Men, do you think women want a man who is truly in touch with his feelings? Women do you want a man who is always emotionally available?

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GuyAnswersGirls123 · Accepted Answer

I suspect most women want emotionally mature men as men want emotionally mature women. Emotionally mature people, as in those who think very productively and positively, don't burst out into tears or throw tantrums very often. That doesn't mean they're out of touch with their feelings!

There is a tendency in my perspective for some women to interpret men as broken simply for not behaving like immature women, simply because they don't turn to mush and constantly place their hands over their heart saying, "I feel like [...] I feel like [...]," and weep over little things.

Some men are genuinely broken when they harbor the most negative thoughts but repress their negative emotions out of fear of being judged negatively. But the cure for such men as I see it isn't to constantly turn into mush and start wearing their hearts on their sleeve but to start cultivating more positive and productive thinking patterns.

And that actually does require being in deep touch with our thoughts and how they influence our feelings to cultivate inner peace, positivity, and joy, but the end result isn't going to be a person who frequently turns to mush.

So the image of the end result I think is off. For example, my wife is one of the most emotionally mature people I've ever met and she has only cried a few times over the course of 14 years of marriage and additional years knowing each other very intimately, and each time in response to something very understandably traumatic. That's not because she's out of touch with her feelings; it's quite the opposite. She's so in touch with her feelings that she knows to think positively and productively as one of the most cheerful and positive people I've ever met. People who constantly turn into a ball of mush and conflate that with being more in touch with their emotions are, in my opinion, conflating their tendency to be controlled by their emotions with being in touch with them.

smne35 · Accepted Answer

Some women do and some men play that role you know act like oh baby. Oh that's so touching. I mean men do it with men. Do whatever they got to do to get you know inside a woman's pants and women do the same damn thing but most of them be like meters. Toughen up pump some testosterone in your ass or something here whining like a little girl yeah, women can be cruel when they see their men whimping out like that so and some accept that you know. Oh poor baby! He's so sensitive accept them like that and he'll play that role well she's at work. You'll play mr mom that's what That's what they want to do. That's their thing. That's the ones who will slap his ass up when you come acting like that and you better toughen up man. Get your ass out of here. Go back home to your mama and I think that's the feminist That's hard like that on dude. She be saying I'm the man and he's like no I'm the man. I got the dick she's like. No I'm the man cuz I got to dick too. now , so what's up, what time to go can't touch that

Rhizomorph · Accepted Answer

Honestly: it is so refreshing when a guy is emotionally intelligent/available but I’ve noticed that those kind of guys have their own sensitivity’s (and there’s nothing wrong w/ that at all but sometimes they can be a little too unhinged like a girl w/ their emotions and for me that’s something I’ve found that sort of turns me off to emotional guys which is kind of a fucked up bias ik but🤷🏻‍♀️)

Although: being w/ someone who is emotionally anorexic/unavailable is frustrating/painful sort of miserable.

I can’t speak for all women though since this is just my own personal opinion.

All in all: everyone just wants to be w/ someone who can understand/accept their emotions/hear them w/you and provide you comfort and safety to express those. Reconsider your parter if you don’t feel they give any of that

ShadowGirl7 · Accepted Answer

I like a guy that is sensitive. before I got to know the guy that is now my boyfriend, he seemed like he was untouchable. but I fell almost as soon as I heard his voice gentle, when he opened up. the first time I truly thought and felt the words "I love you" was when I first saw him cry. when a guy is open about his emotions, it shows trust, especially if he's a "tough guy" and doesn't talk about those things with anyone. it makes a girl feel important, loved, and like she matters. at least, that's how it is for me.

MemeSupreme · Answer

100% we do and when we say we like emotionally availability... dudes interpret it wrong

being in touch with your feelings means like being aware of them, so you can communicate an issue in your life or our relationship AND work on it. like its about showing effort into making us work like you got the energy for it. it's not about crying in front of me bc mufasa died, being clingy, or like spilling your darkest secrets lol

AaronKrieger · Answer

In my experience, they do depending on the reason and frequency. Also, it can VERY much strengthen the relationship or be a wholesome moment to appreciate.

They like men to be emotionally healthy and open - not unstable. Of course not all women do, but most do in my opinion.

Lionman95 · Answer

I´d say yes but with the twist that it´s about the feelings that concern the woman. Like women want a guy to tell them how he loves them and what he sees in them but they are from my experience less interested in the frustration and anger he has at his job.

It´s also not about crying about being invested in the relationship.

HawkPerception · Answer

I believe women will always give that advice to men... to be more emotional and that they're attracted to a man that's not afraid to show emotion. However, those same women always seem to be subconsciously turned off when they see a man cry. They want a man to be their rock. They're okay if he has moments of weakness for extreme scenarios occasionally, like if a loved one dies. But to cry often for little things like girls do... they would rather not date a girl like themselves.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

They Don't, you give enough attention and they start to believe it's out of desperateness and they lose interest, happens to me a lot more than y'all think, I simply just don't play all that making people wait game when I'm available to respond, I have noticed this is only something clingy women don't give a shit about, I guess that's why I click with then so well 🤷🏽‍♂️

robhazelnut · Answer

I would guess that most women would, when it is understood as I write below.

Speaking directly: Emotions are messengers, rather than commanders. Silencing a messenger is foolish, as is letting them take command. To be in touch with one's emotions means not treating them as problems or locking them up, though also not letting them control what you say or do, which is also them being disconnected from oneself.

TenderFantasy · Answer

Yeah, one of my exes was like that. It was flattering to see because it means he wasn't hiding his feelings and it showed his sensitive side. He wasn't afraid of what people were going to think of him as a "Man" who cried". That's one of the reasons I fell for him definitely, and my empathetic, compassionate side definitely kicked in those times.

VikingWarLord · Answer

This is how dudes get friend zoned and/or cheated on REAL QUICK and for good reason! No dude should be this in touch with his feelings, wtf

LazerBean · Answer

Yes. Being in touch with your emotions means you understand them, why they happen, and how to appropriately handle them. It does not mean being emotionally reactive or unstable, which seems to be what the whining men here think it is.

HaveNoName · Answer

Because when educated and professional women feel they do not have to depend on the man as the breadwinner and the only source of food and a home, they have a lack of tolerance for any crap. Sometimes crap, sometimes anything less than expectations.

Steelcore5280 · Answer

The minute you show your emotionally vulnerable side is the day your relationship is doomed to fail. NEVER show your vulnerable side to a woman. It never goes well.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Women will always use an emotional man to her own benefit and to his detriment.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Nope. 100% nope. The cost is too high for them.

The_Sexpert · Answer

Thanks for the A2A

We were always taught to never show our emotions to a woman

Because not only some women might consider us to be a weak man, but we also don't wish to share our pain... pain is not meant to be shared

bobalife · Answer

Not sure why many men doubt this, but any mature women would love emotionally mature and supportive men. I sure appreciate someone who’s emotionally aware and expressive.

getwiththepg · Answer

No. Opening up to a woman no matter how hard she pleads for you to do it is a horrible idea. They want a Kratos-type stoic character that doesn’t laugh or smile lmao

RavVid · Answer

Women don't like men to have feelings. If men had a single feeling, it wouldn't leave enough room for her feelings

DaBiggestBird · Answer

Of course, any normal person finds emotional intelligence an attractive trait.

Apple1996 · Answer

I love when men are vulnerable and aren't scared to show their emotions

Anonymous · Answer

Women  SAY  want a man who is truly in touch with his feelings,  BUT  when they are in a relationship with one it turns them off, they want men to act like men not women.

JayBones · Answer

This is exactly the answers I expected on both sides. Men that have seen the light and Girls just straight lying

JesseP1nk · Answer

Men who can't control their emotions are dangerous.

gorydetails · Answer

Nope, women don't want men to display emotions.

Unit1 · Answer

Some girls yes, some "girls" would cheat on him with someone, who doesn't.

Elena_Stewart · Answer

I've never been with such a person before, so I don't know. But I don't like this character.

DreamLife7 · Answer

So are u a woman or not? You should be able to answer this at almost 40 years old

Anonymous · Answer

Cried in front of my long distance ex once and she broke up with me next time I saw her. Unless someone or something dies hold back the emotions.

Anonymous · Answer

Word of advice guys — women and girls don’t mean what they say when it comes to “feelings”.

Anonymous · Answer

Women say they want this, and then leave when they get it..

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely i can only connect with emotionally intelligent and mature men

Nikki1989 · Answer

Of course, we do.

msc545 · Answer

Of course they don't

Zestyassmf1997 · Answer

Generally, I don’t think so, no.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Yes but only romantically available with me

Cheerfull009 · Answer

Yes, agree that first phras

AmyHew1tt · Answer

Yes, 100%

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

No lol

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