Has consuming books/movies with slowburn romance also lowkey ruined people's expectations of love?

[Anonymous]

I said before that I was going to be making out with my friend. Well, I canceled it. I came across the sudden realization that I can't do stuff like that with people who I don't really like romantically. I can't just have sex for sex or kiss for kissing. I actually need to have a connection, and a strong one at that. I need to pine and yearn for you and to die a little over it before going to sleep, thinking about how badly I want you. It just seems so much better for my personal taste. Might mean that it takes me ages to find the right guy, but I would prefer it much more that way. Anyone else share this mindset for themselves? Reading books and watching movies with all these sweet, slowburn loves has definitely done a number on me lol.

[dynamicyandere]

You basically describe how hopeless romantics feel.


They need to have depth and connection and romance in their relationships.


Without that, relationships feel stiff, bland, and lifeless.


The best case scenario is that you find a fellow hopeless romantic that you fall in love with.


My fiancée and I both identify as hopeless romantics, and we found each other.


If you believe in the power and importance of love, you can look for someone who also believes in the power and importance of love.


Even if you don’t see it in the world around you, as long as the love that you seek exists within the hearts and minds of both of you, together, you can bring that love to life in your relationship — or at least as much as you two can, testing the limits.


You can create a little piece of heaven on earth in this garden you’re cultivating together called your relationship.


But it takes two people who both want that.


Love in reality will never be exactly as you read in books, because reality is imperfect, love can be painful, and life can get ugly.


But, with the right person, you can achieve something very close.


I wish you the best with your search. 🍀

[Anonymous]

For women, yes. But for men they know life is not a Disney fairytale. Men get rejected more so they are aware of the harsh reality of it. Hence a lot of guys don't approach women anymore.