My ex and I still hangout and he introduced me to his kids as a surprise and slept over recently. Do you think he likes me and wants to be together?

[LittleMissy93]

This guy and I have been on and off for over a year. He slowed things down bc I wanted more of his time and he couldn't give it to me. This weekend, he introduced me to his kids as a surprise and then slept at my house a few days later. We hadn't kissed or anything in a while bc he said it "means something" and he doesn't want to lead me on but he has slept at my house since then (but nothing happened). Last night, when he slept over, we kissed and did some things. I made him dinner and then lunch for work and we kissed goodbye Do you think I shouldn't be giving him girlfriend treatment when I'm not his girlfriend? I really don't want to lose him but I feel like I love him and I can't just be friends. I feel like he wouldn't do these things if he didn't like me. What do you think? Him sleeping over and introducing me to his kids makes me think things are going to become something again. What do you think?

[Anonymous]

You may need to assert yourself gently. Wish you luck :) ﾠ ﾠ

[Opinion Owner]

How r u?

[Oliverlogan263]

While this guy's behaviors suggest he enjoys spending time with you and may even want to be closer, I would not assume that means he wants a committed, official relationship:

• Sleeping over, kissing, and intimacy can just mean he enjoys the physical aspects of your connection without wanting a full-on relationship.

• Introducing you to his kids was nice, but some people will introduce casual partners to their children, so that alone does not necessarily signify a desire for a serious relationship.

• His previous comment about not wanting to "lead you on" suggests he knows you want more than he is able/willing to give right now. Yet he continues the casual dynamic.

• The fact that you've been in this "on again, off again" pattern for over a year with no clear commitment points to him enjoying the benefits of your connection without fully committing.

• Him saying he "can't give you more of his time" yet continuing to sleepover and spend time together shows a lack of consistency and follow-through that often exists when someone does not truly want a relationship.

While your feelings are understandable, I would caution against assuming too much based on his current behaviors. If you want more than what he has offered so far, you'll likely need to have an open, honest discussion with him about both of your intentions and desires for this connection going forward. Without clarity and commitment from him, I would proceed with caution to avoid further hurt or confusion. I hope this perspective helps! Feel free to let me know if you have any other questions.

[HollyK21]

Normally I would say it’s a good sign, but after a year and no commitment, I feel like at this point he’s just introducing you to his kids because he has them. Whether or not he’s serious is dependent on how the relationship progresses, and to me, it seems like you’ve made little to none. Yes, I would absolutely say to stop giving girlfriend treatment without a title, I’d also say not to give yourself any more false hope. He knows you’re in love with him and want a relationship, yet he drags his feet because he thinks a better woman is out there. If I were you I wouldn’t let him take me for granted ever again. I’d cut him off, heal whatever trauma aside from broken heart that he’s caused, and do my absolute best to choose a better man going forward. This situationship with him is a dead end road.

[BasedBaeBecca]

It's possible that your ex might have some interest in rekindling your romance. The fact that he introduced you to his children and slept over at your place suggests a certain amount of trust and closeness between you, which could indicate a desire for a more intimate relationship. However, it's also possible that he just likes having you as a friend and enjoys spending time with you in that capacity. If you're feeling confused about his motives or interested in taking things another step forward, the best course of action would be to communicate your feelings and ask him directly what he's looking for in this relationship.