Is it a bad thing to want a physically attractive partner and value physical attraction?

[HawkPerception]

Yes

No

[Finchie40]

It’s only bad if that’s the only reason you are both together , attraction is a great thing as long as you both have amazing chemistry and connection together , I wouldn’t be in a relationship with a girl just cuz she looks beautiful to my eyes , it takes more than looks for me to even consider a relationship with a girl. People that get together just because of attraction are dumb because you both truly don’t love each other , you are both just putting on a show , acting like you both actually love each other when you don’t . That relationship will more than likely not last the long haul , because one of them is more than likely going to cheat on the other , when they eventually meet someone they actually have chemistry and connection with. I have witnessed this happening plenty of times. They are only with each other for status not love. Fuck Status , Status means absolute shit , cuz no one else really gives a fuck whatsoever , They will just assume you both are idiots by acting like your shit doesn’t stink , Trust me your shit stinks.

[MicahRaine]

Physical attraction is absolutely something that should be valued in a relationship. It's not the "end all" though.

[TheRealPepperPotts]

No. I venture to say it's essential to feel attraction at some point, even if it's not immediate. Some people aren't going to grab our attention right away, but over time we may find them incredibly attractive.

I wouldn't dismiss someone over not being my ideal attraction-wise at first glance, but there are limits to what I'd personally consider, and I don't think the bar is that high, either.

[petitedollbabee]

Yes, if it is the only thing that your relationship is built on. If you’re only with your partner for their appearance rather than anything deeper, the relationship won’t last and you’ll leave them for someone else later down the track. Looks fade eventually.

[HawkPerception]

Valuing physical attraction does not mean not valuing other factors.

[HawkPerception]

This is not a question about personality.

[petitedollbabee]

Then no, there’s nothing wrong with valuing physical attraction. We all do to a certain extent.

[petitedollbabee]

@TatesGirl62 I don’t know what kind of dating apps you’re using where there’s no profile bio’s, but that’s what I focus on rather than their photos.

[petitedollbabee]

@TatesGirl62 You said that “you know nothing about them accept for their appearance”, and im saying that I focus on a bio which tells me about the person rather than focusing on their appearance, so what else could you have meant? Please enlighten me.

[petitedollbabee]

@TatesGirl62 Lol. Get off your fake pink account and go back to your blue one, dude.

[OlderAndWiser]

There are four requirements for a successful long term relationship. Love, respect, and trust are essential but lust is also a must!

[DishLady]

No, as long as that’s not the ONLY or primary criterion.

[Purpleronnie]

People can WANT “whatever” , but life / our society / our world doesn’t provide based on WANT does it. …. Unless of course you have lots of what makes our world work sadly ! 💰


There is nothing wrong with wanting an attractive partner , even though it’s completely subjective , but your chance of success increase exponentially depending on what you have and are willing to offer and sacrifice in the pursuit of that particular trophy assuming your punching above your weight. This seems to be complicated further these days with some women having an over inflated sense of their value. Those women seem to think because they have a pussy they automatically get any man they want !


Additionally , is there a trade off? Do they have the “look” at the expense of a personality because theynever had to develop one? Or maybe they are a massive flirt and love getting attention from the opposite sex? Maybe their whole sense of “self worth” is wrapped up in how appealing they are to the opposite / same sex?


Beauty is subjective and looks fade. Who a woman is and what she adds to our lives means significantly more to me than how she scores on the physical attractiveness scale.

[beaves11]

Dude this is cynical. Leagues don’t exist. No one should ever date someone they don’t find good looking.

[Purpleronnie]

I agree , no one should date someone they don’t find attractive. Attractiveness isn’t binary though is it … there is a scale or spectrum. “She is stunning , yeah you’re right nah , she is not that attractive “ and it’s subjective to each person. But enough of the psychology. Let’s take dating apps , these apps are built upon algorithms that match people’s attractiveness ( the gale-Shapley algorithm) .. that’s the mathematical approach which was in some way inspired by “ the matching hypothesis “. … leaving science and maths to the side let’s look at the data dating apps also provide when people attempt to date “aspirationally “ over 90% of those attempts are rejected without them even meeting.

[Purpleronnie]

So yeah … beleive whatever you want … there are studies that agree with both of us and our own experiences may differ which may explain the difference … maybe I am cynical but I can be wrong can I

[4ngelic]

for caring about physical attraction, no. everyone cares. you'd be weird not to care. no one falls just for a personality, there needs to be a minimum of looks there. though for wanting someone who is actually hot, and not just a bit cute or average but fuckable, it's perfectly okay if you are at least a bit hot yourself. but if you're not, it's unreasonable

[Evidently1]

There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting a physically attractive partner, and it goes both ways.

[msc545]

It's not a bad thing, but it sometimes can be very impractical. There are some downsides to being very physically attractive and if you get involved with somebody who really is that way you typically find out exactly what those things are for that person. You may not like them.

[GallopAcrossEurope]

No. BUT... focusing on those too much will limit your options, and may lock oit someone you might actually like more. If all I valued was physical attraction, then I wouldn't be with my amazing girlfriend right now.

[Zack-Bann]

Considering attraction is subjective I would say not only is not a bad thing, it’s also far more honest in the long run


Settling for someone you’re not physically attracted to means you’ll always wonder about the road no taken

[Apple1996]

Personally it's bad for me.. i wouldn't be with someone who cared about looks. For others they can decide that themselves if being with someone shallow doesn't bother them then it's fine

[Apple1996]

@TatesGirl62 i wouldn't go on dating apps lol

[Apple1996]

@TatesGirl62 sure but for me I wouldn't do that. I approached my husband because I liked his voice/attitude. I did not see what he looked like because he was behind me so I turned around and asked him out without knowing his looks

[Apple1996]

@TatesGirl62 nah i litterally couldn't see what he looked liked

[Apple1996]

@TatesGirl62 nope that's honestly how it went down. I do not place value on looks

[aquamarine321]

If someone isn't attracted to you that relationship will not work, and vis Versa

[NicholasRedone]

Whoops sorry I meant to vote No it's not bad. Sigh. I clicked too eagerly.

Anyways I think everyone wants to have beauty 😍

[Chthou95]

No its very normal and most human beings care about looks

[exitseven]

No, relatiionships can be based on many things. Physical attraction is definitely on to the top two or 3 reasons.

[beaves11]

If a girl isn’t good looking to me at first glance there is no chance at me getting with her.

[Dela_99]

Its not bad but its just shallow cause these things don’t last anyway…

[HawkPerception]

How is it shallow if you also value other aspects? Just because you value physical attractiveness does not mean you don't value others.

[Dela_99]

Yeah but why do u value an aspect that won’t last? And how much do u value it? When this aspect disappears due to age or time or whatever what happens to that dearly valued aspect?

[Dela_99]

@tatesgirl62 well dating apps are absolutely shallow so that’s a perfect example

[MikeRJ]

If that is all you desire, you will ultimately be disappointed,

[Dongie]

Heck no! Fine mamas need lovin too!!

[Plugs]

If u are a tall handsome man , no

[WhiteBoyChill]

So why aren’t ugly or average men allowed to have opinions?