Should u date someone if ur not sure if u fancy them?

[Monalisa77]

I mean, some1 u barely know, cos u might see them differently after getting to know them

[Andres77]

Why would you put yourself at risk? Get to know them first, get the results of your background checks and maybe then consider a date.

[Monalisa77]

Usually i wouldn't do that, but this person is related to my cousins so i dont think hed do anything bad. Its difficult to get to know people at this thing we go to

[Monalisa77]

he's not on socials unfortunately ( but there's an article about him that seems like he's a genuine bloke

[Andres77]

If you have family that will vouch for him…I’d still do a background check.
The son of a close family friend raped my daughter.
You can never let your guard down.

[Monalisa77]

I know, all i know is he's a dr n plays football. Seems a bit of a smooth talker whixh im always wary about

[Andres77]

Well, as a doctor odds are he might use you but won’t commit a crime. Still, tread lightly and have a back up. Like a friend that knows where the date will be and you have code words to use so when she calls to check on you she can respond appropriately (no answer-go to her phone location…which she shared. She answers and gives an all ok…on various calls throughout the evening, she answers and gives the ‘help’ code word then go pick her up:

[Andres77]

Be creative but make sure you have support at every turn

[Monalisa77]

Dont really have any mates lol we would still see each other every month even if the date didn't work out

[Monalisa77]

Probably be my mother tbf, if i went out with a stranger id have to lie to her😂😂

[Monalisa77]

My awareness around blokes is partly y I've never been on a date

[Andres77]

I don’t want to step on your fun but I want you safe. Please just be careful

[Monalisa77]

Ik, that's y i didn't wanna ask him out right in person. At least if he brought it up n i change my mind i can just act like I've no idea what he's on about 😂

[Monalisa77]

I think im prerty good at spotting the users n bad ones of this world, my dads partly one but u wouldn't know he was if u met him

[Andres77]

Be safe, have fun.
If he makes your toes curl please come back and tell us. We all love a success story

[Monalisa77]

😂😂Its just he wears glasses n I've never liked anyone who wears glasses before, even tho i wear them myself 😂😂hes similar to guys I've liked but different aswell

[Andres77]

I used to have 20/10 vision. Then my eyes got weaker. Now I need glasses. I hated that transition. I used to see people with glasses as weak. Then I had to wear them. But…I’m awesome…so…I’ll get better at other stuff and people will realize that wearing glasses really doesn’t mean one is weak.

[Monalisa77]

Nothing wrong with wearing glasses, just never pictured myself liking someone who wears them. message his brother n they replied back now just toying weather to ask if he's on socials

[bowenw]

It can't hurt to hang out with them to see if there might be a connection.

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊

[Elpedro74]

No if your not sure if you wanna date them it means they ain’t the person for you

[Monalisa77]

But what if u barely know them? This person makes me laugh a lot n i really like his smile so its not like he doesn't have good qualities that i lije in a person

[Elpedro74]

In that case get to know them but choose carefully or else your gonna have a shi relationship and that only causes more issues

[Monalisa77]

Its just difficult getting to know him at this thing we go to and he's not on socials

[Elpedro74]

Ask him out next time you see him for a coffee or for dinner so you can get to know each other

[Monalisa77]

I sorta already have through my cousin but i won't see him for another month if i dont get his no by then lol

[Elpedro74]

If you really wanna get to know him get the number and just she what happens

[Monalisa77]

Ye I've been trying to call my other cousin but she's not answering 😂😂😂

[Elpedro74]

You gotta do something fast then 😂

[Monalisa77]

I dont know yet if he's single but he was living alone during lockdown so maybe, I've never hears him mention any girls name

[Elpedro74]

You only know if you ask even if he isn’t single it’s not the end of the world

[Monalisa77]

Ik, im trying not to get ahead of myself lol the waiting game is the worst n i dont wanna b too pushy with my cousins lol

[iseekpinetrees]

No. What kind of a question is that lol

[Monalisa77]

Because he has good qualities in him that i like but i just haven't made my mind up yet lol