Are women attracted to emotional men?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Not really proud of this one, and I’m sure I will be judged but it happened. My husband and I will throw parties/little get togethers roughly twice a month every other weekend. A couple years ago during one of them we were all drinking pretty heavy. My husband drank so much he passed out and I stayed up since people were still at our house. Eventually everyone had left except for my husband’s best friend. Literally his best friend.. grew up together and was his best man in our wedding. We all had been swimming so I was still in my thong bikini, and he just out of no where grabs my ass and said he has been wanting to see me naked for years. Next thing I knew we were in our guest bathroom and I’m naked and giving him a blowjob. Did that for a few minutes and then he fucked me. In the moment it was kinky and hot because I was drunk and the taboo of my husbands best friend inside me while my husband was asleep upstairs in our bed, but the next day obviously I felt terrible. This was 2 years ago and we never told my husband. I was drinking tequila that night and haven’t drank it since. I drink but I can control myself on everything but tequila. The next party we threw I told his friend that can never happen again and he agreed although sometimes he will still drink too much and grab my ass in the pool but I never give him any response to it because I make sure I don’t get that drunk around him anymore.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Accepted Answer

Yes, however what men think of as emotional and what women consider emotional are two different things. For women, they want a man who is emotionally  available  meaning he knows how to express his anger in a way that doesn’t scare others, or take out on others. It also means he’s open to being vulnerable, to communicating parts of himself to deepen the relationship within reason. I specifically add “within reason” because what a lot of men  think  is that emotional vulnerability is actually just trauma dumping. They vent and unload everything on their girlfriend as if she’s their personal therapist and while it can be good for them to finally feel they can trust someone enough with their trauma history, they don’t realize that this is a very heavy burden to put on someone you’ve been dating for less than six months. A lot of this goes into men prizing stoicism over a healthy mental mindset and not understanding that healthy emotional expression and processing requires breaking the stony face of stoicism in a way that they feel they can handle what comes next instead of just repressing it to unload it on the first kind face they’re willing to build a relationship with.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Gender divide is what I expected.

The thing is women want men to be emotional in the right moment. They have much lower tolerance for men who act irrational/emotional at the wrong time as vice versa. Men may get annoyed when women act this way but we also have been conditioned to accept that is how women are. It’s the price we pay if we want to have a relationship.

However the ugly truth is women “say” they like this because it gives them a sense of relief which is not the same as feeling attractive. It makes the man more relatable. But being relatable doesn’t make the guy more attractive (often it’s the opposite).

Also women are often frustrated, envious and intimidated by male stoicism. But they are also turned on by it. They see the man is more reliable and someone they can depend on. They also like the challenge of trying to figure out what is on the guy’s mind. It turns them on.

This is all coming from a guy who is naturally more sensitive/emotional then the average guy by the way (but less emotional then the average woman). 9 out of 10 times it’s bad to be like this. Extremely bad. It emboldens women to friendzone. It’s only okay when the woman already is highly attracted to me for other reasons.

serious · Accepted Answer

Well, to be honest in my view the answer is No. Men have emotions and feelings too but then a man has to be mentally strong, deal with things, find solutions to problems without getting emotional, without crying and lamenting about things.

Men cannot be as vulnerable as women are allowed to be. A woman can be vulnerable, she can cry often or when she is hurt but a man cannot do that as often as women can do. If a man behaves likes that then women will eventually lose respect for that man, at least in the long run because they would see that man as mentally weak and that is very unattractive to a woman.

Hence my answer is no, women are not attracted to men who are emotional.

I think this answers your question

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Ability of Being emotional can be seen as a strength by some women, because lots of men are unable to display their emotions.

What I loved the most was when my ex put his head on my chest and opened up to me.

I felt so in love with him at those moments.

I couldn’t get enough of kissing him.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Well yeah… he’s a human male right? All humans have emotions… 🤷‍♀️

Summeroflove · Answer

We all have emotions. So yeah.

provokeesmokee · Answer

Here's the thing. "Emotional" can mean many different things.

The sort of emotional I find attract is:

Someone who is in touch with their emotions and can feel them
Someone who can understand their emotions mostly and usally controls their reactions to those emotions
Can explain their feelings in words, generally
Knows when to remove themselves from a situation if emotions are high
Knows how and when to ask for support if they need it

The sort of emotional that is repulsive:

Poor or no emotional regulation - the person can't control their reactions to emotion or who refuse to control themselves
Can't feel or wants to numb emotion rather than feeling it
Relies on anger or sadness to leverage fear or sympathy instead of dealing with the problem maturely without emotional influence
Denies their emotion

A man who is able to feel his emotions, understand and express them in, generally, non-destructive ways, and who doesn't buy into toxic masculine "no emotions but anger" bullshit is attractive.

CarnaGirl18 · Answer

When I meet a guy I don't really comment with him at a certain level. My ex couldn't stop liking me and I was rude to him because I wasn't into him. But was being his friend because my mom made me, until he shared a traumatic event he experienced in his life. And he raised that level and I fell in love with him

I love it when my current boyfriend can get emotional especially when he doesn't hide it. That's when I fell in love with him all over again. By him sitting down with me and telling me about his day or past trauma experience I made him feel like I'm his safe space I made him feel like he's worth something.

Men right now are unappreciated and feel like they have to push their trauma down so they can feel vailed in society. Men are taught to hide their feelings and be tough, and when they do ask for support half of the time they don't get it. Especially women are so mean to there man I just don't understand it. What I just said is the reason why most mem commit

ShadezMcgee · Answer

They say they are, but they aren't. Any time a man is vulnerable or cries in front of a woman it subconsciously turns her off and puts her in the masculine mindset of "oh crap, do I have to be strong for the both of us now?" Women will always judge their man for how well he remains a grounded rock in the relationship and the second they see weakness they test it and poke at it.

Juneberry91 · Answer

Too much of anything is an extreme. This applies to anyone not just men, friends & family etc.

However, you did specifically ask about attraction towards a man who is emotional or not.

I love men that can fill and be straight up with what they’re struggling with, yell what’s bothering them & cry when they are sad. As a partner, I will be given a better opportunity to really know what my partner needs. I can tell you with my experience stating not so emotional men is quite bloody hard & frustrating.

Tiptoetamm · Answer

Personally I think there is nothing more attractive than an emotionally available man. Someone who will cry and let their guard down with me. Men are human to and they have emotions so telling them they are not men because they experience emotions, that's bullshit.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Yes, but not necessarily crying men. I just love men who are open and not afraid to be vulnerable. I’ve met so many this year and its a beautiful thing to see and I love that they confided in me. The same has been happening these past few years. I haven't had to beg a guy to open up to me since shit I don't know when. I mean occasionally with this one guy but thats just when he's trying to figure out how to word what he wants to say. For others, it just spills out more easily and its sexy

AaronKrieger · Answer

They definitely are generally speaking, but it depends how they're emotional. Crying over things that make you happy I think most wouldn't give a shit about.

Crying over something that makes you upset can't be done too often, as people in general usually prefer that. You also just can't be too emotional period or else it'll cloud your decision making. People like those who are stable and balanced.

I cried in front of my ex only once and she appreciated that shit quite a lot, as she told me so various times. However, if I had done it already a lot, then it wouldn't had been the same.

genericname85 · Answer

no they aren't. they often say they are when asked, cause they gravitate towards emotional bullshit answers when asked. cause they prefer "not hurting anyone" over speaking the truth. but factually they prefer a pillar of strength to attach to and to rely on. not a fragile emotional baby who struggles to carry his own weight.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Women look to men for STRENGTH and an overt display of emotion (correctly or incorrectly) make women think a man is weak. They can deny this all they want, but this is the truth. Women are find having their simp/beta orbiters cry and whine, but these guys will never get to go balls deep.

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Every girls fantasy

Mhmmmalreadykno · Answer

I think the idea of having an emotional rock makes a women secure. I’m not saying it’s not okay for a man to be emotional every now and then but I feel like if a women has to be worried about both her man’s instability and her own it might be a lot. In a way it feels more settling to have a man who’s less emotional because it balances out your own chaotic mind to have another person at ease and being strong for you.

Simslover92 · Answer

I know I am. I love a man who can show his emotional side to me. My boyfriend cried to me a few times and I thought it was so hot that he would open up to me like that. Of course it's usually when he's had a bit too much to drink and shit just comes out but evenso it's still attractive to me.

Twalli · Answer

Emotional or with the ability to show emotion. Nobody wants someone who can't show emotion, we also don't want someone who cries at every sad part of a movie, especially if the part isn't that heart-wrenching.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Cry babies, no. But overall showing emotion yes.  Emotions make for powerful sex. A man that tries to show no emotion can't connect emotionally with a woman thus causes the sex to be trash.

Billlewis · Answer

For their guy friends, sure. Socially, sexually and relationship wise? For the most part, no.

Apple1996 · Answer

Yes it's very attractive when a man shows all his emotions. Let's me know that he is human and not a robot

mobiusforniner · Answer

They are attracted to emotionally intelligent men

inhua · Answer

women don't even care about stoic men much less emotional men

can't even state basic facts without being called a sexist, misogynist, incel, loser, whiny crybaby etc. so him expressing his true emotions would be even more frowned upon

strawberrybaby3 · Answer

Yes it is very attractive to me. I love men who are not afraid to express how much they love you or talk about their feelings when something is on their mind.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably no, since women are naturally more emotional they don't need someone to cry more during problems instead of comforting them

Anonymous · Answer

In general no. Women just want to know that men have them. Then she wants him to have a tight reign on them except when she deems it appropriate.

It's always best for a guy to be very cold and just know and fake the emotions she wants you to be displaying. You NEVER want to let a woman in your "kitchen" (head) so to speak.

CaptainSmartass · Answer

Nope. Its a major turn off. They may as well be attracted to other women if that's the case. Simples...

Chthou95 · Answer

Fuck no lol. Dont let them bullshit and tell you they do. Their pussies get dry when they see an emotional man no matter how much they tell you otherwise

OfMiceandMen · Answer

To a certain extent. No one wants to be with a blubbering baby, but a guy who tells them what they are feeling in the moment is not a bad thing.

Raaj4you · Answer

Yes, I think so. I am an emotional person. I hate people who don't have any emotions and are insensitive to others feelings.

Elinnnor · Answer

Women are attracted to emotional men, as long as they don't exaggerate it.

ShesRad80 · Answer

emotional yes, someone who knows and can express their feelings and emotions, overly emotional men- NO

AmyHew1tt · Answer

We're attracted to emotionally-available/emotionally intelligent men. There's a difference.

A_Bell · Answer

Girls say they do until it happens and then they find an actual male to date.

RobT312 · Answer

Im not very emotional and never had a problem. Not sure women are looking for that

DextroShade · Answer

They say they are but in reality they aren't:

Anonymous · Answer

They are attracted to emotionally intelligent men, but not emotional men.

Anonymous · Answer

Women now choose boys who have female attributes. Spends all his time cooking and cleaning and has no skills in carpentry or auto repair. Can't even do the taxes or finances.

fuddly · Answer

I think in a long term relationship is best to not show weakness Because you never know when it's going to be used against you

007kingifrit · Answer

women think its a turn on, but once your man cries like a girl no, they don't like it

Anonymous · Answer

Actions speak order than words. It’s gaslighting to call it “toxic masculinity”.

Anonymous · Answer

From what I've observed, more women say they are than actually are.

TallAnon · Answer

History taught us no, no matter what women claim.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Absolutely. It is essential for most women.

CoolCatMar1 · Answer

I think it's cute

electromagnetic · Answer

Sure. We’re all allowed to cry.

nastyb · Answer

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Strong_Warrior · Answer

Bullshit feminist propaganda

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Women are attracted to money not men.

MissBoogus · Answer

It’s a mix

msc545 · Answer

not at all

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