Am I being too impatient or is he being too slow?

[Anonymous]

I F26 have been seeing this guy M27 for more than two months now. We go on dates every weekend and talk to each other every day. We have sex, and we have both stated that we like each other and would exclusively only have relations with each other. I have asked him if he sees us becoming anything more serious, and he said he does. The problem is he doesn't elaborate, or state why or when he sees this happening. Though I don't want to come off as needy and ask again. I also kind of felt the conversation become a little awkward when I asked the first time. We have a date again tomorrow, and he is sleeping over. Should I bring up it up again tomorrow after our date? Or should I wait for him to bring it up himself?

[RespectfulGuy]

At late 20s, playing the waiting game (who do what first) could be a sign of immaturity.

Or it may imply you two lack communication skills, which is needed for all relationship, from business to sexual to married.

May I suggest you to stop worrying how he would judge your words.

Instead it's time to suggest to him how to communicate.

Bring out honesty, respect and readiness to forgive.

Yes, discuss how to have "volatile memory" 🤣 when either of you says something offensive or wrong.

Agree to forgive each other unconditionally especially if it's just words.

No, I'm not answering your question directly. But do you understand what I'm driving at?

Conclusion, start communicating, and ready to forgive. As the saying goes, great lovers are great forgivers. If you two can achieve this, you won't ask this question. 🤔

[Asker]

I appreciate your answer, though I think for full context I need to understand what you mean with "volatile memory".

[RespectfulGuy]

Hahahaha...

A Computer Science term to for a type of storage that loses all the content the moment it's power down, like RAM.

I use this term to mean learn to forget quickly. So fast that after one sleep, no more remember the past and everything starts afresh.

[Asker]

Oh personally I don't think it's that easy. Especially if patterns that are uncomfortable repeat after you've mentioned you don't like something, or you'd like more support with something. I also believe you can learn a lot about someone during an argument and how they handle said argument. It is a good advice, but depends on context.

[RespectfulGuy]

Oh yes. Argument and quarrels are best scenarios to get to know each other.

There's no pretend, just the real you.

The catch is you must love each other enough to come together to talk, than just follow your emotion and break off.

[strateguy632]

wait for him to bring it up.