Do men usually get nervous initiating a first kiss on a date?

[BigBlueEyes343]

[AnusNdaPainus]

Yes

because we want to do disgusting things to women we like but we need to restrain ourselves because we don’t know if they’ll be into it

however once we get the green light it’s one of the best feelings in the world

[Jmmmfi4]

UUUUUUUHHHHHH YES

[OlderAndWiser]

I have done it so many times that I am not nervous, but I do get a bit excited! I never go for anything more than a kiss on the lips (no tonsil examination with my tongue!) And I approach slow enough that she can turn her fae to the side and let me kiss her cheek if that is her preference. How she responds to that usually tells me how she felt about the date.

Now I am engaged, so my first kiss days are history!

[Anonymous]

No and thankfully. i learned early on how to do it.

But that was before the "ask permission for every action" Era of today.

Now you have to ask for a kiss. Which is fine I suppose. It gives the guys who lack the abilities to be the ladies man an option.

But I think the simple fact is most girls prefer a man who does not have to ask.

Sure, I'm sure many women will appreciate a man asking. She would rather you ask than for you to impose your awkward desperate need for a kiss or to win her approval onto her.

But women still prefer men who don't need to ask. Men who know how to "grab her by the pussy" to borrow from Trump.

A man who knows how to grab her and take her and all that is ideal.

Most men try to copy that man and fail.

And so this is why women prefer for most men to just ask and to communicate.

Because if you're not that guy, you're not that man who knows what's up, you're just looking foolish trying to pretend to be that guy.

So just ask her unless you're that guy than you don't need to read this you already know what to do with these females.

[Harness]

BigBlueEyes343, you see it depends on the guy, I believe to some degree this also apply to women; it's really all about the experience. How experienced is the guy?

[BigBlueEyes343]

I don’t know.. I’m just asking in general, to try to gauge men’s feelings.

[JDavid25]

Of the few dates I been on... Nah.. The signal is usually pretty clear that they want the kiss.. Although there was one time where the woman gave the signal and I didn't go for it.. Pretty sure she left a bit disappointed..

[Lionman95]

Yes I do because kissing a girl without knowing that she likes it could be charged as sexual harrassment. That´s something I can´t risk since it might have negative effects on my job.

[BoopBoopBeep]

The past dozen times or so I've only kissed her twice. The others were her kissing me. Apparently I was slow to read signs.

[HitsyHonesty]

They have to be, right? But if the whole energy is just suuuuper chill, they probably aren't nervous at all. An in the moment kind of thing!

[Marklaw12]

All the time.

I am a great kisser. I have wonderful lips.

[BigBlueEyes343]

That’s good to know lol I’m not bad either

[OddBeMe]

Yes. I’d say it’s akin to guessing if you’d think it’s rape or not,

[BigBlueEyes343]

That’s a bit extreme. Many women love brig kissed spontaneously. If they’re on a date with you, then they want some form of intimacy, or they wouldn’t be there.

[OddBeMe]

Just giving you a clip inside guy’s heads at that moment. So any help or indicators from your team will move things right along.

[BigBlueEyes343]

Oh I see. Are there really scary feminist types out there who actually behave that way? I really didn’t know, because I only date men and I don’t mix with those types.

[OddBeMe]

Ehhh I guess we could say outright any man who’d that isn't a feminist. But we can’t tell before it’s too late. Best you can do is not put yourself in dependence of men and then find other ways suss out feminist qualities.

[BigBlueEyes343]

That sounds tough if it’s true, that there are scary women out there.

[OddBeMe]

Certainly much less than men. Lust murders are ten times more. Fear bad men, love good men,

[ArrowheadSW]

I would say that I'm a bit shy to initiate a first kiss.

[Anonymous]

Maybe the first few dates in thier life. But not after that. Guys worry about performance mainly. It's not that guys don't care what a woman thinks. But we know the goblins in her head affect most of that, not us.

[NeverGiveUp69]

I don't, but did when I was younger. It was a confidence thing, but I gained loads after I started kissing more girls. Plust I love older girls and they teached me a lot

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

No, that is not an issue with me as long as she's comfortable with it.

[ProbablyClueless]

Of course. Especially if you aren't totally sure how receptive she is to the kiss

[exitseven]

Yes, for me it was always a great source of terror.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I get very nervous. With the me too movement, and women being more sensitive to harassment. It feels like I am taking a huge risk initiating the kiss.

[Sasha0426]

Then how the fuck did you get dates in the first place?

[Opinion Owner]

Women have either asked me out on dates or they made it obvious that they wanted to be asked out.

[Sasha0426]

Ok. Then what are you worried about “Me Too” if you’re going on dates with women? You wouldn’t be going on dates if they wanted you to ask you out.

[Sasha0426]

*them out

[Opinion Owner]

Women don't typically ask men on dates, it's an anomaly (yes I said it has happened to me but only a hand full of times). I was referring to making "moves", intiating kisses, etc. I have been hearing a lot about "enthusiastic consent". The only way to know if she "enthusiastically consents" is if she initiates.

[Sasha0426]

Then I guess no kissing unless the girl initiates it.

[Sasha0426]

Are you even looking for a relationship or just casual?

[Opinion Owner]

Just casual.

[Sasha0426]

Let’s say you want something serious, how do you expect that to happen if you’re scared all the time?

[Opinion Owner]

Nothing will happen. I have accepted that, it's not worth the effort or the risk. Men are generally expected to put more effort, take more risk, and give more than what they receive.

[Sasha0426]

So, it’s safe to say relationships aren’t a thing anymore.

[Opinion Owner]

Not necessarily, there are many men still willing to put up with it.

[Sasha0426]

What do you mean by “put up with it”?

[Sasha0426]

If women are that bad, then there’s really no need to engage with women anymore. I think men should reject women.

[Sasha0426]

As for you, maybe don’t go on dates anymore.

[Opinion Owner]

Women are not so bad at all. Women are great and women are flawed. Women are people. I am just referring to most women and within the context of dating and relationships. As for me, I gave up on dating. I don't enjoy them. They are a means to an end, and the juice is not worth the squeeze.

[maroon_eyez]

Yes I do, sometimes less and sometimes more..
Depends on how nice the date was, how close we got.. sometimes i feel she likes me already, and sometimes im not sure lol

[dragoblack]

Absolutely. First kiss requires right timing and understanding they are comfortable enough to want it.

[Bitterness]

Yes, most individuals tend to experience nervousness in such situations.

[Nifrayu]

I was with my first kiss. I was never nervous about kissing after that.