Women say they want an emotional man. But do they really?

[Anonymous]

To me its a damn lie

[dandrummond501]

This is the only thing in my life with. Woman all over the place say that the type of guy they are looking for is a man who can hold an intelligent conversation and a man who can pay attention to detail when it comes to the bedroom and doesn't have to be told what to do with a woman's body and they are looking for a man who can be emotionally open to them and a man who wants to be loyal and respectful to her. My whole life I've seen some men screw up with their relationships because of the woman wanting him to be more involved with their emotions and feelings of being intimate and respectful so I have been changing everything in my life to become a man who every woman is looking for in a relationship. My last partner thought I was to good to be true and thought I was only saying these things in order to get in to her paint's so I suggested that we are not intimate with each other for a few months and get to know what the person was like. The relationship between the two of us lasted for 2 weeks longer than she leaves me stating that I have to be either a gay man or that I was not interested in her otherwise I would have been trying to get her paint's off instead of being the type of guy she said she was looking for. So I don't know why women say that men should be putting the effort in to prove to be a good catch and pay attention to the woman's body and the way it works. Now I know that I'm not the best looking bloke out there but I am that diamond in the rough that apparently all women desire in a man, in my case I strongly believe that it's only coming down to is the way I look because I have been trying to find a woman who wants to be loved unconditionally by a man who wants to be that guy who women desire for, that can't be found well it's been over 8 years now since I was privaliged to be with a woman and I'm starting to think that the only type of man they are looking for in a relationship is a man who they can complain about to get sympathy for. I've never been unfaithful or disrespectful to any of the previous partners I've been with I can't stand domestic violence in any shape or form and I studied in female anatomy and physiology and I do go that extra mile to show the lady I'm with just how much she means to me and I will never stop thinking of ways to show her that I am in love with her. But for some reason not one woman who wants that type of man they will have a great relationship with wants to be with me on an intimate level because of the way I look because apart from not being an attractive man I am that type of guy woman say that they would love to be with.

[William7489]

No. At least in my experience they do not until much later in the relationship when they are very comfortable in their position. Regardless of what you read or hear, just look around and see what you see. Women are university attracted to men of status and confidence. From high school all the way up to the top it’s almost a universal thing. A guy who is too emotional, pouring his heart out and acting like a lovesick person - that is not attractive to women.

[Anonymous]

it really depends.


i personally loved my man’s moods. even when he’d get angry, or yell over video games and tv shows. and when he cried at the last Spiderman movie, and at the end of Toy Story. he was moody like me, and i really loved him !

[Asker]

You must be s very rare case then

[Opinion Owner]

thats untrue. i just have a preference

[Asker]

I base my life off generalities. Not exceptions

[Lu_Gibby]

He’s being authentic. He is who he is. You as a woman can rely on that stability.

[musicbrain5]

Well, I don’t want to date a damn robot, that’s for sure.

[Asker]

But you also dont want a cry baby either

[musicbrain5]

Of course not. I don’t want a snowflake who flies off the handle crying or bursting with anger over stupid things.

[Asker]

But it doesn't eveb need be that. Crying as a way of expressing yourself is very risky as a man

[musicbrain5]

Then don’t cry. You know that “emotional” doesn’t mean crying, right?

[Asker]

You're right most men dont cry at all. Men have a different way of expressing emotion women will never understand and that's fine

[Chris_Morgan]

I think when they say "Emotional" they mean a man who"s loving, affectionate, passionate, intelligent, caring, empathetic, and able to understand her wants, needs, and feelings, and be able to relate to her on a deeper level.

The kind of emotional man they don't want is a guy who complains, gets offended easily, worries constantly, throws tantrums or cries over things that aren't important.

So basically when they say "Emotional man" they mean a lover not a temperamental cry baby type.

[Arwen06]

Yes 100%!

[Asker]

So it has to be by their rules essentially?

[Chris_Morgan]

Asker: As far as what they want is concerned it is.
Some women want you to be emotional, but also strong at the same time. An example would be back during my marriage I remember when we first brought our baby home from the hospital. We had a few false alarms and issues during the pregnancy. My wife at the time and I had been awake for like 3 days and we were both ready to fall apart. We had a newborn to care for, we were both exhausted and on the brink of tears. I remember my wife looking at me crying and saying "Oh no, you can't fall apart too, I need you to be strong for us right now." That's when I realized that our role as men is to empathize and understand our women, but also be the strength and support.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I agree, it's a damn lie. Then again... what kind of emotion? Women love the tingles and butterflies feeling and a dude flying off the handle all the time might create the kind of drama that makes her wet.

If the dude is crying more than her to romance movies, she's probably turned off by it. So the kind of emotion there is... a really big factor.

[Apple1996]

100% yes its important for a man to show his emotions. It would be awkward to be in a relationship with someone who never shown any emotion

[Asker]

Show his emotion how? Because often women have a different view of how men should express themselves

[Apple1996]

All emotions

[Asker]

Women dont know how to handle a man's emotional problems or feelings

[Apple1996]

I think it's actually the opposite. Women can handle a man's emotions but men cannot handle a woman's. That's why we constantly hear that women are the emotional ones when we aren't. We just unfortunately don't have the same support that men do

[Asker]

a lot of men say that when they open up two things happen to them
1. The women loses attraction to them
2. Women use their feelings and vulnerability against them as a weapon

Women can say they want an emotional man but the actions always say differently

[Asker]

Women are sympathetic but they're not empathetic towards men

[AddylynnNightingale]

Just tell me what's on your mind. No need to be the king of drama.

[Asker]

But we can't be too honest

[AddylynnNightingale]

Then we can't be together.

[William7489]

Interesting response. Kind of like just the facts? I appreciate the honesty it just kind of confirms what I thought. Overly emotional men are not attractive to women. Thanks again for sharing.

[Asker]

If i told you that i really don't want to take you out on dates but just want to have sex and then move on would you be okay with that honesty?

[AddylynnNightingale]

I'm not interested in one night stands. So no we wouldn't fit together.

[Asker]

But doesn't regular dating eventually lead to sex?

[William7489]

Addylynn, Sorry I didn’t mean to jump into a conversation about one night stands. I was just commenting on your point. My apologies!

[AddylynnNightingale]

@William7489 I agree. Overly emotional. I don't like overly emotional people. Whether they are men or women.

[William7489]

@AddylynnNightingale You just might have too much common sense to be here. I’ve been in here for days and yet you’re the first person I’ve ever mentioned the importance of communication in your relationship. I’m not sure whether I should scream or cry.

[AddylynnNightingale]

@William7489 I would opt for crying. Maybe I'll lose my mind like the others eventually and become one of Them... one of the anonymous askers.

[Shiface92]

A little emotion is Good But not overly emotional... no one wants to be with someone whose easilly offended or who's constanly complaining

[Shiface92]

there were times my boyfriend cried over a very sad scene and it made my heart melt and reminded me he's a good human...

but if he were the type to cry over everything it wouldn't be cute

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Women want a man who is fun to be around and doesn't confuse them

[scooogy]

Maybe they want you to believe it's a lie and get you upset to have you emotional 😛

[AsaKyo]

Yeah, cause' then we could relate, right?

[ghstbade23]

are you sure, wouldn't you prefere someone that isn't crying or venting to help you through your situation

[AsaKyo]

@ghstbade23 Yeah, I'm sure

[ghstbade23]

fair enough, that does sound actually sound nice to do, my answer wasn't from my point of view but from others that have shown emotions and were broken up with because of it.