So for reference, it started online. He was one of my ex-husbands highschool buddies so we mostly ever spoke when we were all gaming together. After my husband and I called it quits we started flirting, which lead to spicy pictures. As fate would have it I ended up moving to the same area and we spoke about hooking up. We managed to hang out a few times, still much flirting but when I had asked about a date he hit me with the above "I'm not ready..." which ended the high amount of flirting, spicy pictures, one on one hangouts in more private settings. However, this has changed to eating lunch multiple times together weekly, constant text and more talking on a personal level. I've found that he really is very guarded, but he has slowly dropped some of that. He rarely asks for things he needs or wants.
Its been close to a year and I've wanted to mention the subject again, but at the same time I really want to let things flow naturally especially since we've become very close. Our other gaming buddies joke about us being together frequently because even they can tell we're something. From what I know of his previous partners 1. The breakups were amicable and kind of just faded out in a few months. 2) Mostly sexual and nothing too deep emotionally 3) still friends with them, but rarely speaks to them since there was little in common (both male and female partners).
Im not use to a slow pace so I am struggling with do I act? Am I being lead on? Or am I being impatient? Sorry about length.
