Does ambition and determination make a woman more intimidating or attractive?

[Anonymous]

As the question says, does a woman who has ambitions and passions make her more attractive?

[Kythe]

Depends on the guy and the match. There are several factors involved.

My wife has always been ambitious, and is a very smart, strong, competent professional. I'm proud of her determination and ability; I suppose I think it also reflects well on us as a couple. The fact that I married her (and have been married more than 15 years) should be a pretty good indication that it can be very attractive.

I think a lot depends upon whether you also find the guy attractive and respect him for his accomplishments. Most people are probably turned off by a potential relationship if they aren't seen as bringing anything to the table themselves. So, it probably helps to find a good match with a self-confident mate who is also ambitious. And when you think about it, you probably wouldn't want anything else; you wouldn't be true to yourself otherwise.

One additional thing to consider: priorities matter. For anyone, male or female, to make a relationship work, putting ambition and determination (e. g. career goals) first and the relationship a distant second may be problematic (sort of a work/life balance thing). While ambition and determination can be part of what makes your relationship work, you still need to be willing to make time and space for each other outside of that, I think.

[Werewolfy]

Ambition is good. So is determination. But keep in mind how you focus them. A real man would never object to his girl having a successful career and be passionate about things in her life. It's quite a turn on (at least for me). The problem is being able to effectively manage your activties in such a way that they do not damage the relationship. There is nothing worse than being in a loving relationship with a wonderful woman who truly loves you and has no free time for you. I speak from personal experience. But to have a passionate and successful woman who turns into a purring kitten when in my arms is heaven as far as I'm concerned.

[Asker]

That makes sense, thank you for your input! Balance is definitely important in all aspects of our lives.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

Guys like girls who are pretty and fun to be around. Ambition and determination is probably a negative to losers and controlling guys. but for most guys it's a neutral (no effect) or a positive. Men typically don't care what kind of career a woman has, unless he is on a certain level and is looking for a wife who is on his status level (think upper class power couples). Guys also don't respect women who are going nowhere and doing nothing with their lives either. Basically ambition and determination are good qualities, but they aren't usually a main reason a guy will like u unless he's a gold digger

[incognito121]

I think that men find it attractive although I dont go on about my achievement or throw it in there face that iam better than them because I know who iam and what I have achieved so really that is only person who counts and if a man could not stand the fact that iam an independent woman who makes her own way in this world then I would say that is his problem.

[Asker]

I completely agree. If they can't stand the fact that you hold your own ambitions and you are responsible for your own success, that's their problem, not yours :)

[incognito121]

Exactly but like I say I don't throw it in there face and be like look at my qualifications list what do you have. But i do however make it clear i work hard to live a good life and im certainly not ashamed of this. If you have a problem that is your issue not mine. I think men find it more attractive because there are the type of women who expect there man to provide and look after them were i dont i work for what I want and dont expect anything from anyone.

[LastoftheFamous]

I agree with you Incognito that it's never acceptable to boast and put someone down, you're right but at the same time I don't think it's right for a woman to downplay her achievements.

There's nothing wrong with showing pride and being proud to be a self-sufficient person that doesn't need anyone and it would make me more secure in a relationship knowing that I am genuinely wanted and not needed by the woman.

[incognito121]

Exactly see men like that a woman can make her own way in the world... not that it matters because people can think what they want about me as long as im happy and the other is happy then what everyone else is saying is just background noise in my eyes and people go on action not words so this background noise is irrelevant haha I also think I have too much too say that is all for now haha

[kittykatg]

That's why my fiancé is marrying me. I inspire him to be more ambitious himself.

[srslyly]

Neither of those attributes are things I would specifically desire in a woman. I would say it's equally as much a turn off for a woman to be power hungry or work addicted as it would be for her to have no inner life or personal interests. I suppose, to me, moderation looks good on a woman.

[Alessus]

Does depend on how far she is willing to go for her ambitions. If she does something that I think goes too far, then it's a negative. If not, then it's meh for me. Determination on the other hand, I think is great.

[Asker]

What would you consider as going too far?

[Alessus]

If she uses criminal or otherwise tactics I find underhanded, like trying to use sexual favors to further her career. Stuff like that.

[Asker]

I see, that's very reasonable :)

[sexyasianboi26]

No I don't find that attractive at all. It tells me she's not gonna be supportive. Where will she be when I need her by my side?
Being supportive the way a guy wants is one of the secret key traits men want in women.

[molan]

Ambition and determination are masculine charters, I wound say intimidating but not attractive either.

I'll say good or bad, depends on how it's carried out.

[Anonymous]

People who have no ambition or determination themselves might find it intimidating, Other people will find it attractive!

[Suspected]

Exactly my thought.

[Opinion Owner]

That's why you get on with some people in life, and others you don't. Losers always resent you for success! lol

[lordAlex818]

If the passions are very time-consuming, it could be kind of annoying. Otherwise, it doesn't affect attractiveness to me.

[Anonymous]

"Intimidating" is a kind word people use for a girl acting like a snobbish cunt.

Ambition and determination are very, very attractive. Just don't mix in "intimidating."

[front2back]

Yeah, much better than a woman going nowhere in life.

[kartoos]

It's very attractive unless she doesn't bring me down telling me that she is better than me..

[ThatGuy98]

Of course, I'm very ambitious myself and I would really appreciate that in my partner as well! :)

[ThatGuy98]

Woops read the question a bit wrong, I meant that it was attractive!

[Anonymous]

No if a guy does not like you it probably will be because he finds you physically unattractive or you have a shirt personality or cause too much drama

[LastoftheFamous]

It makes her so much more attractive to me.

[incognito121]

See this guy gets it!!!

[LastoftheFamous]

Thanks. :)

[dakraziest]

definitely attractive

[JackKerouac77]

Yes, to me. But I also like a free spirit.

[AlwaysBelieving]

More attractive to me

[Words_and_Wisdom]

It's MUCH more attractive for me.

[Anonymous]

Personaly no but it's better than lazy women

[PlayboyRJ]

If she is beautiful

[incognito121]

If she is beautiful what does how someone looks have to do with it?

[PlayboyRJ]

if she is beautiful plus ambitious then she would be more attractive for me

[Asker]

What if she had a big heart and her passion lied in helping the disadvantaged?

[PlayboyRJ]

Then I would marry her