Is it normal to now have a strong drive to get someone more attractive then she is?

[Anonymous]

So I’m autistic and the way that my ex girlfriend dumped me was so humiliating and demoralizing it was like on every level she considered herself superior to me and I have this non stop drive now to get a girl far more attractive then she was

[kylee2437]

That’s pretty hurtful to only want to be with someone to get back at your ex. I think you should really sit with your feelings and think things through before adding an innocent person into the equation

[Asker]

It’s not to get back at my ex it’s also to establish value in myself I already had low self esteem when I was with her and basically at the end of the relationship she made it seem like I was defective and unwanted. So it’s about proving to myself that I’m not destined to be alone the rest of my life

[kylee2437]

Yeah you still have a trash mindset because who is to say you will even like this next girl for who she is? Sounds like narcissism

[Asker]

I don’t think you would be calling me narcissistic if you seen the sheer amount of physical and mental abuse I was subjected to in my last relationship

[kylee2437]

Not interested in hearing your trauma dump, your current mindset is potentially abusive and flat out mean.

[Asker]

Also to address the liking this girl for who she is that’s honestly something that is hard wired into and really is the reason I went through this. I trust and give with my hole heart

[Sasha0426]

As long as you tell the other girl why you want to be with her.

[Asker]

Yeah I would want to be with her it’s about believing in myself again because she shattered what was left of my self image