Here is my issue with this, you said. "Whenever he realizes that he can't live without her and come back to her" Sounds toxic to me, because I can live just fine without a woman, I just do not want to.
At 47, I do not think I can ever say that I can't live without a woman, because I know no matter what I can... I just do not want to. But I do not just block people all that easily. If I do block someone that is because I never want to hear from them again, and I usually do not.
Why do you choose to click that button to insult a girl? Doesn't it show that you're weak enough to face the reality instead blocking her? Can't you move on from her without blocking or negatively treating her? It only makes her absolutely stop caring about you. You might think it as a superior move but actually it can get your own downfall of losing the other person permanently which you might not notice in that particular moment which you might realise later but it will be too late that she will stop caring anymore and nothing you do can get her back into your life
Did I insult anyone? I just said I do not just block people on whims, or that easily. I mean if I block someone they really deserve it. I am a very deliberate thinker, so if you earned a block from me, then you can rest assured I am moving on.
Like it or not, believe it or not, people do not really change all that easily. I mean it takes years of work and dedication to make changes in your lifestyle or character to really take hold. So honestly at 47 I am not really going to entertain that. But again, I take some effort to get me to block you.
Issue with your post, is that you are presenting it as if the woman is the catch and that she is worth entertaining... what about the guy, what's his value? You breakup you stop talking, and then at some piont later she wants to come back around, and its assumed at that point that she worth all the effort... because now she is a different and better person. Nah, honestly I do not block people that I would entertain later on a causual bases, but for woman to want me to take her back later... well she is going to have to prove to me that she is a different person.
I only block maybe 1 in 5 people that I date... and those I do deserve it. But how many to you think have contacted me after breaking up? 1, up 1 in 17 woman I have dated in the last 3 years has reconnected with me in all that time... and we are just now seeing each other again. But that is because she made serious life changes and came back and said to me that I was right. She reread the text messages and the things I was saying, and she said I was right. She had put all these walls and didn't realize how she had shielded herself off from men... and that if wanted to truly date she needed to make space in her life to do it.
So, I am not sure if you are saying to me that I insult woman, or if it was general statement about men in general.
He thinks exactly like you but isn't mature enough even to communicate and say what's provoking him. If he stays like that, he doesn't deserve any love from her. How can a boy expect a love from a girl without communicating his needs and blocking her whenever he gets mad on her without telling her any reason? I don't consider this as childish or immature but evil actions that he does maybe to manipulate her but instead she moves on and never comes back and again he gets mad on her after she moves on
I don't want him back. He lost me. He was playing games on me and he lost the game. Which means he lost me and I'll never go back. I would choose a better man than him who knows how to treat a girl well. If this toxic guy was honest about his feelings and if he blocked me after giving me a closure I would have respected him better. But this guy was purely playing games so he wasn't giving the closure so I can't be able to move on to other guy but chase him more. I won't chase a guy but replace him with a better guy. I don't care if he gets heartbroken. He broke my heart and my emotions already using that button. I don't know for what purpose he wanted to click that button but without giving an explanation if he does it even after I ask him for a closure and to end it. He didn't actually say a word and blocked me. Doesn't this show his manipulative nature? Why do I choose to be with a guy who can't be upfront about his thoughts and wants me to understand by choosing to treat me bad? Bad actions can't be justified not accepted
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Well, it could be manipulation, for sure. But honestly it sounds like you call him out on some bullshit, and he either doesn't want to own up it, or take any responsibility for his actions, or he does not want to hurt your feeling or tear you down.
So, I did this to woman. We were not really dating, but we spent a weekend together. I texted her later saying the chemistry was off for me, she came back with some texts, and honestly, I just told her I do not want to do this. I understand you got your feelings hurt, but I do not want to tear you down or break it down either further. The chemistry is not there for me and that it. Then I blocked her, because she was going into next level shit, that honestly, I never committed to, and didn't want to do with her.
But you are right, I didn't just ghost her, I did give her something more, as far as explanation... that was the last woman I blocked.
He didn't gave an explanation like you did to her. I clearly said him to be with other girl and give me a clear explanation of what he wants to say and to end it in a right way by giving me explanation so that I can move on from him. Instead he blocked me directly. Isn't it manipulative? He didn't even mention about any other girl and blocked me which was even more manipulative
So it all comes down to if he really cheated or not. Sure he might of been with another woman, I assume you can prove that. So if you can prove beyond doubt then honestly what else is there for him to say? Sorry, I guess? But he was cheating for a reason, so in some ways it might be better for you to assume he's a cheater and move on. I mean do you really want him to break down further and really tell you why he did it? I mean at that point does it really matter?
Or,
You accused him something he did does not feel he did, and you put him off in a way that he doesn't even want to explore it further with you... because what's the point, you are going to believe what you want to believe at this point.
If I accused him of what he didn't do, he should tell me at least that he didn't do. Only a guy who doesn't care about my feelings or if he's trying to manipulating me by confusing me he will do it. People confuse others so they can manipulate others. You might not know this but he knows it will. He confuses me so I need to double think if I need to move on from him. He wants to play with my emotions. Either way if he was really with some other girl, I asked him to break it down and I wouldn't have feel a shit if she broke his cheating attitude. It would have made it easier to me to move on quickly from a cheater. He knows what I feel and he knows I can't move on without a closure so he's doing all such. I clearly explained him while he was dating me earlier to be straight up with me whatever he does even if he wants to end it but he was never honest enough and always used to play with my emotions. I got fed up and started scolding him and he blocked me exactly at the same moment
I am just saying you are not wrong... you make some good points. But if I was guilty or not of cheating, if you accuse me of it, in the way you are speaking of it here... I would probably not respond to you, because your mind is made up. There literally is nothing I could say to change your mind, or I knew what you were accusing me of to be true, then yeah, the gig is up there no point in saying anything further.
But what your are saying is 100% true, but not saying anything he is really getting under your skin... and you know it's not right. But he is probably causing you more anxiety by not responding, and that is because he does care about you honestly, or you are right he is trying to manipulate you into accepting his behavior, which you will not do... so, there is nothing for him to say or do even if he wanted to.
So, with the tone of everything you expressed in our responses, it seems to me that you haven't left him with very many options. So, blocking you might just be the best thing for both of you.
Still you support blocking. Can't a boy move on from a girl without blocking? Blocking shows that a guy is having evil thoughts of destroying her mind and it doesn't create any good opinion on him. If he explains, moves on from her without blocking it shows that he's a respectful guy. It can also give a chance to him to be forgiven when he comes back to her. But blocking is the way through which he can lose her permanently because he doesn't deserve her love anymore even if he realises his mistake later and comes back
Women who put men in positions to chase after them are the worst type of girlfriends, the most toxic wives and all around the most pathetic type of female partner to have. Any girl who blocks you and waits for you to create fake accounts to DM her with are weak minded, the same type of woman who throws drinks in your face at a bar then stands around the corner waiting for you to come chasing her, then when you DONT chase her she makes up fake victim stories to ruin your reputation. Anyone women who does anything like that is to be ABANDONED.
@ronaldo75 I agree and it goes with men like this as well
There 9s nothing evil about someone blocking you. It's not nice, it's not polite... but it's not evil.
If you threw down some type of ultimatum or if came at him in toxic way... if I feel. yoyr being verbally abusive, or completely insensitive and disrespectful... your getting blocked I don't need toxic people in my life.
But if your being respectful of me... then u will chat without blocking.
It's surely evil because people know what damage it does to the other person. It destroys their self esteem, etc. Even if I was respectfully asking him to end it with an explanation, he blocked by simply seeing my text. Isn't it manipulative?
Well honest if your an emotionally stable and confident person... getting blocked is a fact of life. It happens and it doesn't become some type of traumatic event. You get over it and move on.
I agree it's not nice or polite... but it's not devastating either. So it makes me concerned to see someone this distrat about it.
Everyone is not strong to deal with insults
I smell drama. If he’s blocked you, move on. As part of growing be honest with yourself and evaluate if maybe you did something to deserve to be blocked.
What do you think that a girl does to be deserve to be blocked, insulted by him?
You seem supporting the abuser and not the victim of abuse. Which girl want to love a guy who doesn't treat girls well? If a girl loves after a guy blocks her is a girl who truly loves a guy. But if he blocked her out of anger or whatsoever reason, he doesn't deserve her love anymore which means that she CAN automatically move on to a better guy and stop caring about this jerk guy
A jerk doesn't deserve to be loved by a girl he blocks. When he's a jerk he doesn't deserve her true love. He's a loser. And you're an inconsiderate human for supporting his actions and blaming a girl for his bad attitude and no accountability. Who wants to stay stuck on a guy who treats her bad? How do you even think that a guy will cry for such a guy? It's funny that you think that she doesn't move on because you absolutely feel that she should stay stuck on this jerk. She never will and she have the absolute choice to stop loving that idiot and be with a better guy in her life. The guy who blocked her obviously lowers his level down by treating a girl wrong. He obviously reaps what he sows. He doesn't deserve her love anymore
I guess I don’t see being blocked as abuse. If someone blocked me (it’s happened) it’s just a sign that things between them and I are dead and I should move on with my life. They aren’t worth anymore of my time, thoughts, or energy. Also, I do not ‘support’ anybody’s actions. I’m simply offering an opinion. You did ask, after all.
Yes, but if something is dead, he should say it first why it ended so that she can learn a lesson from it and focus on finding a better guy than him but he doesn't say a word even if she says him to end it with a word he choose to block her without telling her any reason. Doesn't this show that he's playing with her emotions? Who supports this?
he doesn't deserve the girl but doesn't mean the girl doesn't love him. i used to love a guy who blocked me luckily after nearly three years of hurting i am finally over him. i dont love him at all now. but it took a lot of time and therapy to get to this point.
Such a pure love yours was but he didn't deserved anyways. He's the loser and a jerk to put you through shit for truly loving him
s Sometimes people need to be blocked. Sometimes we need a break from people, especially people who aren’t good for our mental health at the present time. Self care comes first, above all else. Neither poll options are healthy.
It's not good to block someone. It shows selfishness and the immaturity to destroy other person's well being. The person who got blocked might develop negative feelings that might destroy themselves and their own well being. Without considering this if that boy blocks her, he doesn't deserve any love from her. It's healthy to communicate, make her understand what is provoking him and what can she do to make him feel better. But if he blocks her expecting her to understand his feelings without clearly telling her, it really shows his evil nature and the destruction he does when he is mad on her. So he doesn't deserve her love anymore. She can stop caring about him and find someone better than him who actually is best for her and who cares for her like he doesn't
Yeah, you should definitely leave him alone. You sound really unhinged.
I left him alone already. You sound like a selfish and immature person more than him. At least he understands if I'm explaining this to him but you say that I'm mentally imbalanced which shows that you don't think about other people's emotions but only yours. Which means that others shouldn't care about your emotions either
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yeah, anybody who resorts to blocking isn't dating material. there's plenty of times blocking is useful, but this is just no.
Yes and this goes both ways. Blocking is a no-go for me. Do it once and we're done.
Yeah it goes both ways
If he blocks her, why would he WANT to be loved by her?
If he blocked her out of anger
Blocking someone have various reasons. A guy can block her if she doesn't love him back. A guy can also block her if he knows that it will make her feel powerless so as to gain control over her. Blocking is not always about the other person but their own internal feelings not running well for which they need understanding or healing for the way they treat others due to their own trauma experiences
Why are you messing with a guy who blocks you? clearly he's not that into you for him to do this. just move on
Who is messing with him? This clearly shows your thought that a guy can treat a girl like a doormat and he can get her on her feelings whenever he want and he can block her whenever he loses the spark to love her or if he finds someone better. That's the reason girls stop caring about guys like you and accept only guys who can treat a girl with respect and not like doormat. Even if a guy isn't interested in a girl, blocking her reveals his evil nature because good guys won't do that shit. Instead they'll say it to her and explain it to her clearly so that she can focus on finding someone better. If he doesn't give any explanation and blocks her directly, it clearly proves that he might be manipulating her into doing something that she doesn't wants to do so instead it will not work and she will find someone better and he will get mad on her again. These kind of guys absolutely doesn't deserve any love from her. They uses her for timepass and when she gets attached to him and he treats her worst when she seeks for justice she needs to be blamed by guys like you who supports his evil nature
If the guy blocks you with no explanation then yeah that proves he's a douche and you should avoid him. just treat it as if you 'dodged a bullet' and move on. I don't think he's manipulating you i think he just lost attraction. it happens. yes he is a jerk. just find a better guy
" That's the reason girls stop caring about guys like you"
Also you don't know me so that comment is outta line there miss.
" That's the reason girls stop caring about guys like you"
Also you don't know me so that comment is outta line there miss.
Commenting on this, I said it because I guess you were supporting his evil actions
just move on
I did already. But I still don't support his jerk actions
I don't support guys like him either. I only think a guy who treats a girl with respect, love and consideration about her feelings is absolutely worth her love. And the one who never treats her bad even if he lost interest on her
Most men don't deserve love from a woman. They do absolutely nothing to earn it.
You can say that about women too
If that's the case
If they does something she appreciates or if he cares for her genuinely without expecting anything in return, then only they deserve to get loved by her. If he expects her to do something back for caring about her, then it's a business and not love
Depends on the circumstances, he might have got the wrong end of the stixk about her
What does this mean?
well maybe she said stuff that he took the wrong way or someone said something to him about her that put him off but it wasn't true
What if both cases aren't true and he's just offended by her words?
Well u could apologise in person i guess
I disagree people do things fast and don’t realize what they did because they’re angry but they unblock to fix it
But sometimes it emotionally damages the other person that the other person can't forgive anymore due to that damage and they won't accept and take them back after they might realise because it will be too late
Why would anyone want to be loved by someone they block in the first place?
Then why would they chase a girl and ask her to love them in starting?
I would say if a guy blocks a girl then everything else you're saying is irrelevant. Because if he blocked her doesn't care. Move on.
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