Poll- what’s difference between a crush & a boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

For example do you start off as having a crush and then becoming his friend then he’s your boyfriend?
Or else how do you get boyfriends as the guy needs to like you back obviously?
Or magically you and the guy both like each other at the same time and it’s not a crush?

[OlderAndWiser]

Having a crush is something you do when your 13 years old and "in love" with your 7th grade English teacher who just graduated from college. Having a boyfriend or a girlfriend is something that you do when you are old enough to understand that relationships involve both giving and receiving.

[Asker]

At my job Everyone crushes on each other.

[OlderAndWiser]

They enjoy acting like kids?

[Asker]

I’ve never had a guy just go up to me n say do u wana be my boyfriend. I’ll be 26. I hear some girls become friends with guy they like then after time if he like her he ask her to be his girlfriend.

[OlderAndWiser]

You like someone, you go on a few dates and get to know them, and if you like what you see, you talk about dating exclusively, and then you are boyfriend and girlfriend. It's not difficult and it's not for kids.

[Asker]

For me it don’t work that way for me it’s easier become friends then wait for guy to ask me for date or ask to be my boyfriend girlfriend

[Anonymous]

There’s no set in stone path to becoming a couple, everyone’s progression is different, but I think it’s universally known that it all starts as a crush. You like each other, date, then somewhere along the line decide to make it official. For instance with my partner, I met him during a night out with friends. We clicked, he got my info and then a few weeks later we started hanging out. Then those outings with our friends combined became one on one dates, and after about 2 1/2-3 months, we got into a relationship.

[Asker]

What if you have a crush and u try become his friend n hope in future he like you back? Isn’t that another way girls get bfs?

[Opinion Owner]

Technically yes but I’m not a fan of that route. Mainly because as you build a friendship, it might be hard getting out of the friendzone. On top of that, what if he started seeing someone else if he isn’t already? Do you really wanna put yourself through the torture of having to advise him on those romantic relationships if he asked your opinion? Would you be able to watch him date someone else with a smile on your face? I doubt it. So while yes you can try the friendship route, I wouldn’t even want to risk it backfiring. Which leaves my suggestion, and that’s just getting to know him. No expectations, no specifically aiming to be his friend. Just two people hanging out.

[Asker]

We’ll I’ve never had a guy fast in one second ask me to be his boyfriend n we both magically like each other

[Opinion Owner]

I wouldn’t expect any relationship to be that instantaneous lol of course it’s gonna take some time. I’m just talking about playing your cards right, and not going into it specifically as friends. You’d just be getting to know one another, exploring the connection.

[Asker]

My whole life I start off as firends that’s only way I meet guys. I’ll be 26

[Opinion Owner]

You’ve had a boyfriend before? How did that go?

[Anonymous]

Having a crush is like imagining doing stuff with the guy you like. Having a boyfriend is where you actually are able to do those things with him. There needs to be a defined relationship.

[Asker]

But a crush can can up being ur boyfriend too if u guys talk n he fall in love with you

[Opinion Owner]

A crush can become a relationship if both sides reciprocate.