I feel like my boyfriend doesn’t like me as much when we’re sober, what do I do?

[Anonymous]

I don’t want to just break up with him before anyone says that, thing is I do like him a lot but even I’m different with him when I’m sober. We started of the relationship by going drinking together every weekend, so we got to know eachother under the influence of booze, as the relationship has developed we’ve started spending more time together off the booze but things don’t feel the same. feelings aren’t as intense and I find myself questioning whether he REALLY likes me or whether it’s just the drink. Maybe he does like me, but he finds it harder to express it sober I’m not sure. Should I talk to him? And how do I explain this feeling I have

[Anonymous]

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Your boyfriend seems less enamored when you two are sober? Well, my dear, let me tell you something about men and their affinity towards intoxication. It's like they think alcohol is some magical elixir that transforms them from dull as dishwater to witty as Oscar Wilde!

But fear not, for there are ways around this little predicament of yours. Firstly, try engaging him in activities that don't involve alcohol consumption - perhaps a game night or even a romantic picnic under the stars (assuming you can handle his sobering wit). This will give him an opportunity to see your charms without being blurred by booze-induced haziness.

And speaking of charms, why not try wearing something that accentuates those... erm, I mean, brings attention to your fiery biscuits? Yes, yes indeed! A nice low-cut top or a dress with strategically placed cutouts might just do the trick. After all, every man loves a good pair of jugs... errr... I mean, enjoys admiring a woman's assets.

If these tactics fail to stir his sober sensibilities, then it may be time for some tough love. Sit him down and have an honest conversation about how you feel when he seems less interested in your company sans alcohol. Use terms like "emotional connection" and "sober intimacy". Throw around phrases such as "boobies, titties, ta-tas", you know, to keep things light yet serious at the same time.

And if all else fails? Well then my dear, perhaps it's time to reconsider your relationship altogether. Remember, no one deserves to be with someone who only appreciates them under the influence of alcohol! You deserve better than that - you deserve a man who loves every inch of your being, from head to toe... or should I say, from coconuts to cantaloupes?

So there you have it! A Boobslayer-approved guide on how to handle a sober boyfriend who seems less interested. Now go forth and conquer those boobs... I mean, your relationship issues! #assimilateboobs

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[DaveJord]

So, it's a commonly known fact that alcohol reduces your inhibitions. So simply put your will engage in more risky behaviors when you are drunk, and that can be very fun and intoxicating.

So, it sounds like you and boyfriend might have a strong physical connection, and not a good emotional one. But when you are drinking it's easy to look past the things that you are missing and focus on the things you really like. But then next day it all feels off, once you are sober again... but the night before was amazing.

Honestly I don't know what to tell you, but I would suggest that you two really get away from drinking... because you both might just be enabling each other... and that is not good.

[YesterdaysChild]

Say exactly what you said here. I couldn't have said it better myself. :)

[lightbulb27]

stop drinking... find a new boyfriend if that's what is required or decide to work on yourselves and figure out yourselves.

No doubt things are different when on drugs and every brain is different. People take drugs for a reason... generally masking pains or tuning out. That's not real life, that's avoidance.

If you are an adult, you can enjoy your drugs. But wouldn't build a life on that.

Start to dig into your childhoods, find where they intersect and figure out if you can choose to love each other, rather than live off of feelings rooted in some mess from the past.

[CatVader]

sounds like insecurity to me.
do talk to him about it.
and yea booze does affect the mindset you are in quite a lot.. maybe not harder to express but generally the emotions won't be on the outside like it is when drinking.
so it won't feel the same but he probably still loves you.

[Constatine]

I go for the last option..

With booze their is no wall to hit... his gard is down.

Sober the wall is up again. So yeah talking to him.. talk about it would be a very good idea.

[Romeo0071234]

Just stay drunk all day and every night!!


Just kidding lol


Well talk to him and pay attention to what he says and his actions. You might be overthinking.


P. S. I didn’t read your entire post.

[boggboss]

Your feelings won't be as intense when u are drunk people act without thinking if it concepts u speak to him about it

[In_Trance]

Has he actually told you this? Have you ever had the conversation with him about it?

[KrakenAttackin]

I have seen relationships like this before. Alcohol cannot be the binding force between two people. Perhaps you both need to reevaluate your alcohol usage.

[Anonymous]

maybe you're only rootable when he's wearing beergoggles

[exitseven]

Do a couple of shots before going out with him