategy.

Four words: presentation, communication, dedication, and submission. Those are key words in a traditional woman's way of asking a guy out and making sure that he will want to marry her.

[Cheriecoco]

Aww ☺️ how thank you

[DoctorSex]

Of course.

However be prepared for rejection.

I love women who are willing to ask guys out. These are women who are willing to negotiate from the position of the one who is chasing. Instead of the one being chased. Being the one who chases tends to reep huge interpersonal developments, regardless of how the situation ends. The one being chased just responds. There's no personal development involved in it.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

[MissMam]

HELL YHA! I have asked out a few guys and I ended up dating them for a while, plus if you've got the guts go for it! It may be more common for the guy to make the firs move but girls can do the same they just need to find the courage, and there is nothing stopping them except themselves and peoples stuck in the past. And in the past alought of things where messed up on how people perceived them to be with mannerisms' and the racemize and seism back then was the worst. SO if your stuck in the past, look at the world in front of you, you may not like it, but it is what we all live in.

[bubblegunnn]

in my opinion its ok AS LONG AS u also read his sign that he is into u as well.. if not, im afraid either he's not attracted to u or he's playing u and take advantages of u..

U should aware his energy first after talking w him..
there's also shy guys who secretly like a girl but never ask her out as they are scared to lose friendship, or afraid fo face rejection.. in this case if the girls initiative to ask him out and make a move, itll be better right.. BUT if he doesn't feel the same way as u do, u should be prepared to face the rejection..

[Cheriecoco]

Aww ☺️ thank you 🙏 so much

[bubblegunnn]

Your welcome.. r u gonna ask him out tho?

[Cheriecoco]

Yes I will ☺️

[bubblegunnn]

U see good energy from him? Like he's might be into u as well

[Cheriecoco]

Yes , but seems like he’s a shy man can’t even start a conversation.

[bubblegunnn]

Umm. Thats gonna be ur job to make him laugh and enjoy ur company then 😉

[archnightt]

Yess! the girl I'm talking to right now approached me at a college event and if it wasn't for that I never would've talked to her because I'm kinda socially awkward with new people and don't want to embarrass myself so I rely on dating apps :(

[spartan55]

This is good advice. 👍

[bubblegunnn]

@archnightt but did u like her as well before she asked u out?

[bubblegunnn]

@spartan55 thankyouuu

[archnightt]

I had never seen her before but I did once we started talking

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, but women of my generation NEVER do that. Maybe there is a rare exception out there somehere, but I dont know any guy my age who has ever had a girl ask him for a date.

I would be flattered and, if I had any interest in the lady, I would accept the date. But I would still pay for the date. . . because I'm a traditional guy and that's what we do.

[Mewzinc]

Would you date a woman 30 or 40 years younger than you?

[OlderAndWiser]

@Mewzinc Yes, but

1. Most importantly, I am already in a committed, exclusive relationship and contemplating proposing in the next 2-3 months, so everything else is based on IF I WAS STILL DATING. . .

2. The odds on that working are very low and most women have no interest, so I do not pursue women who are younger than 55.

3. If a younger woman was interested, I probably would never initiate the interaction as I woud expect to be rejected and would not want to make the woman feel uncomfortable.

4. If she was a mature woman and we had similar interests, her attentions would be very flattering.

[bruno17707]

That confuses me because if a girl likes a boy and doesn’t ask him out she misses out.

[OlderAndWiser]

@bruno17707 There are many thngs in life which will not comport with your sense of logic. That's life. Get used to it or stay frustrated; not much of a choice.

[Guy13]

Yes it most definitely is... if you ask him over to your place for end of evening get together then one can surely ask out on date.

[Cheriecoco]

Sound good 👍

[Guy13]

Hope it works out well for you 😎

[Bethany22]

Yes but you'll always wonder if the guy is a lazy jerk

[Finchie40]

Yes why wouldn’t it be? Actually the girl’s that have asked me out that I liked as well were my best relationships that lasted the longest , Not really sure why that is but my guess is because Girl’s are more emotional then guys are, so if a girl is asking me out she is more than likely drawn to my personality visual as well but not as much as a guy asking a girl out, Guys are more attracted to her beauty so he is more visual than a girl is , and less on the personality side then a girl has for a guy. This is just my guess on things , I don’t consider myself that attractive so when I get a girl interested in me I pretty much think she is drawn to my personality , and that I must have some features on me that she likes lol I have been told through the years that I have a big heart and that I am a nice guy , so If a girl tells me I am hot I laugh and say do you need glasses lol

[Cheriecoco]

Wow 🤩

[silvermoon84]

It is. I personally wouldn’t recommend doing it because I’ve tried it myself and didn’t have any success LOL however, I don’t advise against it either. Just because it doesn’t work for me doesn’t mean it won’t work for another girl. If anything I would commend her for it and pray it works for her.

[Cheriecoco]

Thank you 😊

[TheorionMage]

At the initial onset, SHE finds SOMETHING observable 'attractive' about YOU and is willing to invest her time (and possible finances) to learn MORE about you. THIS, IS true Feminist equality, ... to RISK rejection, polite or crudely.

To become CANDIDLY "the Aggressor" and FEEL both the exhilaration and phenomena of YOUR and HIS pragmatic short term 'hidden agendas' and to deal with "does THIS warrant 'going further'? " SHE has far more societally reputation-wise at risk; but reciprocally gender-ally 'true' that "Faint heart n'ere 'won' fair Companion".
NO risk, NO gain~

[MichaelEspinoza]

Yes , I whole heartdley support any woman wanting to ask out a guy of they're choice. Here's my opinion on this as a male - if a female wants to ask out a male she fancies & would like for him to be her significant other Then she should be encouraged & allowed to ask her male friend out. We live in a society where only Men are to be the pursuers but I believe women should also be allowed to be the pursuers & not afraid to go after the Man she wants to be with.

[Ndyaaum]

Yes even tho back in the days you suppose to wait for the guy to ask you out.. but so many guys got heart broken due to rejection or heartbreaks so today they spare their feelings (basically putting up a wall) so yes asking a guy out can tell him a yes or no if you carry yourself differently.. but he would like it especially when you putting yourself out there

[beast25179]

As a shy male I welcome women that feel i am worthy enough of their time to ask me out since I find it difficult to talk to women or even ask them out too many bad experiences now I am more embarrassed talking to women and stutter and fall over my words all it take to intimidate me is a female that smiles at me

[Weapon77]

Yes, most guys would love to be asked out. It's far easier than us asking out several girls and being rejected by many of them just to get one or two to agree to a date. Any guy who doesn't like it is either super traditional or an asshole... maybe both.

Does it mean the guy will agree to go out? no. But just asking wouldn't hurt.

[all_hayl]

There are no rules for who must ask out who. I have gathered that women find it attractive when men take initiate, make confident decisions etc, but that doesn’t mean a woman can’t ask out a man. I wouldn’t care if I woman asked me out. As others may have mentioned, as long as you understand that they might say no, and you’re secure enough to not take it personally, then go for it.

[eagleriverjohn]

I think it's fine and actually should be done more. There's no good reason for anyone to not be able to ask someone out just because it's not what is typical. I'd personally be happy if a girl asked me out because I usually overthink things and end up chickening out, so it would be reassuring to me if she expressed interest like that.

[Chris_u006]

Those who voted no are either neanderthals, homoerectus or ape minded and not as bright as the latest ape version homosapiens.
Take offense is fully allowed but = handing me the reciept of me being factual at the same time. Darn it I just realised that homosapiens might be the brighter kind of apes after all, that is what you get when you aren't always nice and loving. Look at me but look down at me and not up, you will only get taken down if you look up to me.
/Typical monkey like anyone else, whoohh whoooh aah aaah aaah aah!
🦧

[JHNS98]

Yes. My god, yes! Most guys are tired of this gender norm. Personally I prefer when girls atart talking to me one of these occasions developed into my biggest crush yet. We just clicked, and then I caused a huge heartbreak by touching her in an inappropriate place...

I realise that this is incredibly rare, as it hasn't happened to me since, which is more than five years ago now. I tried seeing someone casually last year, but it led nowhere and she just ghosted me.

[Likes2drive]

Yeah it’s going to be the same risk of rejection but probably less likely than it is for a guy asking, men don’t get asked out very often so they would be intrigued and flattered even if not interested. Only problem would be is if they are taken

[MCheetah]

Of course it is. Why do so many women make these excuses that no guys want to be asked out?

[Cheriecoco]

Because we scared to be treated as easy girl.

[Softguy]

When a woman asks a guy out the only emotion I feel towards her is admiration so don't be scared to do it

[Mysticality]

It is possible but I look like trash!!!

[Cheriecoco]

No you’re handsome

[Curiousnesshmmm]

Of course why wouldn’t it be, as a guy it gets really tiresome having to do everything knowing because of social norms females tend to not ask guys out etc. girls do like the whole process of being pursued but damn. What if the guy is just a little shy then you’d never know now wouldn’t you so if you’re feeling it ask. Rules are meant to be broken there is no rule book that states you can’t do a certain thing unless it’s illegal

[AmyHew1tt]

I think yeah, absolutely. The only thing I would be concerned about is that often a guy will go out with a woman just because of the ego swell, and not necessarily because he really likes her. But that's another matter.

[Gagname]

Should guys be thinking that too?…be concerned that the woman will go out with a guy “just because of the ego swell,” and not necessarily because she really likes him?

[AmyHew1tt]

@Gagname It can happen if he's super hot and other people want him, and if she's spoiled or entitled. But much less likely. A guy is much more likely to be rejected by a girl than a girl is by a guy. It's not always that the guy even means for it to happen like that either, or that he intends to hurt her feelings. Sometimes they're just caught up in the rush so they never stop to wonder if they actually like her. If a girl goes out with a guy for ego reasons though, she knows it like 99% of the time.

[Gagname]

I’m just saying both sides can do things because of ego reasons. And, not all guys are the same and not all gals are the same either.

[AmyHew1tt]

@Gagname I'm well aware, I promise you. There are always going to be exceptions. But in general, the ego date is more of a guy thing. And as I said, I don't believe they do it to be jerks. Still, it can come off as random and an unpleasant surprise for women who thought they'd been liked for three months and then learn it was just the idea of them that was being dated.

[Gagname]

Well, I think to “even things out” and reduce the likelihood of an “ego swell” that you’re saying that guys get, what needs to happen is more women start approaching guys and asking guys out and stop thinking they’re “entitled” to be asked out by guys and instead get rejected just like guys do all the time.

[AmyHew1tt]

@Gagname Sure? Look, I'm not here trying to demonize men, at all. My original comment was made to encourage women to ask guys out, but pointing out why that can backfire. It's not always entitlement that urges women to wait to be asked out. It's the way things have been done for years and does take time to change.

[AmyHew1tt]

(*by pointing out)

[Gagname]

I hear ya. It’s just I think the so called “ego swell” that you mentioned happens because guys are usually rarely asked out, abd when it does happens it’s certainly remarkable.

I think guys being asked out is viewed more by guys like this though: “Oh wow, that’s really cool that she did that,” just like I bet a lot of women think when a guy asks them out.

[AmyHew1tt]

@Gagname Yeah, I totally agree. A bit of a mess, dating

[Gagname]

Yeah it can be

[ChillaxingLove]

If your interested definitely it’s ok to let us know. But always keep in your mind don’t be aggressive in the relationship or in other words allow him to be the man. Don’t know how else to explain or put it.