Should we all have dating resumes so we don't waste time trying to investigate people on dates?

[coachTanthony]

Name:

Future Goals:

Non negotiables:

hobbies:

interests:

Income/future potential income

etc etc

Good idea

No lets keep doing the same thing over and over

Other ( my comment is below )

[Lliam]

Gee. How appealing. How romantic. (sarc.).
Sounds like a business transaction with a soulless robot.

Someone who wanted a resume would be incompatible with me right off the bat. I'm not applying for a job. They are not my potential employer. And they can fuck right off.

Interviewer: "What would you say is your greatest flaw?"
Interviewee: "Honesty."
Interviewer: "I don't think honesty is a flaw."
Interviewee: "I don't give a fuck what you think."

So a person is a commodity and a relationship is a mere transaction. Nothing personal. No feelings involved.

I guess a resume would save the burden of getting to know someone. After all, time is money. And it would be a relief for those who lack social skills, human emotions, and the ability to discern for themselves.

Maybe the resume should include the names, addresses and phone numbers of four references and permission to perform and complete background check.

[coachTanthony]

A resume is not an interview. It just states the non negotiables and other important questions so people can choose better. What you have said above happens a lot on dates. i want to have fun on the date already knowing that we align. Dates shouldn't be interviews they are because we don't have the info we need before hand.

[Constatine]

Interviewer: "What would you say is your greatest flaw?"
Interviewee: "Honesty."
Interviewer: "I don't think honesty is a flaw."
Interviewee: "I don't give a fuck what you think."

🤣😂🤣😂😂 i think i heard this one before.. can't remember where 😁

[Lliam]

@Constatine. Yeah, I saw it in a meme once.

[zeitgeist057]

It’s a great idea for close-minded people who have a laundry list of red flags, deal breakers, and other reasons they will reject someone out of hand.

For me, I find all the variety appealing. Different names, faces, hobbies, interests, income levels, whatever. There is a joy in learning about someone new, and seeing what unique beauty they bring to the world. Closing the door in the face of those who don’t fit a preconceived notion from a limited perspective is anathema to me. My world opens up the more I am open to the world.

[Lliam]

@zeitgeist057. 🎯🎯🎯 Well said.

[AnusNdaPainus]

Excellent but I think this will also help people see that dating and finding the right person isn’t something that can be forced because we all have problems

https://www.youtube.com/embed/_ViIpNLCs68

[coachTanthony]

LOL this was huge on Tik Tok

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That people treat dating like a job interview🤦🏼‍♀️… God, what happened to the fun of getting to know someone, hanging out, spending real time together, doesn’t HAVE to be a date, doesn’t HAVE to cost money. People overcomplicate things that don’t need to be complicated🤦🏼‍♀️

[coachTanthony]

You will on the date but this way you don’t waste time if you’re not aligned! Vet first then date

[KlinkyCoder]

We live in a different world with different problems compared to 50+ years ago.

[ronaldo75]

Times have changed and also people lie too much. Also people are dating at older and older ages. It used to be you dated and got married before 25, so there wasn't that much dirt and grit in people's pasts. Today I've gone out with women in their late 30s that um... I didn't even want to sleep with after I found their social media profiles and saw some of the shit they've done.

[Lliam]

I'm with you 100%, BBB.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@Lliam thanks 😊

[DizzyDesii]

I ask all of those things in person/online within the first few days/week. I don’t need to see a resume. I’ll know within 2 days to 2 weeks if I want to move forward with getting to know one another. As for the income, I’m not going to ask anyone about that as long as they are paying their bills and unless we’re getting engaged and wanting to figure out how much we’re splitting for the wedding

[DizzyDesii]

Plus a resume doesn't give a detailed answer as to why someone says yes or no to something. I rather communicate

[coachTanthony]

I don’t have two weeks and many others don’t either …. no need to waste that kind of precious time

[DizzyDesii]

2 days to 2 weeks. I mean its a resume after all. Most jobs dont reach back out for months when they look at our resume and all we can do is wait

[coachTanthony]

I’m not comparing it to the job hunt process. The point is to know their non negotiables up front so you don’t waste time on a date or two or three

[Constatine]

No. A resume will destroy romance, there is nothing to discover any more..

In the end it will make sure that you never find the one.. because on paper you reject them and thus will never meet the one.

[coachTanthony]

there's plenty to discover. The only thing you won't have to worry about is discovering you're not on the same page on date 2.

[Constatine]

Wheeh i don't know it sound wrong.. 😂🤣😂🤣

[OfMiceandMen]

What a great idea. She can shoot me down before meeting me, makes life easier.😕

[coachTanthony]

Exactly and vice versa.

[OfMiceandMen]

In the illustrious words of Mr. Burns... Excellent!

[spartan55]

We all know that no one EVER embellishes their CV...😂 😂 😂 😂

[coachTanthony]

There will always be liars in the world no matter what we do.

[Anonymous]

It's a good idea but I know that as a woman it gets you rape and death threats because of how greatly offended the people who don't fit are.

[coachTanthony]

There will always be people who get offended because they are insecure. We can't be everyone's cup of tea but some think they should. It's arrogant.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, too bad these people can't get over themselves and HAVE to react psycho over it. I think if I had a dating profile I would have a normal intro but I would incorporate dealbreaker info

[coachTanthony]

Dating apps are getting bad. I simply don't recommend them at all anymore unless your over 40.

[midnightmoon05]

That’s what match. com has when I first used it.
I like those features, saves so much time..:pre screener. Weed out so many unwanted candidates.

[msc545]

Good idea except people will lie on those too.

[coachTanthony]

Guess we need to add a background check to that

[msc545]

$$$ !

[coachTanthony]

Exactly. Put some skin in the game.

[msc545]

Nah. Not worth it.

[coachTanthony]

What would be worth it? Can you even articulate what it would look like for you for it to be worth it?

[msc545]

If I had some assurance that I might actually benefit from it in some way it might be worth it.

[coachTanthony]

Sounds just like the vaccine. If people had some assurances maybe some would take it but there will always be a few who don't do well with it so they make up there mind based on that.

[msc545]

I always get vaccinated. Doesn't matter what others do or think.

[LiamJHayden]

I've reviewed enough resumes to know how little I can trust many of them.

[ChiTown33]

It's funny i asked this about a year ago. After stumbling across this YouTube video. I got kind of a lackluster response to it. How would you feel if someone handed you thier dating resume? (More in the description)?

[Sparkie460]

Don't couples discuss this stuff on the first date? I did when I was dating

[coachTanthony]

Yeah but that’s a waste of time …bet the person first then have fun on the date

[DizzyDesii]

Coach, I actually agree with getting to know the facts before the date. Thats why i said days and not dates. We’re not going on a date if we’re not somewhat on the same page already

[coachTanthony]

@DizzyDesii I get it. I am just saying a resume can tell you in minutes that oh they want to travel the world with KIZZ for the next five years. Great not for me though... next.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Isn't this exactly what dating sites do? They ask these kinds of questions to get these kinds of answers to work as like a resume before people date?

[coachTanthony]

They miss the boat because they ask the wrong questions

[Drewtate]

Resumes are generally lies. What would your resume represent other that you've dated around and its not like an ex or person you rejected will back it up.

[zoe2187]

Yes!!! It would save so much time. I also think marriage licenses should have an extraction date. Like car tags you have to pay a renewal fee every year.

[Giddyup]

Horrible options on this post and no. I presume your not dating?

[FreyaRed]

I don't think corporation culture with resumes and applications is seductive in any way.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Wouldn't that just ruin the part of dating in the first place?

[Nikki1989]

No, people make dating too complicated now. Why make it even worse?

[catarecute]

we already have them if we use dating sites.

[JesseP1nk]

Like applying to a job? People lie even on that...

It would only work if people are honest to each other. But people lie even to themselves.

[BourbonAndBacon]

I've met and dated quite a few people on LinkedIn.

[KlinkyCoder]

Well, probably better than photos which online apps rely on and hasn't really did a favor some people.

[genericname85]

since you can just bullshit your resume, that brings us nowhere closer to anything.

[KrakenAttackin]

Isn't this what a dating profile is?

[coachTanthony]

No because dating apps are all fluff. Doesn't really tell you any non negotiables.

[Pete671]

Dick size should be detailed imho, also any interest in SPH from girls,,,

[shades777]

ah its too much too early and it tells you aomething and nothing at the same time because people lie

[Anonymous]

It sounds too business-y but that would probably be practical yeah

[inhua]

it'll certainly be a lot easier

[WhitneySnow]

No. That takes all the romance out of it.

[Luopio27]

You forgot the sexperiance!

[SaoirseS]

Nope.

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes.