Does mystery make you attracted to a man? I think I lost my attraction when this man started saying he loves and misses me out of nowhere after the?

[Anonymous]

First date.

[Finchie40]

That’s definitely creepy if he is saying he loves you after the first date for sure , I have dated girls’ that loved the game of chase , they liked when I didn’t give into them constantly, it was like I had to play hard to get for her to be interested in me. Not saying all girls are like this , but a majority of them are for whatever reason, it pretty much turns her on if she feels I am not really into her. Basically keeping her on her toes guessing, on whether if I am into her or not, Little did she realize I was into her , so the only way I could get her to jump into my arms was to pretty much act like I didn’t care what she does. It’s something I learned from experiences with girls’ so it’s kind of hard to explain , so basically if I play her Game she will usually end up naked in my arms. I always questioned why some girls’ are like this , but it’s just the way it goes I guess. The only thing I didn’t like about those relationships was the fact I always had a question mark over my head questioning whether she was really into me or not or if she was just conveniently using me. The relationship eventually felt one sided , to the point it felt like I couldn’t go to her , I basically had to wait for her , to come to me and wonder if she is going to come to me or not , Kind of like she had a Hot and Cold personality , one minute she loves the shit out of me and wants to have amazing sex and be all over me and then the next she distances herself from me and acts like I don’t matter to her so I play into her game and walk away to the point she usually comes running back to me , sadly it’s not a healthy relationship when a partner constantly has you guessing

[Finchie40]

Never in love on a first date , infatuated with her? absolutely , if her and I have amazing chemistry and connection together and we are both attracted to each other then yes I definitely would want to see her more and more , but to fall in love with her right from the start no way , it takes time to truly fall in love with someone to fully get to know someone My advice to a guy that is dating , is to just take things slow , don’t rush into any type of love type relationship it’s ok to let her know you like her but never tell her you love her until she proves to you that she is coming back for more and more , if you end up having sex with her on the first date , then understand it’s just sex , it doesn’t mean anything , until she is coming back for more and more , it’s always a 50/50 chance on knowing what someone’s true intentions are , most people lie about what they really want when they meet someone new and exciting because they are just infatuated by that person but they really don’t know them

[Truthatanycost]

'What do you think is the best course of action for a man when dating?'

To stop wasting his time dating and focus fully on his purpose, God and His plans for the Kingdom instead. I stopped dating decades ago and am now much happier, fulfilled, purposeful and alive.

[Truthatanycost]

@Prettybiychh Yes but only with a woman of God. Dating in this culture can be detrimental so I only recommend a person find their partner through God if they wish. But some of us are called to remain single due to what we've been called to do.

[Truthatanycost]

@Prettybiychh I helped someone with this before. It involved writing a very detailed list and asking God to bless her with a man fitting all of those traits. But she didn't really believe this was possible so her list reflected this. A few months later she met a man that had every single trait on the list but of course, he also lacked everything she didn't have the faith to add!

They were together for 7 years but all of the missing stuff on the list contributed to a breakup. In addition to the list, the person should be confessing scripture daily, studying the Bible and growing their faith daily. They would also be an Ambassador of God through their actions and all conduct. it's important to ensure they were using none of the modern Bible translations in my opinion since they have been corrupted.

[Truthatanycost]

New Age denies God, Jesus Christ and undermines Him at every turn. New Age do not believe in Jesus Christ or the Trinity, they do not believe in the Bible, they do not believe in Scripture or Jesus' sacrifice and so much more. What I'm talking about above is not being afraid to ask God and having the Faith that he loves you enough to help. He already knows your every desire. We should not be afraid to ask at all.

In fact, there are many blessings in my life I didn't receive until I asked and had faith. I've also been blessed through gratitude as well. Thanking God for all of the blessings that I had, as well as ones I didn't yet have.

But I do think God will sometimes send you a person as a lesson too. The lady I mentioned above is now Baptized and asks God for help with everything you can imagine as a daughter would a Father. Thus it will depend on the personal relationship you have with God.

[cnj421]

I don’t know if you lost attraction, more so you lost respect. It’s ridiculous to tell someone you love them after the first date when you just met them. When someone does that it’s toxic. So I think your intuition is telling you these things and that’s why you aren’t attracted anymore.

[cnj421]

Yea. I feel you. But sometimes humans don’t earn the respect we want to give them.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I like mystery but it makes me feel anxious. Thus, I like honesty and straightforwardness more.

[A_Bell]

First date? That cut-off word changed my reply.

He's a little weird and is confusing lust with love. Love is like cooking ribs, it's low and slow. Lust is toasting a marshmallow close to a fire. Infatuation is somewhere in between.

[Anonymous]

Back when my dad got transferred and I got to a new school 9th grade

I used to sit by myself and be "mysterious" and girls said later

So the guys who were hyper active and show off all day never got any attention from girls

But Girls would come to me during breaks or during PT hours and often stare at me with some sort of curiosity and I swear I never did anything intentionally to attract attention

[Opinion Owner]

@Prettybiychh Cool
Well coincidentally I got into a relationship with one of the "curious" girl from high school when I met her when she joined my boxing gym like 10 years after high school

[Opinion Owner]

@Prettybiychh Well, pretty much
Never compromised in holding on to silent masculine character.

[Starrrboy]

From my experience, women just love... no wait, LOVE mysterious men!

[Asker]

I was about to ask you what these men are hiding but it would just prove your point!

[Starrrboy]

Lol yes.. They're not hiding anything... It's just they're like a box full of surprises and you keep finding out great stuff about them with time.. I like girls who are like that too, they usually stand out for me.

[Starrrboy]

@Prettybiychh 👍👍

[BadApple69]

First date? That’s a little quick. But then again my current girlfriend said it was too quick when I said it to her after knowing her for about 12 years. So time is different for everyone.

[BadApple69]

After first date? He is just saying what he thinks he has to say to get into your pants… being one I can say this…. GUYS SUCK!! Lol

[sheikalana]

Honestly I would lose interest too. Missing me after a first date that's a bit too much and childish LOL you just met me and just spent a few hours with me we don't know each other enough to miss each other.

[SexyBrunetteNY]

If anybody, man or woman, comes on too strong too fast, it's not good and it WILL change your perception.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I can't imagine ever telling a woman I love her after one date, and I've had multiple first dates go into a second day.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I will say that men are a lot more attractive when they’re not talking lol

[Asker]

Opposite for me at least if the man is John Mayer. Is it because the men you are referring to are saying silly things?

[Unit1]

And this is why men turn into bad boys and bad boys turn single girls into single mothers.

[Unit1]

To be fair, you have every right to not continue seeing whoever you were seeing. I'm not telling you otherwise.

[Anonymous]

No desperation makes you lose attraction to a man. I love you and i miss you after one date? Lol.

[Opinion Owner]

Google it

[Opinion Owner]

Good for u

[Opinion Owner]

Its what i think. Tell ur opinion to the asker cos idc.

[Anonymous]

or when she gets drunk every time you see her that also makes a guy lose attraction to the woman

[thatcreepingchickkk]

Would give me the ick

[Sunnybeach123]

Yes, very much.

[Asker]

Would you like to expand?

[Sunnybeach123]

I'm attracted to a woman who I find mysterious because I find it exciting when she's confident and like she's hiding a secret or when/if she's thinking something about me I can't read. Honestly it's titillating. Like she wants to do things and not just talk about it. Mysterious is being confident that you know you're attracting someone with body language/confidence.

[Asker]

Interesting. Thanks for sharing. Yes it seems if someone keeps their cards to their chest and only gives things away subtly like with body language it can be more attractive and makes you curious.

[Sunnybeach123]

Yes, at least for me. 🙂

[Iron_Man]

All that talk in one date

[aquamarine321]

Aren’t all females the same with this