My crush likes another girl. I know it was never me, but I’ve accept that. It's been evident since last May, when I started liking him. He's been aware of my feelings, but he hasn't shown any interest. I've faced rejection twice, and I've decided it's time to give up on pursuing him. Surprisingly, we've become close friends despite a rocky history.
Following my rejection in April this year, I initially moved on, no longer considering him my crush. However, I quietly held onto hope without actively pursuing anything. Strangely, the situation stopped bothering me. Our close friendship likely played a role in my lack of distress.
Recently, I discovered that he's talking to another girl in his class. Hearing this was initially upsetting, not because he's with someone else, but mainly because my efforts never interested him. Nevertheless, I accepted this fact swiftly, and it no longer troubled me. They don't openly flirt at school or constantly hang out, so it's not as if their relationship is being flaunted in front of me, lessening the emotional impact.
What's currently bothering me is their seriousness. It appears that they're doing all the things I had imagined us doing. I overheard the girl and her friend discussing how she's going to his house after school, and how she was nervous. I'm genuinely happy for them, but it's upsetting how I never had the chance to experience that with him.
I know he's been to her place because I saw them both on Snap map, and that, too, bothered me. It wasn't entirely unexpected, but when I witnessed it firsthand, it cut deep.
I'm struggling to understand why I haven't moved on after nearly two years. My feelings for him persist, and I suspect it's because of our close friendship. Even though I can't have him romantically, he remains a part of my daily life. We engage in playful banter and physical contact, making it challenging to move on because I know I'll never truly see him as just a friend.
Should I distance from him?
Following my rejection in April this year, I initially moved on, no longer considering him my crush. However, I quietly held onto hope without actively pursuing anything. Strangely, the situation stopped bothering me. Our close friendship likely played a role in my lack of distress.
Recently, I discovered that he's talking to another girl in his class. Hearing this was initially upsetting, not because he's with someone else, but mainly because my efforts never interested him. Nevertheless, I accepted this fact swiftly, and it no longer troubled me. They don't openly flirt at school or constantly hang out, so it's not as if their relationship is being flaunted in front of me, lessening the emotional impact.
What's currently bothering me is their seriousness. It appears that they're doing all the things I had imagined us doing. I overheard the girl and her friend discussing how she's going to his house after school, and how she was nervous. I'm genuinely happy for them, but it's upsetting how I never had the chance to experience that with him.
I know he's been to her place because I saw them both on Snap map, and that, too, bothered me. It wasn't entirely unexpected, but when I witnessed it firsthand, it cut deep.
I'm struggling to understand why I haven't moved on after nearly two years. My feelings for him persist, and I suspect it's because of our close friendship. Even though I can't have him romantically, he remains a part of my daily life. We engage in playful banter and physical contact, making it challenging to move on because I know I'll never truly see him as just a friend.
Should I distance from him?
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Ps. Don’t get me wrong, I'm supportive of their relationship, but it hurts because he never considered me. I don't seek his affection, just feeling hurt for not having a chance. We're close, but I need space without making him feel like he's done something wrong. It's complicated due to our connection. I'm trying to create distance, but he initiates conversations.
He doesn’t know I still like him as I’ve been open to him about my love life and boyfriends I’ve had while I’ve liked him secretly.
He doesn’t know I still like him as I’ve been open to him about my love life and boyfriends I’ve had while I’ve liked him secretly.
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If u can't respect there relationship then yes u need to distance from him.
And I think it may be because of something else tbh weather ur clingy or what u talk about or how u r around him sometimes men don't even say what makes them uncomfortable.
He doesn’t know I still like him and I’m sure he think I’ve moved on because I’ve talked to a few guys during the period of still liking him and he’s been aware of me having a boyfriend and everything going on in my love life. Don’t get me wrong. Im seriously happy for him and her. I think it’s great he has found someone he likes. It’s just me who hasn’t moved on but I haven’t shown any interest at all and he’s always the first to talk to me.
Yes, I think I’ll distance from him but don’t forget the fact that we’re really close friends. I don’t want him thinking he did something wrong.
You kind of look like Alexa Demie anyway just went here to say that
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