My boyf keeps hurting my feelings and I’ve decided to just distance myself, I have anxious attachment towards him, what should I do to be distant?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend hides things from me to “stop a drama from happening” I always find out one way or another.
Yesterday when I was on call with him, his boss (without knowing I was on call) “jokingly” said my boyfriend was crushing on a girl. When I asked who he was referring to my boyfriend said that one of his campus friend has applied for a job at his workplace and he told the boss he knew her.

My question is why would anyone say you have a crush on someone just because you told them you knew them?

anyways my boyfriend said he used to like girls at campus before but not any more

I am having a roller coaster of emotions please give me your advice

[Tenderhearted]

If he keeps hurting your feelings, he does not have any consideration for them.. which means he does not have consideration of you. Someone who cares about you will not continuously hurt your feelings, they’ll find ways to be better. If he is hiding things from you to avoid “drama” then it sounds like he’s doing things that he shouldn’t be doing in the first place. Relationships are built on trust and honesty and if there a secretes then there is zero trust or honesty.. on top of that, the encounter at his job about a crush, now men joke differently than women at times so it could be harmless, but given the facts that your boyfriend even stated that he use to crush on girls at his campus makes you feel on edge because 1. He’s already been hurting your feelings 2. He’s been keeping things from you 3. You have an anxious attachment to him which is unhealthy


My advice: leave, you don’t sound happy or at peace in this relationship

[Anemone978]

Calm down.. just realize these things don't matter.. You will end up pushing him away if you freak out over little things.. I know because I did it myself and lost a guy I truly loved.. Stay calm even if he likes someone else he is with you so just be yourself.. if he ends up leaving you he wasn't worth it any ways..

[Anonymous]

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