This woman I’ve been talking to for a little over a month has been hot and cold for the past two weeks. She got mad, wanted space, then will text me to see what’s up but not want to hangout. Just today we were texting sexually and she basically asked me to come over for a lunch break, so I made my way over casually and when I was almost there and texted her she said. No no. I’m on my period. Then a few texts exchanged and said she’s attached to sex, and she’s not the person for me but got addicted to me. I’m gunna say “We’re just getting to know each other, why make assumptions? And health addictions are good for us?” Other than trying to play it off cool, I’m not too sure how to go about moving forward with this woman. She’s great, and when we’re together she opens up with great conversations but she also has days where she’s so silent and plays it off like nothing 🤷🏻♂️
Woman is hot and cold! Some days she can’t get enough, others she’s very distant and unresponsive. Lots of mixed messages but I like her?
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She doesn’t want you, she’s got her period and likes talking about sex with you
Why say she’s not the person for me, but addicted to me? Like she wants me but she’s self restricting?
Because she knows through experience her hormones want you. But when she’s not got her period she will want someone else
I get what you mean. Not sure if I can change the scenario by being more playful, I really want her to explain what’s holding her back
Actually the opposite. Pull back and don’t be as playful. Focus more on things you are responsible for and building in your life. That’s your chance if you want her to see you as more than just a sexual distraction.
How’d you respond to this:
Her: “Issue here is that somehow I get attached to sex… I know I’m not the person for you but I got adickted to you 😭🤣” thinking to send:
“We’re just getting to know each other, no need to jump to conclusions, healthy addictions are good for us ;)”
“I’m also having fun talking to you. But tbh I’ve got more going for me than just being sexual. Happy to discuss other things you enjoy doing so you shouldn’t be too addicted to me yet
Any way to tone it down a little lol?
“I’m happy your adickted to me 😂 but there’s a lot more to me that just what I offer below the belt. Hence why I want to keep getting to know you.
Should I mention the fact that she said I’m not the person for you?
Use your own words. But no, don’t mention that now. If you end up dating it can be a funny call back
But also be sure to plan a date for this weekend or next week. Let her know you want her to be there with you and that between now and then you will be busy doing other things in your life.. so you can’t really text that often
We’ve got a date planned for this week Thursday. I gave her the option Tuesday or Thursday and she picked Thursday cuz she’s got a doc appointment Tuesday. Today she was sexting me before I almost drive to her place, until she said no. But before hand I gave her the option to link up tomorrow after her appointment and she said maybe
No need to link up before your date on Thursday. Ok to reply briefly to a text but save the conversation till Thursday. Have fun on your date and by then expect her to be less sexual
Agreed! That’s why these mixed signals are confusing me. She’s telling me she wants me to come over, “are you working from home””let’s take a lunch break” then I mentioned tomorrow, and then said nvm I’m in your neighborhood later and then blown off as a hard decision and she’s not a piece of meat. Sooo go go go, then when I go stop!
When a woman says she wants to fuck, I’m down. Then she retracts the statement when I tell her I’m gunna give it to her? This is all within the same playful convo
Exactly it’s playful but she’s just trying to be seductive. Be seductive yourself and tease her back. But she knows she will see you on Thursday so don’t hang out till then.
It’s not confusing. She’s admitted it’s her period and she’s feeling more sexual now. But she doesn’t actually want to be intimate with you until she trusts you. So date her and build that trust so she sees your value beyond the bedroom
Bro we’ve fucked so many times! Hence the “Adickted” play on words. What’s changed in saying I’m not the she’s not the one for me🤷🏻♂️. Also thanks for all this advice brotha
Oops, then that’s why she said it. She’s just using you for Sex
Oh so no interest in being with me. “I’m not the person for you” but loves to fuck me
You are correct. She doesn’t want to marry a guy she’s just fucking for fun.
You are welcome bro. That’s why I told you that she’s gotta see your value outside of the bedroom. Rn she doesn’t
You’re a beauty! I’d probably be giving the same advice to someone in my position but it’s hard to see when your emotions are invested ya know. She’s definitely gotta see my value
If you know she does this kind of shit I don't know why you bother?
Why do you bother?
Stop talking to her and get on with your life
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