What do you think about dating a man Picky eater, vegan who doesn't take you to eat because he feels like doesn't want to eat?

[Anonymous]

I (Indonesian) have a relationship with a guy from Germany. He visited me three times. On the first date, he visited my city. For 3 days and two nights. It was such a nice time. I still working on that time. He pays all of our food bills when we go to restaurants and I pay for online transportation. Second visit, I lost my job. I must go to the capital city. It takes so much money to go there and my feet are still hurt because of surgery. He stayed again for 3 days and 2 nights but we didn't have a proper meal for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. He told me because he was jetlag. At that time, he asked me to be his girlfriend and we walked a kinda of far walk which hurt my feet, and the wound after the surgery was opened. I forgave him. I told him later we must eat three times and breakfast in the hotel is a must. On the third visit, he stayed for 5 days and 4 nights. I came to the capital city again and spent a lot of money Regardless I don't have a job yet but I just stayed in a hotel for 4 days and 3 nights because I missed the train. We just eat breakfast for 4 days and 3 nights. I bought a lot of snacks but he said that he didn't like the smell of my snack and he didn't want to kiss but I was starving. Plus, we fought because I don't think he cared for me. When I discuss this thing with him. He told me because he saw a dirty river, on the first visit he was sick after going to my country and Thailand at the same time. I was disappointed because I spent money without any income, and no one helped me financially. Yet he left me starving even though I went to the capital city for him. He said he didn't want to take me out because he couldn't eat and hated when someone asked him to eat more. That os why when we stay in a hotel, we never eat. Well, on third visit we eat breakfast tho. But only breakfast. What kind of date is it? Is it normal German, Vegan behavior? What do you guys think? Is a relationship worth it or not?

[molonski2]

Firstly there is never , ever a reason to force yourself to eat 3 meals a day , plus , you can eat without him , maximum of two substantive meals a day , no snacks , what you need out of your diet is processed carbohydrates , such as over processed rice.

So absolutely nothing wrong with any of that. Only eat ever if you are actually hungry , not because its a certain time of the day. Intermittent fasting is your friend , processed carbs and sugars to be avoided at all costs.

So , in answer to your question ( and I'm not vegan , but there nothing wrong with vegan ) , your boyfriend has made an important decision , don't try and ruin in for him , if you can't walk a certain distance due to the surgery , communicate this to him , because you need to get your body right so you can address your exercise requirements , which you need to keep up , cut down the meals , lighten the process , drop the snacks , and understand eating well is good , but you don't need three meals.

[Darklydarkened]

If eating well is good, shouldn't she save him from the affliction that is veganism?

[Asker]

My body needs to eat three times a day or I will get sick. I remember when I was hungry and he didn't want to take me to the restaurant. I mean I don't mind if he is vegan but he will take me to eat. The willingness to take me, his girlfriend, to eat because we spent all day and all night together. I don't mind eating vegan food if he wants to take me to a vegan restaurant. I eat processed food because it's cheaper and it's not every day. I save money since I don't have a job or any income. I don't get sick from eating processed food but eating one day only will make me sick and weak.

[Anonymous]

Well I am a picky eater too

But that's no reason to not go out to eat with SO

Plus everyone has their own eating habits and it's personal and must be respected and seems he doesn't understand that.. like "some" of those weird vegans out there

[Asker]

Yeah. His unwillingness to take to eat is what makes me mad at him

[Opinion Owner]

Understand, maybe his intentions may not be that bad and maybe he is just not realizing how you are seeing it.. try talking to him

[Staximus]

Most vegan guys are gay

[Asker]

Lol. This is the very first time I am in a relationship with someone vegan and picky eater. So, I don't know if they are mostly gay lol 🤣

[In_Trance]

Let him eat some vagtables

[Asker]

Hahaha. He didn't eat at all even vegetables when we were together 😂

[In_Trance]

That's a shame