I think girls generally want to know the "type" of guy you are more than anything else. So as long as they know you're the kind of guy they're into, then it's okay that they don't really know any details about you right away. I've dated girls that knew next to nothing about me and they were REALLY into me. Saying things like "you're so complex" or telling me i'm interesting, because of who I was as a person rather than knowing my background. The "Mystery" is the little details about you, but they still need to know who you are as a person.
The only cases i've seen outside of that are just initial attraction. Like a silent guy in a classroom who doesn't say anything, but is physically appealing. Some girls might look at that and have a view of him being "mysterious" when they really just know nothing about him lol. Because if he's quiet and unattractive, then he's "creepy".
I don't think "mysterious" means acting shady or keeping secrets, and especially doesn't mean disappearing randomly. For me its just about how much personal information a person freely gives. I'm really good at getting people to talk about themselves without using much if any information about myself. Its not by choice, i just generally dont talk about myself unless im telling a story or someone asks me a question directly about me. I've been called mysterious by tons of friends who knew me for years and got blown away when i revealed something about me they never knew.
Took me years to figure it out. Part of it came from a sense of wanting people to judge me based of who i was at the time and not based on anything from my past.
I think it's less about being mysterious and more about getting to know someone. Getting to know someone is fun, especially when there's so much more to that person that you thought. With some people, what you see is what you get, and that's fine, but being able to dive deep with someone and peel back those layers to uncover who they really are is... a journey, in and of itself. Someone who's mysterious might pique your interest, but of course, being mysterious isn't all that attractive if there's nothing beneath the surface. And then there's people who only seem mysterious because they're actually just detached, indifferent, or straight up don't care about you lmao. That's not attractive.
Maybe for a short while, but I don’t enjoy feeling like I have to force someone to open up, or not knowing what the other person is thinking or feeling. It usually is what pushes me away from people. A guy doesn’t have to spill all the beans in one go, but neither does he have to pretend he’s something he isn’t, or hold back details about himself to appear more interesting. I get tired of that very fast. I just enjoy talking to people who are open and honest.
It’s attractive except when it gets to the point where he’s super secretive and won’t share any personal information with you; that’s just frustrating and comes off that he’s not interested in opening up to you. Be careful when walking the fine line my friend.
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Not really. I prefer a dude to be straight up.
By looking a bit at the comments, I think that women like mysterious guys for the challenge. If they're able to see what he's hiding from most people, they would feel very special because they think that if he chooses to open up to her, it means that she's one of the rarest to be worthy of him.
It would also explain why these women wouldn't really like a guy who's straight to the point. You can't really feel "unique" if the guy is clear and open about his life with a lot of people.
Plus, if the guy stays mysterious too long for her, she would be frustrated because she can't be "the one he can talk with his heart" with and she now would regret her decision.
In my opinion and if I somehow inserted some truth in there, I'll say that if a woman is attractives to you for what you show and not for what you can hide, she's truly in love in my mind.
It's weird because most girls answered yes to that question. But if you make the exact same poll and ask "If a guy is open and outgoing, is that attractive for girls? Why or why not?" then most girls will say again yes. The problem is that those two traits are complete opposites!!! If you are outgoing and open you can't be mysterious and vice versa.. in fact if a guy is both that's schizophrenic!!! :P
Not really. I like to get to know someone well, even their flaws. I've had too many mystery men in my life already, I want real, no games.
For both girl and guys Curiosity is the key to build a bonding in a relationship, the more you are mysterious the more you will charm the opposite make him/her interested in you. Assume beginning of a relationship like a movie, its the trailer that makes you curious what's gonna happen next. But my friend there is thin line between mysterious and being Insecure and lying duck.
Bottom line is you need to maintain an equilibrium to be honest and only reveal what's needed for the moment.
Depends it’s really just a curiosity if the guy is shy or he says no to or is just one of them mysterious loner Guys we instinctively went to investigate him and if we are pretty will be like why has he not spoke to me I’m pretty damn nice this makes no sense to me so she engages him yes just a little bit to what girls think but for the most part it is but then that guy may have issues communicating very good which will cause issues in the future from experience I know LOL
Well I don't know why girls like you think that all loner guys are evil. If they’re loners, they’re not troubling you at all.
They won’t talk to you right? So what’s the problem?
I think being a guy itself is a problem.
I'm out of breathe just looking at this post
Goes the same for girls who are mysterious. If a girl/guy leaves room for the other person to wonder things about them, then attraction gradually builds
If a guy is mysterious you want to know everything about them. But sometimes they're too mysterious... I don't know I'm just a curious person and want to know everything I guess
I prefer a genuine man who is open and honest with me and let’s me in. Mystery gets old fast.
Thanks. Life is too short to play games and let myself get played. Mystery is cute when you’re a teenager. Then it’s just childish as an adult 😕.
Exactly
Absolutely! 😍 Because they have a rich inner world, full of intriguing thoughts and feelings. Women who like you want to know what you're thinking, but they can't possibly know so easily. This sets up a playful, intense dynamic naturally.
I have terrible trust issues and fear of men in general so I like a open book kinda guy
Yes it’s very sexy in my opinion, because it’s like your trying to figure out a puzzle on how they truly are and how reserved they keep themselves. It makes you want to try and break that wall 😂Idk if I’m making sense lol
My older sister’s boyfriend is like that. He really didn’t talk or communicate a lot when they went on dates but he slowly opened up and she’s says that his personality was a shock. She said the sex is fantastic too 😂😂 since he didn’t look like a sexual person she was shook.
Mysterious yeah sure, it looks cool. On the other hand, that means he’s probably emotionally unavailable and has something to hide.
Being mysterious can be attractive, like there will be eagerness for the other person to know more about you. Bt it depends because there are times, it can feel like he or she is just not interested.
If its too mysteries... its a liar... and hide too much truth... not worth it
I like a challenge and I hate losing. Mystery is always welcome
In my experience, the best way to go is to have an edgy, mysterious personality, but show a little vulnerability, like the reason you are closed is because you are scared to get hurt. Chicks love that
Every girl is different, but I've had pretty good luck with that.
Sometimes it's sexy and intriguing but if they continue to be "mysterious" girls would get a bit offended as they aren't giving their "all" into the relationship/ not revealing themselves as much as the girl would like
I voted no. I want a guy that I can trust and mysterious guys are not trustworthy.
Won't say 100% with my example. Well I don't try at all to be mysterious. I never knew it was a attracted thing. I've been told a lot and too it as compliment and nothing else. But I've also been told I'm caring and reliable who can be trusted soz. Just saying not 100% but it could be yea
Totally attractive, at least initially. It's exciting, not knowing.
It's just impossible to keep up that level of mysterious excitement, because that requires hiding a bunch of normal-level shit and gets creepy.
For me, it is a bit attractive. Since once we feel curious about something or someone we tend to crave for more informations about that thing or person. So I don't know if that really attracts me but maybe he just made me feel really curious.
Depends on which stage of the relationship they are in. Starting yes. At later part not too much cause it will seems like they are trying to hide something.
I believe that what's really attractive is when a guy is at peace and confident and doesn't feel the need to flaunt anything. Otherwise every quiet guy would get girls.
Speaking from experience quiet guys are often insecure and passive aggressive
It can be either mysterious or creepy. I am so horny right now and my nipples are sore, I was also sad this morning. I forgot when my cycle is due but I needed to tell someone since I'm by myself, carry on now.
@downtofu Your mother has her period too, is she gross?
I think no
Some girls will be attracted to it, some will be turned off.
If this is you, just worry about the girls who like you, not the ones who don't.
Human nature is cruises we always want to know what's behind the corner
So its attracting as it hits that spot
It honestly depends on the person personality. If they are mysterious yet sweet, I would absolutely attracted to that. If he is kind of a couch yet mysterious... He can fluff off.
Lol what's kinda I couch?
I think everyone enjoys a bit of intrigue but it's a fine line between mystery and lying
In my experience being playfully mysterious is attractive.
Like, "Do you have any other tattoos?"
Perhaps... (I don't... lol!)
To me it does not really matter. It doesn't make you more attractive to me. Not really my thing.
Only to some, man. Only to some.
Because this very thing can turn into a negative aspect too.
Like she might doubt what you think of HER SELF.
Up to a point yes, but beyond that point it seems more like disinterest on his part.
it is very attractive to me, but only if he lets me in gradually <3 _ <3
Mysterious os attracrive but then I'd not them because then i have to figure out aloy of things by myself other than them just comunicating
To me, it is. A guy has to have a certain edge in his personality.
That only works if you are good looking. If you aren't good looking then appearing mysterious/aloof is more likely to get you labeled as creepy.
Yes because it let you work out for things he do therefore he always in the mind
I met one guy, he had a mask on, and it was really hot and mysterious
Yes, he is handsome and if he is mysterious, I really want to know him😄
No! I don't have time to be with someone I have no idea about.. Or little idea about...
Girls like it when guys creep along mysteriously and are out at all hours of the night doing who knows what. It's appealing to them.
This is human psychology.. we go behind the things we dont know much about.. to know them better! And a little bit of mystery keeps the excitement in a conversation.
If you're not a serial killer that's cool
Yes absolutely... Girls don't like guys who are too easy.
it is, but most guys that think they are mysterious really aren't. they're just weird and awkward lol.
Yeah and No
It just makes them want to get to know you
It has nothing to do with attraction unless she thinks you're cute
Mysterious is intriguing but if they are too mysterious it means they probably have something to hide and a little emotionally unstable
i think it just depends on who the person is and what he is like
Your last option is biased towards men. You're literally asking "hey girls tell me about ------!!!" Then you have an entire options for Bro chat?
Attractive short-term. Unattractive long-term.
The only things girls find attractive are money and abs
I find abs disgusting, and I have plenty of money. Stop assuming shit
Just what i have observed
I've never met a girl who was mature, or actually wanted a relationship
Well that's other girls, theirs good girls out their
Where are they hiding at then?
It just takes a good man to find them, we think that their are no good men out there
That's because men actually want love and a relationship
when 4 girls put "I'm a dude" :/ I'm so confused
Probably ald account of a trans or a miss click lol
*an old
oh XD I didn't see that
It usually means he's a cheater.
Maybe her definition is different than mine. In general I want a partner who is open and honest. If you are "mysterious" I might fuck you once but not interested in anything more.
weirdly I find them the most attractive
Depends on how they are mysterious.
um... eh?
mysterious guys are just eh to me.. like eh..
Being mysterious is attractive tho
Mysterious yes. Playing silly juvenile games no.
I'm easily distracted from mysterious guys tbh
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