Am I a "gold digger"?

[Anonymous]

So I was in a situationship with this guy for a year and half. His base salary was $1000 per day & my monthly salary was equivalent to $300(It's a lot in my country). He was an expat living in Africa (where I'm from). He was a good guy, communicated well and listened, and understood me. At some point last year, work really got hard for me, and I had anxiety. He suggested leaving work for a while and doing something I enjoyed, and I wanted to travel, so I spent 10 months traveling to new countries, which he planned & paid for. Then I started uni in Europe (London), which he paid for my year's tuition, literally a day after we ended things & decided to be friends. My friend says I'm a gold digger for letting him pay for stuff & I'm hurt she thinks of me like that. Never have I ever asked this man for any kind of material stuff or designer bags. The most expensive material thing I've gotten with his money is my laptop which costed $500. And he's the one who gave it to me when my old one broke. I've seen this man at his lowest , emotionally and mentally and he's seen me at my lowest too so I don't understand how I can possibly be a gold digger. Our first date was in a museum and wasn't anything fancy. I liked him cause he communicated well and understood me as a person and so did I.

[dynamicyandere]

No, he’s just generous.


There was no deceit.


Gold diggers deceive and that’s what makes them gold diggers.


Gold diggers make up lies to get money and lie about loving their boyfriend to get money out of him.


Gold diggers USE men for their money, in a deceitful way.


You were upfront the whole time. You did not lie. You did not deceive. He just helped you out financially, knowing full-well everything that’s going on.


You’re also not a sugar baby either, since you aren’t exchanging sexual favors or romance for money. (The difference between a sugar baby and a gold digger is that sugar babies are upfront about the transactional arrangement — no deceit, just business.)


So you’re neither a gold digger or a sugar baby. You’re just receiving help from a generous friend.

[ChiTown33]

I don't think so but I can see how some might. I think the key is you didn't ask (seemingly he volunteered it) you ever see the movie Spanglish? These funds are easier to come by for him then you and if he doesn't mind it then why should anyone? It's his money! But this is why people tend to date thier same education and income level. Because it's hard to maintain an equal relationships when both parties are not equal.

As long as you're not asking, he's volunteering what he can afford to. And as long as he's not holding it over you then it's fine.

[kylee2437]

Nope , he went out of his way to provide that for you and that was his decision.

[Anonymous]

Oh no sweetheart don't take your friend seriously you're not a gold digger at all..
Be positive. Keep smiling. 😘

[BoopBoopBeep]

Haters gonna hate.

[DreamGhosters]

Yess